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DS not cuddly :( Feel like it's my fault...

Daisy166Daisy166 member
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My DS does not like to cuddle at all.  He is very independent which I know is a good thing but now I'm worried that he may be too independent.

I kinda wish he was a little more cuddly.  He doesn't like to be held. 

Both DH & I are very happy, loving parents with DS.  DH always greets DS with a hug & kiss when he gets home from work everyday.  But I've never let DS sleep in our bed, he's been in his crib from day 1 so now I feel guilty for doing this!    

I hear from my sister-in-law with her 2 daughters, they both like to lay in bed with her & watch cartoons and they love to cuddle. 

So Maybe it's a boy thing?

 

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Re: DS not cuddly :( Feel like it's my fault...

  • MainelyFoolishMainelyFoolish member
    My DD will only cuddle if she's about to fall asleep.  She's too busy playing and exploring the world to slow down and sit in my lap.  She'll barely let me give her a hug.  I think it's perfectly normal toddler behavior. 

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  • MelanieJH1016MelanieJH1016
    My DD is the same way. I also wonder if it's because we never coslept with her.
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  • schnappycatschnappycat member
    My DS have never been cuddly, even as a newborn. He always preferred his bouncer to me or DH. Now he's too busy to cuddle, even if it were in his nature. I never coslept, but am certainly not feeling guilty over it (it's NMS). I think some kids are just not as cuddly, just as some adults are naturally more affectionate. I just keep hugging and kissing him as much as possible and try to enjoy the fact that I have an independent kid.
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  • thomas&lynnthomas&lynn member
    I semi co-slept and DD's not so big on the cuddling. We are both also super cuddly parents.
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  • funchickenfunchicken member
    Don't be so hard on yourself!  That's just his personality.  My DD isn't cuddly either, and it has nothing to do with where she slept.  She has her own ways of showing affection.  She loves when I tickle her.  She likes to flop into my lap if I'm sitting on the floor, but she only stays there for a few seconds.  She's just not interested in anything that involves sitting still :)
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  • Temp200154562509288Temp200154562509288
    My DD only cuddles when she is about to fall asleep and I coslept with her until she was 11mo. She too is super independent and would rather play than give kisses and hugs. I just hold out hope that as gets older she'll be more cuddly
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  • kathya-hkathya-h member
    DD spent the majority of most nights in our bed for about 3 months (8-11mos) and she is not a cuddly kid at all. When she wants to be read to or she's tired, she might tolerate it but only for a short time.  We are very affectionate with her but she is on the move.
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  • BrewtowngrlBrewtowngrl member
    We co-slept a little and DS will not cuddle unless he is sick. 
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  • brownie123brownie123 member
    I don't think it has anything to do with co-sleeping or not - I just think it's personality.  Don't feel guilty!!  Every child is different.
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  • fiona21408fiona21408

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    I don't think it has anything to do with co-sleeping or not - I just think it's personality.  Don't feel guilty!!  Every child is different.

     

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  • Erin&RodErin&Rod
    We have the opposite problem.  DS is very cuddly, he cosleeps (this is the only way he sttn), and is not very independent, and he can be very clingy. I love that he is cuddly, but I don't love that he doesn't like to be alone...ever.  I'm sure your boy will become more affectionate.  Just because you don't cosleep doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Don't feel guilty.  A lot of this has to do with thier personalities.  DS has been this way since he was born. 
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  • teacherjessteacherjess member
    DD is not cuddly at all and I also feel like it's my fault. She cuddles for like three seconds before bed, but the rest of the time is on the go all day long. I'm lucky if I get a "kiss" (which is really just a face lick).
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  • boolashboolash

    My DD1 was the exact same way.  It's depressing sometimes becuase you love this child with all your heart and sometimes you feel like they don't love you.  She's so independant she could care less if I was in the room or not and will walk away from me when we're playing outside.  She'll be 2 next month and she's just started hugging and kissing(real kissing) the last month or so.  I'm LOVING IT!   

     

    Now DD2 is very clingy and cuddly.Atleast I'll get one cuddle bunny! =)

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