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NBR: Help me with an excuse.....weird situation

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OK--yes...I know I should have done this a LONG time ago--but a coworker at work has basically invited the WORLD to her daughter's wedding (who I don't even really know).  I was nice and went to the shower--but now that the wedding is this weekend I really don't want to go.  I wish I would have just said no to begin with but I figured maybe we would want to go by now...but I don't.  Spending 5 days a week with this woman is one thing--but going to her kid's wedding...ugh.  The "mom" and I are work friends but that's it. 

So now that it's this weekend---I want to tell her tomorrow since they probably have to have final numbers in by Weds I'm guessing (that's how my wedding was).  But what is a realistic excuse??  I was thinking that we don't have a babysitter (although both our families are close to us).  My husband is laid off (which is another reason dropping $100 sucks on a wedding).  I will say this---I plan on still giving her a small gift even though we won't be going. 

So yes--I know I'm tacky but I still need an excuse.   

 


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Re: NBR: Help me with an excuse.....weird situation

  • Faith1318Faith1318 member
    Sorry, I think that's too tacky to back out at the last minute. I think you should go, make a brief appearance at the reception, and skip out after the food is served.
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  • userdeleteduserdeleted member

    I really think you should go at this point. Even if she hasn't given a final head count to the caterer, she's paid for favors, place cards, programs, she's set aside space for you at a table...unless you have a real reason you should just suck it up and go.

    I don't think you have to give her a bigger gift just because you're there. Give her the small gift you were planning on and try to have a good time! A night out! Sounds like a fun date!

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  • armywife7205armywife7205 member
    yeah go for a couple mins at least. They have paid for your food already... backing out now isnt cool.
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  • LoriFalceLoriFalce member
    Yeah, I'm with the others. You know what all goes into the wedding planning. The numbers have been the numbers for weeks and weeks. Go, enjoy yourself, and genuinely wish her and the couple well.
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  • smacbsmacb

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    yeah go for a couple mins at least. They have paid for your food already... backing out now isnt cool.

    yep.  We had to have a head count in two weeks before our reception.

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  • laurandjimlaurandjim member
    I'm a wedding coordinator and I can tell you I've seen a ton of couples bummed because not all of their guests who RSVP'd showed up.  You really should go now.  No excuse is sufficient--the bride and groom and the bride's mom will know it's BS. 
    Just go to the wedding.  Enjoy yourself--eat the food, dance a little, have some cake--and the bride and groom will be delighted.  That's what they want you to do and it's the right thing for you to do because you RSVP'd yes!
    You can bow out early, but not til the cake is cut, and say you have to get home to DC.
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