Do you really make your DH ...

AJluvsLI · June 2009

...sleep on the couch when you get in a fight?

Alicias post had me thinking. I've always tried to have DH and I work things out because not sleeping in the same bed together is a big deal for me. I thought the couch sentence was just something they did in TV shows.

rnbride18 · June 2009

we always try to work it out...we try never to go to bed angry with each other, and I have never made him sleep on the couch that I can recall:)

LaPrincessa · June 2009

I don't have to worry about that so much. I am starting to feel like he doesn't find his pregnant wife attractive so he just "volunteers" to sleep on the couch. I tell you sometimes men need to be strangled...sorry.

orleyl · June 2009

I never make him sleep on the couch, sometimes when we fight I sleep on the couch bc I am so mad at him and fall asleep watching tv but then I wake up in the middle of the night and go to bed. If I told him to sleep on the couch, he wouldnt and he is right. Its our bed.

neonvicki81 · June 2009

DH and I have never really had a big fight...I might say something that annoys him or vice versa, but we always talk about it. He's really good at listening or waiting for me to come out with what I have to say. I usually tear up, take a few minutes to figure out what I want to say, then I say it. I'm just really lucky.

AliciaSpring · June 2009

I don't, but if he falls asleep on the couch I will not be getting him up tonight. Some people do though.

Lucky428 · June 2009

It happens maybe twice a year. We'll get in a big fight and I go into the bedroom. He stays out in the family room and just falls asleep out there.

JennRN65 · June 2009

orleyl:
I never make him sleep on the couch, sometimes when we fight I sleep on the couch bc I am so mad at him and fall asleep watching tv but then I wake up in the middle of the night and go to bed. If I told him to sleep on the couch, he wouldnt and he is right. Its our bed.

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young-mommy2B · June 2009

nope we always sleep together. Unless he is snoring too loud then sometimes he will sleep in the guest room.

jhelly77 · June 2009

No never. Actually when we got married I had to convince him to sleep in the bed because during his bachelor days he always slept on the couch. So really when I think about it, that wouldn't be much punishment at all.

AJluvsLI · June 2009

AliciaSpring:
I don't, but if he falls asleep on the couch I will not be getting him up tonight. Some people do though.

Yeah, especially if he's drunk! I wouldn't move him either. But I think that's different.

realisticdreams · June 2009

As many horrible fights we have had, neither of us have ever slept on the couch. That's not to say its resolved before we go to be in the least bit though. We had a really bad fight since I've been pregnant and he went out to the couch...came back about 45 mins later and said, "i pay bills too i'm sleep in the bed"

I replied, "i dont give a F where you sleep just let me go to sleep"

We are good at not touching each other at all in our bed lol.

wingsfan524 · June 2009

I never make him sleep on the couch but we have different hours. He doesn't come to bed until 4am or so. We try to work it out but in all honesty it doesn't always happen.

AJluvsLI · June 2009

LaPrincessa:
I don't have to worry about that so much. I am starting to feel like he doesn't find his pregnant wife attractive so he just "volunteers" to sleep on the couch. I tell you sometimes men need to be strangled...sorry.

Aww I'm sorry I'm sure that's not true he's probably just trying to give you space or something.

jrnewhook · June 2009

My DH refuses to sleep on the couch. He sees the bed as his place just as much as it is mine. I've been nicely told before that if I don't want to sleep with him for whatever reason I am more than welcome to help myself to the couch Smile

I've accepted this over the years. We both agreed however, that if he's out drinking without me and comes home drunk he's expected to sleep on the couch (or futon) if it bothers me (if for some reason he drank too much and is sick or especially now that I'm preggers, if I can't stand the smell of it on him).

cahill126 · June 2009

I've tried. ?But he's usually more level headed than I am so I go to the guest room ( i like that bed more anyway) but he always ends up walking in there and physically puts me back in our bed. ?No matter how angry I am with him that usually solves it.. ?Knowing he really cares about me enough to come and get me.

AJluvsLI · June 2009

realisticdreams:
As many horrible fights we have had, neither of us have ever slept on the couch. That's not to say its resolved before we go to be in the least bit though. We had a really bad fight since I've been pregnant and he went out to the couch...came back about 45 mins later and said, "i pay bills too i'm sleep in the bed"
I replied, "i dont give a F where you sleep just let me go to sleep"
We are good at not touching each other at all in our bed lol.

This is a lot how me and DH are. It's a big deal to me that we both sleep in the same bed but if an argument isn't resolved he stays on the condition that i can't touch him until some time passes and he gets over it.

I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that he doesn't want to have sex with me if he's mad at me and if I start touching him-even in just a cuddly way it's inevitable

LaPrincessa · June 2009

I guess so but I just rather him sit down and talk to me. It just gets so frustrating when you are trying to explain to them what is going on with you but all they can do is blame it on the hormones. I mean seriously can I have the penis and him the vagina?

AJluvsLI · June 2009

amorris2@harding.edu:
I've tried. But he's usually more level headed than I am so I go to the guest room ( i like that bed more anyway) but he always ends up walking in there and physically puts me back in our bed. No matter how angry I am with him that usually solves it.. Knowing he really cares about me enough to come and get me.

That's cute!

Jessie0706 · June 2009

I inadvertently made him sleep on the couch... I guess my pregnancy snoring was too loud for him that I woke up in the middle of the night to find him sleeping on the couch... Hehe! Oopsie!

AliciaSpring · June 2009

realisticdreams:

As many horrible fights we have had, neither of us have ever slept on the couch. That's not to say its resolved before we go to be in the least bit though. We had a really bad fight since I've been pregnant and he went out to the couch...came back about 45 mins later and said, "i pay bills too i'm sleep in the bed"

I replied, "i dont give a F where you sleep just let me go to sleep"

We are good at not touching each other at all in our bed lol.

This is me too! the only time he sleeps on the couch is when he passes out when he is drunk and was being an a-hole.

MarcyIam · June 2009

young-mommy2B:
nope we always sleep together. Unless he is snoring too loud then sometimes he will sleep in the guest room.

Us, too - right down to the snoring. ;-)

benifer224 · June 2009

I have never had my Dh sleep on the couch this is as much his house as mine.

mrsstocking · June 2009

i think once in the two years we've shared a house has DH ended up sleeping on the couch after a fight (not that he hasn't went there other times when he has trouble going to sleep) and it wasn't because I said go to the couch, it's where we were arguing, I went to bed he stayed in there....and we weren't even really still fighting because we don't separate until it's mostly resolved (i have issues with leaving mad..regarding a death)

we do have friends who tell each other to go sleep on the couch when they're mad..and they do it...i can't understand it!

iowagirl73 · June 2009

No, but if I was pissed off enough I would sleep elsewhere.

kellimadson · June 2009

We always joke about it if we have a disagreement. I'm usually the one that sleeps on the couch because I fall asleep there and am too lazy to walk up two flights of stairs to go to bed. DH ends up waking me up and making me come to bed.

Abinormal · June 2009

We have a really comfortable couch and my DH will sometimes fall asleep on the couch. I really like for us to sleep together since he is a firefighter who works 24 hour shifts and so I already have to sleep by myself several nights a week. If I made him sleep on the couch he would probably see it as a reward and not a punishment.

KRIST4N · June 2009

benifer224:
I have never had my Dh sleep on the couch this is as much his house as mine.?

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This....we always sleep together.?

purple_posies · June 2009

AJluvsLI:
...sleep on the couch when you get in a fight?
Alicias post had me thinking. I've always tried to have DH and I work things out because not sleeping in the same bed together is a big deal for me. I thought the couch sentence was just something they did in TV shows.

I've never made DH sleep on the couch bc of a fight. I've gone down to sleep there, and he fell asleep not realizing I'd left (lol). But we always work stuff out before sleep. It's a big deal for me, too.

The only time we've slept separately is if he was snoring and I was having trouble sleeping, I'd go downstairs or he'd tell me to wake him up so he could go downstairs.

ladyalmalthea · June 2009

LaPrincessa:
I don't have to worry about that so much. I am starting to feel like he doesn't find his pregnant wife attractive so he just "volunteers" to sleep on the couch. I tell you sometimes men need to be strangled...sorry.

Mine did that a lot when I was tossing alot on my sleep (before my Snoogle). It was because he felt I needed good quality sleep, and wanted to give me lots of room. Made me feel bad, cause he was on the couch, but it was also sweet.

If it's bothering you, tell him... I had to because I was also feeling a little rejected.

userdeleted · June 2009

Absolutely not.

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