Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months

Daycare vent... what would you do?

On Friday when I picked DD up from daycare, I was a couple hours early.  DD was napping in her crib and when I went to pick her up, I realized she was sucking a pacifier while she was sleeping.  Hum, DH and I tried to introduce the pacifier when was just born but she never took to it.  We did take a couple to daycare, but she never used them and this was when she was first taken there.  So this pacifier she was using wasn't one that I had ever taken there.  I have no idea where it came from.  And since she first started, I have found the same one in her bed a couple months ago and didn't think anything of it and thought it was another lo's.  So I took it out of her mouth and asked why she had it.  Her primary lady in her room said it was the first time she had given it to her... I could tell she was lying, so this ticked me off even more.  I then asked her to not give it to dd anymore because she is not sleeping through the night because she wants to have a bottle... but its because she wants to suck. I know it is.  She has been getting up 3 times a night and as soon as she gets a botlle, shes happy.    I was soooo mad and I am going to talk to her today.. ..I just wish if she was having issues laying down and napping that they would have told me. I just assumed she was napping great because they have never said anything. what would you say? 

Re: Daycare vent... what would you do?

  • I would certainly make it clear that DD doesn't get a pacifier at home nor at daycare.  No wonder she is having issues at home with sleeping...she wants a paci.
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  • well if you don't want her to have the pacifier take it away and throw it out for one. If you go back to find out that she has another one I would address the issue with the child care director.
  • imageprincess4u81:
    well if you don't want her to have the pacifier take it away and throw it out for one. If you go back to find out that she has another one I would address the issue with the child care director.

     

    she DOESN'T have one at home.  She has never gotten one so there isn't anything to throw away :)  At daycare, she had one in her cubby but they never gave it to her.  They gave her one of theres.

  • Maybe they thought pacifiers were okay since you took a couple to daycare at the beginning.  I know it doesn't explain why she would have a different paci than the ones you brought.  Just tell them no pacis. 
  • I would just make sure they KNOW that she isn't supposed to ever get a paci, ever.  And throw out the ones you took there.  They probably assumed since she had some there that it was ok, I would probably assume the same thing.  And I've never heard of a daycare having their own pacis, but just make sure every teacher in her room knows that she isn't to have one at all.  Then if you find they've given it to her again, take it to the director. 
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  • imagemrsmikey:
    I would just make sure they KNOW that she isn't supposed to ever get a paci, ever.  And throw out the ones you took there.  They probably assumed since she had some there that it was ok, I would probably assume the same thing.  And I've never heard of a daycare having their own pacis, but just make sure every teacher in her room knows that she isn't to have one at all.  Then if you find they've given it to her again, take it to the director. 

    ditto.

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  • I would be upset about this also, moreso about the lying than anything else. I would make it clear to the teacher that she's not to have it, and if you find it in her bed again, speak to the director.
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  • Why would she lie about it? That is odd and really uncomfortable.  I think I would have to ask again and really press for the truth.  Leaving it as a unconfirmed suspicion would drive me nuts.

    As for the paci, kids go through stages. Sucking is a self-soothing technique and if it helps her nap or sleep at night, I don't see the harm.  Just becuase she didn't use it as a newborn, doesn't mean she can't use it as a 1 year old. Especially at child care.  My DD sleeps much longer at home b/c there is more to wake her at care.  So if she sleeps better and longer with a paci, I am all for it. Plus with teething and new teeth breaking through, I think its a natural way for an older tot to get a bit of relief.

    But this is YOUR decision, as the mother.  Not the child care workers. Be clear and follow through.

    My darling daughter just turned 4 years old.
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