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Survived Babies-R-US, gearing up for a shower

jumagirljumagirl
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I know we all see pregnant women right and left following a m/c, but I feel like I can't catch a break here. ?Four friends delivered this week, a shower this weekend and the following Sat, three more friends due this month, and SIX due in July. ?Seriously. ?Then it drops off with only a few fall babies in our circle, and thankfully no one w/in a week either way of my former due date.

?Anyhoo, I survived trip #1 to B-R-U and have given myself a massive pep-talk anticipating this Sat's shower. ?The mom-to-be is aware of my m/c and has graciously given me an out if I need to leave early. ?Such a sweetheart, love her! ?

My post-BRU reward is a bottle o' vino. ?Cheers, girls!?

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  • soontobemrsvegasoontobemrsvega
    im making my sister a diaper her shower is on the 20th.  i also went to costco today to order her cake and she didnt know what to put on it and i came up with "special delivery! AJ is on his way" and she liked it so thats what the cake is gonna say.  its hard enough to be around PG ladies but when its family or a good friend its even harder.  my EDD was 10/09 she is due 8/24 so it makes it even harder bc i should be having a shower soon too Sad  right before i got my last BFP i knew 14 girls who were pg and everyone kept saying when are you gonna try again i told them after this wave passed i didnt want a constint reminder of where i should be if i had another mc.... and look what happen exactly what i was worried about.  my reward tonight will be a beer! *CHEERS*
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  • jumagirljumagirl

    imagesoontobemrsvega:
    im making my sister a diaper her shower is on the 20th.? i also went to costco today to order her cake and she didnt know what to put on it and i came up with "special delivery! AJ is on his way" and she liked it so thats what the cake is gonna say.?

    ?You get tons of points for?planning a shower!! ?I try not to think of where I would have been, but it's hard when gals who were behind me now have a prominent bump. ?Our day will come, but until then - Cheers!!

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  • aoverlockaoverlock

    i hear ya...my friend and coworker is having a shower next week.  picking out the present was so hard.  and i feel like a crappy friend because the other day she was telling me that he was "doing flips" and i was so happy for her but also felt so jealous inside. ugh.

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  • soontobemrsvegasoontobemrsvega
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    imagesoontobemrsvega:
    im making my sister a diaper her shower is on the 20th.  i also went to costco today to order her cake and she didnt know what to put on it and i came up with "special delivery! AJ is on his way" and she liked it so thats what the cake is gonna say. 

     You get tons of points for planning a shower!!  I try not to think of where I would have been, but it's hard when gals who were behind me now have a prominent bump.  Our day will come, but until then - Cheers!!

    im not really planning it.  i actually just found out about it! see post "i wasnt invited to my sister shower" LOL i had to ask when it was. my mom didnt even tell me but now since i asked im trying to help out bc they (my mom and sister(s) ) i guess think im this big b!tch bc i havnt wanted updates on my sister PG.  i dont think they fully get that it hurts me. but whatever ill get my sticky baby one day and like my mom loves to points out "AJ is coming and he is apart of this family" he is going to be the first baby i held since my first MC in 2007. i had hoped that the next newborn i held would be my own but no such luck.  but since it is my nephew i guess thats pretty special too.

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  • soontobemrsvegasoontobemrsvega
    imageaoverlock:

    i hear ya...my friend and coworker is having a shower next week.  picking out the present was so hard.  and i feel like a crappy friend because the other day she was telling me that he was "doing flips" and i was so happy for her but also felt so jealous inside. ugh.

    i hate that!! you want to be happy for them but at the same time you just want to break something!

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  • jumagirljumagirl

    I guess I'm taking the "sooner I get it over with, the easier it will be" approach. ?Gosh, it so tough to go to, plan for, etc, the showers of loved ones - and even more intense to hold those newborns. ?But we know our day will come. ?Without a m/c, I know I would be THRILLED for these women, so I am just doing the ol' "fake it till ya make it" and hoping that this will some way ease me back to "normal," while also keeping in mind that I'll never be normal.

    ?Golly, these glasses of wine that I can enjoy while not pg are so good, simply b/c it's something that I can appreciate while stuck in this inbetween. ??

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