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"Open House" after baby's born??
So my SO went to breakfast at my future IL's.
She brought up having an "open house" a couple of weeks after the baby is born.
She said that it would be a good idea so that everyone can meet the baby. My SO has a very large family.
I love his family but I think it should be up to us whether we have an open house. I am not big on passing the baby around so everyone can hold him. Babies get sore from being passed around. I know having everyone over will overwhelm me and our new baby.
I am not sure how to handle this situation. I think 2 weeks after he is born is a little too soon to have an open house.
I need time to re-coop and get into a routine with our baby.
Thoughts??
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Re: "Open House" after baby's born??
I don't agree with you that "babies get sore from being passed around"... but the decision to open your home to visitors after the birth is completely up to you and your SO.
We are not having anyone over to our home for about two weeks after the baby's born, and after that it will be on a case-by-case/individual basis. Our families are going to have to call first, which isn't a problem since they all live at least an hour away.
The bottom line is that if you prefer not to have company, then let them know this NOW before you're in the throes of your emotions post-partum. Our parents have all commented to us that they were grateful for our groundrules ahead of time so they know not to impose later.
GL!
certainly don't plan (or do) anything until you know how you will feel, how things are going with the baby, and NEVER because your MIL tells you to do it.
You might feel like crap for a while... you have no idea if you'll want any visitors for a while- let alone a house full of people.
play it by ear and see how you/baby feel.... don't let anyoen pressure you into doing anything- esp your MIL. She needs to learn NOW that this is YOUR child and she has no say in how things will be done with YOUR baby.
FWIW, at 2 weeks pp, the baby will most likely not notice or care if he is being passed around.
I can't stand my in laws and would be irritated if MIL would tell me what I needed to do with my home or my baby. Tjat said, it may be a great way to limit visitation. DD was born a month before xmas and we instituted 2:00 nap time, when I took DD and we curled up and took a nap every day. The time was sacred and non-negotiable and it allowed us to kind of monitor all the visiting. You could have an open house or barbecue and then retreat and leave DH to deal with them...
Some people don't agree that babies get sore from being handled to much.I But,imagine if you didn?t really have the capability of using your muscles as you do now. Imagine if your height and weight were increasing daily, if your bones were growing, and your muscles and organs were stretching. Imagine if you were constantly being picked up and passed around for the majority of the day. If adults were to experience what babies go through every day, we would never stop complaining. A baby?s muscles get tired. Also, I am a germa-phobe and I don't want a sick baby because someone wants to be selfish and breathe all over my baby. ugh...
THANK YOU! We are very proud of her! LOL
In ref. to some of the other posts.
My SO and I have stated repeatedly that we do not want visitors for at least a week or so, so we can re-coop and bond with our baby. Depending on how I feel we will allow anyone to visit. I understand the excitement of the new baby. I am not insensitive to that. But there will be plenty of time for everyone to meet him.
They said,"Well, there are certain people you need to make an exception for..."
LIKE WHO?? This is OUR baby, it isn't like we are going to be hermits and never let anyone come over.
Thankfully my SO speaks up on my behalf and said,"You all need to relax and let her get back up on her feet. She is pushing a baby out the size of a watermelon... give her a break!"
LOL
Have your in-laws throw a party. Then you, SO, and baby show up for a little while. Thank everyone for coming and when you're done you get outta there. No clean up and you can set the rules/times for yourself.
I've also read that if baby is in a sling "attached" to you then people won't be as determined to hold him/her. I don't know how true this is since this is my first but it might be worth a try.
That sounds like a great idea!!!!
Will be watching this thread as I'm interested in the replies. MIL is suggesting she should come stay with us even though my parents are traveling from across the country to be here for the birth and will be staying with us for a week or two. MIL wants to have all the family at our house when baby comes home. MIL and I don't really get along and I don't like the idea of having a ton of people over to handle the baby right away. Also, I have a feeling I'm not going to be up for MIL's BS.
Do what YOU are comfortable doing, not what MIL wants you to do. Maybe wait at least a month and by then you'll feel a little bit better than say two days after giving birth.
We are planning on having immediate family only over to meet Kaitlyn. My mom, dad, sister, his mom and brother and his family. Everyone else will meet her maybe at 3 weeks, when we plan on having a welcome home party for her
Do what you feel comfortable doing. I agree about the germs and excessive passing around - I'm going to be very picky about who gets to visit!
Good luck!
I like the idea of having my MIL hosting a meet and greet at her home... then we can just leave after an hour...
Also, I like the idea of using my sling so no one will ask me to get him out to hold him. Although I know my MIL will be grabbing him every chance she can get. I do love her... but she can be a little overbearing and overwhelming sometimes.