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Stephiemae22
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Can I be a little bratty?
Stephiemae22
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Ok - so I know I shouldnt be upset, but I am, a little...My SIL called us tonight to tell us that she is pg..Im a little upset bc she knows that we are TTC, she already has a baby, hes 2, and my in laws think this kid is like second coming, seriously..I just knew that we should have never told her that we were TTC, bc we knew that this would happen...She kept asking us if we were mad, but like what am I supposed to say? The worst part is that her useless husband is unemployed, and this SOB still sends their kid to my in laws just about everyday, while she works and he stays home and smokes pot and plays xbox...ahhhh...oh well Im over it, just needed to vent..sorry.
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Re: Can I be a little bratty?
Bratty and judgemental are two different things. You should probably clarify your title.
never mind.. i knew that this would happen, you have no idea what the situation is really like with her..
Hey - I was on your side with the DH being a loser!
FWIW, I'm right there with you. I can see why you'd feel frustrated. It's similar to me getting ticked off watching Maury paternity test results everyday and seeing all walks of life have a million children each, like they just snap their fingers and become pregnant. It does seem like others can have multiple children, and some struggle for a long time. But I digress, it doesn't mean she doesn't deserve to have another child and that you shouldn't be happy for her. It does suck for her, however, and the child, that the husband is such a douche.
No need to get rowdy just b/c you don't like what you hear. Would it have been better if I had said "Oh my god, what a biitch! How dare she steal your phantom baby's thunder!"
Here's the moral of the story. It's normal, but it's not healthy or rational. Suck it up and try to be excited about your future niece or nephew.
exactly this..i just need to let in sink in, and move on
It's true we don't know what life with her is like, so why did you think we would think you being mad that she is pg with her 2nd child is anything but childish.
I beg to differ.
Last year my BIL got his GF of 1 month PG. This after ending a 2 year engagement only 1 month before that. All this was while DH and I were trying to get some medical issues in order to TTC. So emotionally we were ready, but had to wait on some logistics. Her getting PG, being suddenly a part of the family and 9 months later having a beautiful baby girl ( the first girl in many generations) was one of the more difficult things I have been through in some time.
I learned it the hard way, but wallowing in life's unfairness, makes me a rotten person. I'd much prefer the good karma that comes with acceptance and gratitude for what I do have.
That was very very nice, BTW.
::stands and applauds::
Very well said.
You're welcome. Now, next time don't assume that people are just being biitchy as opposed to offering solid advice from their own experience.
::looks around::
Did you guys see that? I was so nice! Hmmmph.
::pats self on back::
thanks for being nice!
:picks jaw up off the floor:
I saw it!
Guess I'm trying to fill my nice quota for the year and rack up some karma.
Kill two birds with one stone, I suppose. And now, I have a witness. Woot!
How are you, my dear?
I am wonderful. I made an executive decision today to leave work early and head out or sushi and drinks with my parents. I feel it was the best decision I made all day. Other than that I am just waiting to see when AF is going to show up.
How are you?
Good for you. I am a firm believer in mental health days. And I am so glad to hear you are doing well.
I'm good. Just got back from Vegas, which was awesome. I am, however, already looking for the next vacation. See, mental health is important, right? LOL.
ohh i didnt know that was what i am!! thanks!
I'm taking back my nice. Sometimes the truth hurts. I'm done here. GL with your situation.
:ushers Stephiemae out of the post:
Your post has been hijacked. KTHXBAI
There. That should do it. Now, where were we?
Ah, yes. Vegas. Do it. We had so much fun. Although I will add that you really only need a couple of days. I was sooooo ready to go when it was time.
BIL lives in Phoenix with my two 6 month old twin nieces, so we have been talking about going out to visit them and then go to Vegas for a few days. Where did you stay?
We stayed at the Hilton, which is just off the strip. I would probably prefer to stay on the strip next time, (this one was a family deal and out of our hands). It was kind of nice though, being able to escape from the insanity when we were done for the night.
We went to lots of the other mega hotel/casinos. The Venetian was my favorite.
It sucks but its a normal feeling.
My husband and i were TTC and it wasnt working. My younger sister gets pregnant on accident by her boyfriend. I was so sad, i was devasted. Then i get pregnant and miscarry while i have to see my sisters huge 7 month pregnant belly everyday. It hurt, i was sad. BUT babies are a blessing. My niece is my favorite person in the world now, i couldn't even imagine life without her. She is the only person who can make me smile no matter how sad i am.
Owen- April 2011
Olivia- Due December 24th