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Moving out of your home town?

SMJ1225SMJ1225
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I have always lived in the same state that I was born in. My entire family lives here (except for my brother who is on the west coast). Recently my DH and I have been talking about moving out of state and exploring other parts of the country. I have no problem with this and think it will be exciting but of course I have a few reservations about it. First, I have no idea how we'll choose where we want to go since pretty much everyone we know is here. Plus, I would feel guilty leaving my family especially with our DD and hopefully more kids in the future. So for those of you who don't live in the same state as the rest of your family: how/why did you make the decision to leave and why did you choose the state you did? Do you regret not being around your family? Thanks!
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  • ironmommyironmommy

    I moved out of state right out of college. I didn't think a thing of leaving my entire family to move to San Francisco with my then BF (now DH). Once I was there, however, I realized just how important my family was and I missed them like crazy. It took a lot of campaigning for me to get DH to move back to Arizona.

    That said, getting out of where you grew up is eye-opening. I'm so glad we had those six years in another part of the country. It made me appreciate Arizona a lot more (even though I loved living in CA).

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  • ToosdaiToosdai member

    I live in Maryland, too. :)

    I left my hometown for college and basically never went back but when I do go back, it's like I never left.

    Now that I have Morgan, it's a little harder to be so far away. Everyone doesn't get to see her on a daily basis so I try to keep her blog up to date and we use the webcam when we can.

    The upside to being away from family is that it has allowed me to become the independent person that I am today. I don't regret it at all.

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  • violetblue72violetblue72

    Okay, not exactly the perspective you were looking for but here's a different spin... my family moved out of state when I was in middle school due to my dad's job.  I absolutely hated having to move but love where we live now as an adult.  To relate back to your question... I have seriously missed not having aunts, cousins, grandparents, etc. living close by and honestly have always been jealous of people who have families they see all the time. 

    Granted, my parents still love close and my sister/her family but I've always missed having a large extended family in the area.  I have had a few opportunities to move out of state but have chosen not to because I like being around what family I do have here.  I still may one day because I would love to live in a different part of the country but it would have to be for  a very good reason.

    But... you have to be happy too.  I guess think about how often you actually spend time with family and whether or not it would be easy/can you afford to travel and visit when you want to see them... or if they would be able to come and visit you. 

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  • SMJ1225SMJ1225

    So we're both in Maryland and we both have a Morgan!

    I'm born and raised in Maryland and while it's nice, I would like to get out and see what else is out there. DH's family is here too however he is not especially close to them and would have no problem leaving so really the only bit of hesitation is coming from me. I'm also one of those people who doesn't like change so I'm sure that's not helping either!

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  • raceyraeraceyrae
    I left my home state after college for graduate school and haven't lived back there since.  I have lived in 5 states since.  We moved to this location a year and a half ago for DH's job.  I've loved the places I've lived and the experiences I had.  I wouldn't change that at all.  Now that we do have DD and another on the way, I do wish we lived somewhat closer to family, although I'm not sure I'd actually ever move back.  I like where we live so mcuh more.
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  • skittles_123skittles_123 member

    I am probably not the right person to respond, but my dh and I have discussed this before. We both were born and grew up in the same area and we still live her with our two dc. All of our family is here except my dh's sister's family and my older half brothers family. We rely on our family so much for back up child care, help with transporting our ds to therapy, etc etc, that right now, since both my dh and I work, would make it almost impossible for us to do this in another area. . .

    Yet, come holiday time, having all 4 sets of grandparents (yes 4, both our parents are divorced, all but one is remarried), in one town, who all want to see us and the kids on that day, and adding their naps in, is a daunting and impossible task.

     And having someone be mad at us because we didn't see them on that said holiday is so totally stressful. No matter how many times we explain to them our situation, and the expectations are still there (mainly my annoying mil), they still don't get it, and we have been married for over 6 years. I wish we could get away from that.

    So, what I would recommend is thinking about how much you depend on your family to help with day to day issues and how you could manage without them.

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  • SammyluvsJSammyluvsJ
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    I am probably not the right person to respond, but my dh and I have discussed this before. We both were born and grew up in the same area and we still live her with our two dc. All of our family is here except my dh's sister's family and my older half brothers family. We rely on our family so much for back up child care, help with transporting our ds to therapy, etc etc, that right now, since both my dh and I work, would make it almost impossible for us to do this in another area. . .

    Yet, come holiday time, having all 4 sets of grandparents (yes 4, both our parents are divorced, all but one is remarried), in one town, who all want to see us and the kids on that day, and adding their naps in, is a daunting and impossible task.

     And having someone be mad at us because we didn't see them on that said holiday is so totally stressful. No matter how many times we explain to them our situation, and the expectations are still there (mainly my annoying mil), they still don't get it, and we have been married for over 6 years. I wish we could get away from that.

    So, what I would recommend is thinking about how much you depend on your family to help with day to day issues and how you could manage without them.

    I feel like I wrote your post..holidays are not even enjoyable because of this...it was much easier when we were farther away!

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  • JillAlyJillAly member

    There are pluses and minuses to any move.  It doesn't have to be forever either.  Go and take the plunge.  If you hate it, you can always move back to Maryland. 

    My dh and I are tired of the very high prices for everything in NY and raising a child here is insane with competition starting over pre-schools!  My whole family is here but I have a sister who lives on the west coast and we've been talking about moving there.  It's hard leaving everything you own and everything you know, but it's also an adverture trying something new.  At least that's what I keep telling dh!

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