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SAHM who is pregnant again with #2....

chinchinbridechinchinbride
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Hi Ladies,

I am trying to get my DH prepared for taking care of our soon to be 2 year old son. ?I due to give birth on July 6th and wanted to get some advice/suggestions if any. ?My biggest concern is that DH will have no clue on what he will be doing. ?I basically take care of our son since DH works even on the weekends. I had a csection with my first son but hopefully will not have another one but you never know. Just wanted to asked a couple of questions.

What type of food did you prepared in advance??

Did you write down list/notes on your DC schedule (feeding etc) ?

Whatever you ladies can help me with I would greatly appreciate it. ?I am getting to the point were I am getting anxiety from thinking about it. ?

Thank you so much.....

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Re: SAHM who is pregnant again with #2....

  • userdeleteduserdeleted member

    Yikes! I'm sorry you're so stressed!

    I don't have experience with this, but if I were in your situation I'd probably get together a bunch of those "meal in a box" type things - Hamburger Helper, Macaroni and Cheese, etc. I know it's not healthy, but it's quick and easy, and also only temporary. 

    I would write down your son's typical schedule and tape it to the fridge or something like that. Anything else, honestly you should just let him figure out. This might end up being a great bonding time for the two of them!

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  • Mrs.HizzoMrs.Hizzo member

    Have you been letting him take over your son's care while you're there? I did 90% of everything, too, but I knew with the new baby that wouldn't be possible. Also, I wanted my son used to his dad doing things before the baby got here, so he wouldn't equate the two and be jealous. So the nights DH was home, I started having him put Finn to bed and feed him dinner. That way if there were any questions or problems, I was there to address them.

     You need to be careful about micromanaging too much. If your husband is like mine, he'll be irritated that you feel the need to write things down for him. Prep him as best you can, but accept that he's not going to do everything the same way you do it, and that's OK. Your son will be fine. Our baby wound up in the hospital with meningitis for two weeks after he was born, and my DH had to take off so that I could spend my days in the NICU. At that point I had no choice but to let go and assume he was capable of taking care of the toddler, because I had too much else to worry about. The two of them did great together. 

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    Oh, and I meant to say, it's great if you can get some meal ideas ready in advance. Those I would write down, like, "Suggestions for breakfast; suggestions for lunch" etc. My dinners these days are always toddler-friendly and I freeze the leftovers in small portions, so that I can just zap something Finn likes for dinner and serve it with a frozen veggie and some cottage cheese. That would be really easy for your husband.
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