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When do I tell?

salmersalmer
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I'm a first-time preggers, but only about 5 weeks along. I was so excited when I found out that I had to tell my family and best friends, but now I'm wondering when do I tell everyone else.

I had a friend who told the world and then had a miscarriage, so I'm a little scared.  On top of everything, I'm getting patronized by my family for wanting to keep it on the DL. It's kind of stressing me out. Any advice?

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  • mikey&amiemikey&amie
    It's really up to you and when you feel comfortable. ?Many people wait until they are in the 2nd Trimester, or at least past 12 weeks, but there was NO way I could hold it in, and told basically everyone (except work) at 6 weeks. I told people I would feel comfortable telling if I had a m/c. ?Do what feels rigth for you. ?I told work at 12 weeks.
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  • ibfloridagirlibfloridagirl member
    My MW gave me the best advice, she said tell everyone that you would want their support either way.  Makes sense to me.  I have a big mouth though and DH and i had been TTC for 2 years so i told everyone at 6am the morning i found out, lol.  Congrats!!!
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  • reynahreynah
    I couldn't wait to tell everyone, so we told the day PREGNANT showed up on the test. I just have no idea how people can wait until the 2nd trimester, I wouldn't be able to keep it in! GL and congrats on your pregnancy!!
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  • mandarodmandarod
    Congrats! We found out at 5 weeks, but we waited till I was 6 1/2 weeks to tell our family and close friends (only because we wanted to do it in person). If anything were to have gone wrong, I would have needed and wanted their support. I didn't tell work until I was nearly 17 weeks.
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  • JessibellJessibell
    I told everyone immediately. Next time I might wait a little longer to tell people that aren't super close family and friends.
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  • nooniesgalnooniesgal member
    I agree it is totally your call.  We told everyone near and dear to us early based on the fact that we wanted everyone praying for our little bean!  We told everyone else (work, etc.) after the first sonogram (8 weeks).  I will do the same with the next. 
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  • char-charchar-char member
    With our first, we told after the first appt. with my OB at around 7 weeks. With our second, we told again after we had seen my OB and it was around the same time, almost 8 weeks, however I ended up having a miscarriage at 15 wks 5 days. I am pregnant again and am 13 wks 2 days along, but we decided to go ahead and tell everyone around 8 weeks again after we had seen my OB three times and had seen and heard the heartbeat on sonogram. We figured if we had another loss we would want and need all of the support we could get and since our loss was a later loss early in the second trimester, we decided that we felt more comfortable going ahead and sharing early on to help us have a sense of normalcy and to feel more confident about treating this pregnancy as a healthy one unless told otherwise.
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  • CreamPuff06CreamPuff06

    Everyone else is right - it's when YOU feel comfortable telling and not before.  Before I m/c in June (3rd one), I didn't tell very many people and it was very hard going through it alone again. 

    With T, EVERYONE knew pretty much right away.  I did tell my boss immediately, but the rest of work was told when I really started showing.

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  • jfarmer27jfarmer27

    Share when YOU feel comfortable.  Our circumstance was different...I needed support/prayers going into the fertility treatment, so friends/family knew when we would be getting the results of our beta, so we shared right away.  However, I did not feel comfortable sharing with work/public forums until I was further along (12 weeks), but my husband immediately shared with his work.  It's all what you want to do...there is no right or wrong.

    Congrats and wishing you a healthy pregnancy.

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  • chicagoteri79chicagoteri79

    I agree that's it's best to tell when you feel comfortable.  We told most of our family & friends when we were around 8 because if anything happened we wanted their support.

    I told my work around 16 weeks when we found out that we were having a boy & I was really showing at that point & people were starting to ask.

    Good luck on your pregnancy!

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  • sars1202sars1202
    I would wait until 10-12 weeks.  I think after 10 your chances for a m/c drastically reduce.
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  • AlysaAlysa

    I told my sisters right away.  We're pretty close.  We drove home to LA to tell my parents.  We had a onesie made with the due date. 

    DH and I waited a couple of weeks to tell his family because we wanted to find a special way to tell them in person.  We ended up putting our sonogram picture into in my father-in-law's Father's Day card and made sure that everyone was around when he opened it. 

    Their reaction was priceless.

     I told my boss around 4 months and coworkers around 5 months.

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