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Catholic girls - baptism question

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DH is Catholic.  I am Methodist.  We are getting a late start on the baptism issue, but from everything I've been able to find, if you are baptized Catholic, you are a member of the church.  Am I correct on this?  We are leaning towards having DS baptized in our the Methodist church because we want him to be able to choose whatever he wishes to follow down the road.  DH is, of course, dragging his feet and won't pick up the phone and call Surprise  Thanks!

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  • tnkrbl21tnkrbl21
    I'm catholic and DH is protestant and we are baptizing them at his church.  Neither one of us are particularly religious so it didn't matter to either one of us which direction we went - though the catholic church gave us a little bit of an issue about DH's borther (also protestant) being a godfather. 
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  • JGirl2005JGirl2005 member

    Not necessarily....member doesn't mean baptized

    I think they either the following:

    1)  must be a member of the church - in good standing (going on a regular basis).  I am not great at going, but had to attend my church for 3months before being able to baptise - i was new to that church - but baptised in a different church.

    2).  to baptize parents don't need to both be catholic....don't need to have been married in catholic church (DH and I were not).  one should be catholic (baptized and confirmed)

    3)  stricter with godparents (usually they like them married in catholic church, but this is kinda more flexible from what I hear), but godparents need to take classes and be catholic (baptised, and confirmation, etc).  stricter than parents

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  • JGirl2005JGirl2005 member

    as pp said, they are strict with the godparents...

    if they are not catholic (baptized and confirmed) they cannot be a 'godfather/godmother', could be a CHRISTIAN WITNESS though.

     Parents also have to take classes - both parents usually....

    Most go with the 'mom's' religion.

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  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12

    My mom was raised Catholic and my dad was Lutheran. When i was born, my parents decided to baptize me Lutheran. My mom told me that she was not comfortable with raising me in the catholic church. She also said since my dad's family was not catholic that the church had a hard time with it.

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    imagemrsolsenk12:

    My mom was raised Catholic and my dad was Lutheran. When i was born, my parents decided to baptize me Lutheran. My mom told me that she was not comfortable with raising me in the catholic church. She also said since my dad's family was not catholic that the church had a hard time with it.

    I think this isn't hte case anymore....my DH was raised with 'all' religions (he was baptist, born again maybe, methodist, lutheran, not sure what else) and it was ok to baptize our DS as catholic.  Not all ppl, go with the mom's relgion, but a lot do....no matter what the religion.

    The interesting thing is that in catholic classes (for baptism) they said that kids follow what the DAD does - if dad goes to church, then child will think there is value.  think there is some truth here...as DH is like his dad - they don't like church. (but I guess his brother is more like his mom).

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  • hclavalleyhclavalley

    We were assured when going through the baptism class that it baptism in the catholic church didn't mean that you had to raise them in the catholic church.  A baptism is a baptism. 

    We did however have to have at least one Catholic godparent.  Both of ours were raised catholic, but non-practicing.

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  • rispergirlrispergirl

    Catholics recognize "one baptism for the forgiveness of sins."  So, if you were baptized as, say, a Methodist, and you wanted to become a Catholic, you wouldn't need to be baptized in the Catholic church.  A baptism is a baptism to them. 

    That said, asking a Catholic church to baptize your child is asking them to accept him/her into their community and promising to raise them in the church.  I'm not sure what the Methodist stance is on that, but I think if you don't intend to raise your child Catholic, it's pretty unethical/disrespectful to stand on the altar and promise that you will.  So, in that case, I'd probably lean toward a Protestant baptism.

    Good luck and, either way, God bless.

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