I'm having a mini-breakdown tonight.

Jerseygirl16 · June 2009

DH works almost 2 hours from home (at least until we can sell our house and move). His hours are 9am to 6pm. To avoid traffic he leaves here by 6am every morning and gets there by 8am at the latest. So he's already doing an extra hour every morning. When he first started he was really good about getting out a little before 6pm if he could but definitely not later. The last couple of weeks it's gotten progressively later. He has always had problems delegating and never turns any of his employees away so I'm sure he's tending to a million things right now. He just called and is still at his desk. Even if he leaves soon it will be 9pm before he gets home.

I'm tired and cranky. My 3 year old has been in a mood all night and my 1 year old only just finally let me put her down after a couple hours of insisting she be held.

I know he's working hard for us but I just want him to leave on time.

vmm0016 · June 2009

This sounds like every Friday at my friends house. Her DH is working two jobs and she works a PT job but every Friday he works both jobs so she has the kids all day 6am-10pm with no help. I am so sorry. I wish there was something I could say to make it better.

RickeyandDani · June 2009

I take it you are a SAHM? You definitely have your hands full. Unfortunately when one person is providing for this many people and you have another one on the way, you are just going to have to dig deep and find the strength to deal with it. Your DH might be working his butt off for reasons that will benefit your family in the long run. You are truly blessed to have a man who is willing to drive 2 hours just for a job!!!!!!!! Count your blessings when you feel down!

Nancy6306 · June 2009

I feel your pain. DH works nights in a busy ER and sleeps during the day so I feel that he is unavailable to help me out. ?I think sometimes they forget that we need a break. I'm up before 7am and don't usually go to bed until 3+ hours after I put the girls to bed (we have a 7 and 2 year old) just getting things done, taking a shower, and unwinding. Remind your DH that he has a wife and children at home that needs to take care...he is doing it financially but he cannot be emotionally tuned out to the other needs of the family.

Jerseygirl16 · June 2009

Thanks ladies. It wasn't so bad before I was pregnant on top of everything. I am a SAHM and having the girls all day on my own is fine but adding the exhaustion of the first trimester to it is hard.

I am blessed he is willing to drive that much for this job and once we sell and move closer things will be SO much easier. Then he'll be right around the corner from work and can even come home at lunch.

He is emotionally supportive. He's great. It's just that it's a new job (same company but new position after his old one in state was eliminated) and he's trying to make a good impression. And like I said he's never been one to push any work off on anyone else. He manages a call center so if his employees come to him with questions or problems at 6pm he's never going to say he has to leave he's going to help them no matter how long it takes.

I'm just having an extra rough night and wish feel like they would understand if he said he had to leave at 6pm. Everyone knows the ride he has.

schen0510 · June 2009

My DH is currently traveling for work. He gets picked up by the car services every Monday morning at 4:30 to catch a 6:30 flight to Boston. He usually gets in around 8 p.m. on Friday nights. He has been doing this for the last 3 weeks and he apparently has at least another month to go. It is completely killing me. I am working full time as well and the last thing I want to do when I get home is cook dinner for myself and take care of the chores that we would usually split during the week. I am so tired and many nights I either don't get to talk to him because he is working late or we only get to speak for a couple of minutes. Many times, he has woken me up just to say good night. It stinks! I completely understand!

Jule_Z · June 2009

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I hope your house sells soon so that you can move and your husband's commute can be shortened.

Jerseygirl16 · June 2009

Thanks for listening (and showing me others have it worse than I do!). He called a few minutes ago and is on his way. And I just put the one year old to bed. I feel better now.

getnmarried910 · June 2009

I can feel your pain! My DH works full time during the day and part time 2-5 nights a week (usually 4) and sometimes it really gets to me. I know he's doing it for our family, and I am very grateful, but sometimes I just need a break and I rarely get it, and the days he works both jobs (or has late shift at his full-time job like today) are the days that are the hardest at home with the kids.

I'm sorry he's going to be so late. =(

xnbride · June 2009

we were in a similar situation or a while and just couldn't handle the stress. We decided to move closer to his work so we rented our house (room by room to some well mannered college students who take relatively good care of it) and then we are renting up here and looking into home loans right now so that we can purchase another home. We don't quite make our mortgage but our rent here is super cheap so that helps to offset it and then we get alot of tax right offs etc. from having a rental.

So far so good. I can relate to what you are going through and no it is not easy at all. I hope you guys will be closer to his work really soon. Hang in there and BIG HUGS.

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