Am I the only paranoid one??

*blondie* · June 2009

I had to take my wedding/engagement rings off a few days ago and decided to put on a fake ring. I look younger than I am (thank you mother) and along with all the other rude and crazy comments I receive I am hoping to bypass any questions/comments dealing with my relationship with dh. So are you still wearing your ring (wedding, promise or otherwise)? If not, are you going bare?

NDwife07 · June 2009

I have a fakey too. I work with high school students and their parents, and have a hard enough time looking old enough to the parents. I've had a few judgy comments, enough to make me wear the fake.

thatgirlang · June 2009

Still wearing mine. I may get a fake one if I take them off.

sandyk51306 · June 2009

I'm still able to wear my wedding rings (not sure how much longer I'll be able to though), but once I get to the point where I can't wear them anymore, I'm getting a fake.

RD'sgirl · June 2009

I am still wearing my rings but if someone has the ballz to question you about a s/o then I would not hesitate to be just as rude back to them!

ExpatFamily06 · June 2009

My wedding set sadly stopped fitting about 2 weeks ago and since then I have just been wearing a different ring of mine. It's not an engagement looking one but it's a very pretty ruby and diamond ring that my dh gave me years ago that I usually wore on my right hand, but it no longer fits on that hand.

elf*jar · June 2009

Neither of my real rings or my fake ring fit me the last time I checked. I got a ring stuck on my finger and haven't tried since. That was about 5 weeks ago.

Sugar Honeybiscuits · June 2009

I can still wear my wedding ring without any problem...surprisingly.

kenitaw248 · June 2009

Im not wearing minr or a fake. I could careless if someone makes a rude comment. So far only one of my 13 yr old students made a comment about me being pg and unmarried. Stuff like that doesnt bother me.

Bernadette5 · June 2009

I had to forfeit wearing my rings months ago. I bought a fake one at Kohl's for $5. It looks more like an engagement ring but I figured it was better than wearing nothing at all. I felt naked wearing no ring!

*blondie* · June 2009

RD'sgirl:

I am still wearing my rings but if someone has the ballz to question you about a s/o then I would not hesitate to be just as rude back to them!

I have come to realize that for me, this is easier said than done. I had some random girl tell me I looked HUGE the other day and all I could do was smile.

Brittanie_1987 · June 2009

I am wearing a fake as well!

JCM083009 · June 2009

I just started not wearing mine yesterday. I can get them on with some forcing, but getting them off is really hard (which is annoying b/c I'm not swollen at all!) and I don't want to have them on and one day I literally cannot get them off. Like you, I look really young, so it bothers me. The diamond in my e-ring also has a ton of family meaning to me and I can't bare to be without it, so I have started putting both rings on a chain around my neck.

So yeah, if people look at my finger they'll see nothing, but hopefully the rings around my neck are pretty obvious, and even still, they are there more for me.

mrsmel · June 2009

still wearing my real rings. if they stop fitting, i may grab a cheapy fake thing. depends on how close to d day i am.

erino&chrish · June 2009

I still wear my wedding ring, but my engagement ring is too small so I took it off about a month ago.

RD'sgirl · June 2009

*blondie*:
RD'sgirl:

I am still wearing my rings but if someone has the ballz to question you about a s/o then I would not hesitate to be just as rude back to them!

I have come to realize that for me, this is easier said than done. I had some random girl tell me I looked HUGE the other day and all I could do was smile.

I know how you feel, the rude comments take me so off guard I can't think of anything to say at the moment. Although I'm sure my facial expressions and body language speak for themselves.

babsrut · June 2009

I just bought a diamond wedding band from overstock in a larger size (similar to the one I have but lots cheaper). Rather than wear a fake, i figured I'd get something that looks nice that I can put on another finger when I'm done being all swollen...

ArmyBride0604 · June 2009

I'm still wearing mine. My mom is loaning me her band or my grandmother's (she wears both and my grandmother's is slightly bigger) if they stop fitting. According to her, I have freakishly small fingers (size 5) and she's not sure where I got that from.

txbabs111 · June 2009

I had to abandon my rings around 35 weeks and my mom gave me her old ring to wear (she and my dad replaced theirs last year). It's gold, from the 70s and totally not my style, but I hated getting "the look" from people when their eyes would go from belly to finger.

Mrs.Foreste · June 2009

I'm still wearing mine thankfully. If it comes to the point where I can't then I will DEFINITELY get a fake. I look young enough & don't want to deal with the rude comments.

Jenny3 · June 2009

I had to take my wedding rings off weeks ago. I did put on another larger ring, but not because I'm worried about what strangers may think of me. I just felt naked without any jewelry!

mburkhe · June 2009

Thankfully mine still fit. If they didnt, I would find one to wear in their place.

2-Step · June 2009

I tried wearing a fake but my fingers swell up and go down so many times over the course of a week that it was just annoying to have anything on them. I took it off about a week ago and haven't put it on since. I am at the point where anything that makes me the least bit uncomfortable isn't worth it!

dmsmth · June 2009

My ring came off at 31 weeks. I am wearing the ring I normally wear on my right hand as my wedding ring. It doesn't look like a wedding ring but at least its a ring on my wedding finger.

As it is when I went to BRU with my 2 YOUNGER sisters, the guy helping us asked if we were all sisters than pretty much proceeds to say that he thought my next younger sister was older than me... (at least he didn't think I was the youngets because my youngest sister is 17!)

MrsV092207 · June 2009

mrsmel:
still wearing my real rings. if they stop fitting, i may grab a cheapy fake thing. depends on how close to d day i am.

Ditto

IselaCid · June 2009

I take mine on and off as I did while not pregnant. I personally don't care if people "know" I'm married.

There are many loving couples out there right now who don't even have the right to get married...I just don't feel the need to prove I'm official especially with so many people who simply can't.

schmoodle · June 2009

I stopped wearing my wedding and engagement ring regularly about a week ago, but I have a third ring I wear with them in honor of our babies that passed away which is a half size bigger and is still pretty loose. If I didn't have that, I might get a fake one though, not because I'm embarrassed or care what other people think, but because it just feels weird to me not to have a ring there.

Lopo · June 2009

If and when my ring comes off...I'm going to get a fake one too. It will be easier anyways when for me because if I don't notice or feel my ring...I FREAK out!

efortune · June 2009

I still am wearing my rings, and will likely just wear them around my neck if at all after I have to take them off. People give me nasty looks anyway, since I look so young, even with the rings. Ahh, judgment.

mrsbhk22 · June 2009

I was able to wear my rings the entire time I was pregnant with DS#1. This time, I had to take them off about 30w. I am wearing my "mom" ring on my ring finger now (It's a larger size).

katie_cj · June 2009

My actual ring still fits most of the time. The only time my hands get a little swollen are at night and I just take it off since I'm at home.

But I was lucky since my ring was a bit big to begin with, but since I got engaged while I was pregnant, I decided to hold off until pp to get it resized.

jk09uhed89 · June 2009

once my rings dont fit im taking them off and that will be the end of it until they fit again.

i really dont care if some old lady judges me for being an unwed mother. she or anyone else knows nothing about me so their opinion means nothing to me. i dont like the idea of going out and getting a fake one just so that i can have some strangers approve of how im living my life.

thats my two cents

stacyan · June 2009

I can still get my rings on but I am too afraid that I will swell up and not be able to get them off, so I am wearing an old band that I used to wear on my right hand because it's bigger. To me it doesn't matter what people think, I just feel funny without a ring on.

Soon2BMrsN · June 2009

I'm still wearing my rings and if I do swell enough to have to take them off in the next 3 weeks, I'll probably just go bare.

corinnesmom · June 2009

I rarely wear my rings these days. The heat makes my fingers swell pretty quickly. Not so big that they don't fit, just enough to make them really annoying! I have thought about it before that someone may notice the ring-less pregnant lady, but I don't care. Actually, DH lost his wedding band hunting last year, so he doesn't wear one either. The people who are important know that we are married, rings or not.

Mrs.Carlybella · June 2009

i can wear my e-ring by itself, and do sometimes- but these days i am more often than not ringless. I couuld care less if someone judges me, and figure most people know pg women often can't wear their rings.

janice74 · June 2009

I wear mine on a chain around my neck. ?I only got married 8 months ago, so I hate to not have them with me!

mrsblt · June 2009

I am wearing a different ring my DH had bought for me, that was always a little loose. Now its getting tight, and I'm sure at some point I will be ringless. I'm not particularly worried about what other folks may think/say, since it would only be strangers wondering. Anyone who has been pregnant shouldn't jump to conclusions since they may've had to take off rings too!

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