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Let SIL be your OB/GYN?

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Would you have your SIL be your OB/GYN? 

My husband's brother's girlfriend (who will be his wife one of these days) is in med school to be an ob/gyn.  She's not gonna be done with school for a few years, so it's not like she could be my dr now - but I just don't think I could ever let her look up my skirt.  If I'm pg at some point when she's working in a practice I'd love the extra attention (doppler, u/s) she would offer, but the thought of her digging around up there makes me squirm.  My mom thinks I'm totally weird about this - after all I've let perfect strangers poke around.  <----and by that I mean doctors :p

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  • KalsbabymamaKalsbabymama
    There is no way.
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  • blondie42107blondie42107 member

    Doctors are different than family.  I would be weirded out - just me!


     
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  • BlairWaldorfBlairWaldorf member
    No, simply because I think patient privacy would be at risk.  The lines between patient & family can get very blurry.
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  • BrongemongerBrongemonger member
    HELL NO!!!! Ewwwww
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  • JessimurphJessimurph member
    That's a doosy...I'm not sure.  I don't think I could have an OB/GYN that I had to see on Christmas and other holidays.  Maybe she'll work with other doctors in a practice so you can go to her office but not see her.
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  • idkmybffk8idkmybffk8 member
    Oh hells no
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  • yogisunamyogisunam member
    I wouldn't let her be my regular OB/GYN, but I would accept free u/s's and doppler check from her. It would just be too weird if something went funny and I'd be worried that she'd tell my brother.
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  • Megan.10.06Megan.10.06
    That creeps me out at first, but then I thought about it.  I wouldn't have her as my regular gyn.

    Buuut, I would probably have her as my OB.  She might hate it, but it's easier to get a hold of her with questions!  Plus you'd never have to wait on reports, blah blah blah. :)

    After that, I probably wouldn't care about the yearly's, since she's seen everything already.
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  • WriterChick24WriterChick24

    Hell I've let strangers poke around who weren't doctors :)

    I have to agree with Blair, the patient-doctor confidentiality thing could be compromised on some level. Not questioning your SIL's ethics, just saying it would put her in an awkward position if ever there was something you didn't want your family to know.

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  • heather_09_15_07heather_09_15_07 member
    Nope, that should be a professional relationship. My uncle is a neurologist and I wouldn't go to him, even though he's great.
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  • CarrieLizCarrieLiz member

    she's going to make the most amazing doctor and i don't think for one second that she'd tell my BIL or MIL (she's a private person in general), but i do think it would be weird to open christmas presents with someone who has seen the goods (besides DH of course).

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  • bexiebexie
    No, not for non-emergencies (like, delivering the baby on the living room floor for example).  It's just, as pp said, too blurry of a line. 
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  • CarrieLizCarrieLiz member

    but then i stop and think of how special it would be to have my SIL deliver her niece/nephew. 

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  • idkmybffk8idkmybffk8 member
    However... I am pretty sure she can't be your doctor. Because I know my mother/uncle/aunt/cousins (who are all nurse anesthetists) can't administer any anesthesia to me. 
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  • peteysweetiepeteysweetie
    I have a friend whose sisterbecame her OB/GYN once she became pregnant and she said she wouldn't have it any other way. She said it was weird at first but her sister remained professional so after the first internal exam it wasn't weird any more.
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  • MonkeybuttwhatMonkeybuttwhat
    No but SIL scares me
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  • AJplusKevAJplusKev
    adding to K8's response: ...and my mom can't give me eye exams. It's kind of like people who have relatives that work for a company can't enter to win contests for that company. There's a line to draw between family and professional. This is it, IMO.
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  • grounhogswifeygrounhogswifey

    If my SIL were the last OB/GYN on Earth, I still wouldn't go to her. 

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  • jmmsgirljmmsgirl
    There is no specific law/rule anything that says you can't be the physician to your family but most Drs don't like to treat members of their family. It adds a lot more stress, confidentiality aside.
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  • armandos_girlarmandos_girl member
    I would go to other docs in her practice, but wouldn't have her as my doc.

    There is a nestie on here who's dad is a ob/gyn, but I can't remember who....
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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    no way
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  • dleigh2020dleigh2020 member
    No way. Too weird.
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  • Pea PodPea Pod
    I would def make her my OBGYN... she would take more care for than any doctor ever would because you are family and your child would related to her.... she would be a perfect choice of a doctor... IMO!
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  • war_eaglewar_eagle
    A good friend of mine plans to use her SIL as her obgyn. I've taken advantage and emailed her some questions to ask her SIL while I'm in between doctors. The exam part would be weird, but I'd love to have someone that I felt comfortable asking them anything, and calling them at any time.
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  • AlligatorAlligator
    My sister's MIL goes to her daughter's husband's father. He is the only OB/GYN in their small town. That's too weird for me. She did go to him before they even started dating, but still. Christmas would be uncomfortable!
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  • scherzascherza
    No.

    One of my good friends is an OB/GYN and I wouldn't use her as my physician.  She's a great doctor and her patients are lucky to have her, but I think it's better to have some distance between your professional and personal lives on both sides.

    Also, I disagree with the posters who said that it would be great because you could call her up and ask her questions any time.  As a teacher, I don't like it when my students' parents come up to me at football games or plays or in the grocery store and want to have an impromptu conference about their children.  I think it would be rough for a doctor to have to feel "on call" to a family member 24/7.
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  • erbearerbear member

    I don't think so.

    Though i did let my sister do a vaginal ultrasound...but we really wanted to see a heartbeat before we told out parents.

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