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3rd Trimester
BearkatLou
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Do you judge other pg women???
BearkatLou
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I know that every pregnancy is different, and therefore, every pregnant woman experiences different levels of pain and whatnot at the end of their pregnancy.
When you hear a woman complaining about being in pain, or wanting to take off work early, etc, do you judge her and think, "Please... it's just the uncomfortable stage of pg and she just can't hack it."
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Re: Do you judge other pg women???
yes, but then again i enjoy judging everyone. ?it makes me feel, oh what would you call it - better about myself.
kidding
nah i have no right to judge. ?this pregnancy has been mind numbingly easy up to this point and i don't need any bad karma to kick my as$. ?and some people really are in pain and i know if i was i'd probably complain until i went hoarse. ? ??
I wouldn't say I judge them for that, or judge them at all for that matter. But, I do believe that a lot of pregnant women use pregnancy as an excuse to be b!tchy and eat eat eat! Maybe it's just me, but I haven't had any crazy emotions/mood swings and I don't find myself any hungrier than I ever was prepregnancy.
From the example you gave, no. People see me waddling down the hall and I'm sure they think I'm being an AW but the truth is that my rear hurts sooooo bad. So if I hear another woman complain, I try to sympathize (ise?).
:Raises hand in shame:
I judge 1 pregnant person. Just 1. She is the wife of a good friend. I don't particularly like her. She is a month behind me, but consantly updating on FB about how she's 9 months pregnant (um...no, you're not - it's simple math), and about how she can't wait to get her baby out (how about you wait until you're full term?). Bleh, I find her annoying But that's it!
Everyone's pain is different, so I don't judge people complaining about that.
the only time I judge other pg women is if I see them doing stupid things - like smoking or dieting....I used to tell myself "man - it can't be THAT uncomfortable towards the end and those women are so selfish to want to have the baby before it's due date.."
-then...I became that uncomfortable woman at 36 weeks and have NO judgements on anyone's level of comfort at this stage
Judgment is not for me because Karma is a biotch!! I still plan on having another baby or two and I'd rather not have any karmic payback.
I will confess & I will more than likely get flamed.
Yes, I totally do. For example, I have a friend of mine that is a week a head of me. Anyway, she uses her pregnancy as an excuse fore everything.
EXAMPLES: I can't work full time because I am pregnant.
- I would do ___fill in the blank___ but I am pregnant
- I'm so tired & can't clean because I am pregnant
- I can't take too long of walks because I am pregnant
She is not high risk or anything. Just lazy. DRIVES ME BANANAS!! It blows her mind that I still work out at the gym, stay social with our other friends & work full time!
Anyway, that is my vent.
TOTALLY AGREE!!
Nope, I don't care. I'm not in her shoes and if she needs to complain a bit, fine. It's not like people who aren't pregnant never complain about being sick or hurt. My MIL walks around all day complaining about her stupid sinuses like I give a crap. I'm just glad I feel as good as I do, and even when I do complain I realize it could be much worse.
I try not to judge them, but I get super irritated with whiners. If you were a complainer BEFORE, it's probably much worse now. I also have a hard time listening to one friend who is 38w complain about "still" being pregnant when I am just hoping to get to 37w (or even 35w). Personally, I am not a vocal person about stuff like that so I don't get the point in complaining for an entire pregnancy.
I want to get a bumper sticker that says "You're growing a human - of course it's not easy or comfortable!"
We must know the same person- hehe! The one I know compared everything about our pregnancies in the early days... and of course everything about hers was "normal" and mine wasn't... It made me MISERABLE! So yeah, I enjoy judging her- but only her!
yeah, whiners in general annoy me. i have one friend who is about 16 weeks and she was going on and on the other day about her "all day" sickness. it wouldn't have bothered me so much if she was doing one thing to prevent it, but no. hasn't tried a single remedy (even ginger ale!), just likes to b!tch about it.
Of course I judge. Lookie here, I'm doing it right now.
::rolls eyes at the topic::?
No I think everyone has a different pregnancy and something that works for them may not work for me. Now if you are pregnant and smoking or doing something harmful to your baby um ya I probably will judge.
Jacob Alexander 7/23/09
Allergic to Dairy, Eggs and Peanuts
Jameson Adam 6/1/11
Allergic to Peas...so far
This. Let her bottle-feed if she wants, let her get an epi if she wants. We all make our own decisions for our ourselves.
have to admit that I kind of do...
but really only the ones who are stereotypical in their symptoms. For example they get morning sickness the day the book says they are supposed to get it - and then it magically goes away the day the book says it will. Or othing things similar. I don't doubt people feel bad and stuff, but when it's so "by the book" it seems fishy and I tend not to believe them. It's like they just want to be "normal" instead of saying what is really going on with their bodies.
it is a guarantee that if you are pregnant and smoking, you will get all the fires of my silent judgment.
however, i stopped working after last week (in week 32.) i have slight guilt about it, but then again: i am a waitress. 6 hours on my feet WITHOUT a 15 min break (i snuck a 3 min break every hour or so in this last month) and without food runners or bus boys? it was just too much.
now i actually have energy to run errands, clean/organize around the house, and i am so grateful.
Sorry, but being through 2 pregnancies I just have to say this-----being 36+ weeks is a heck of a difference than being 32 weeks. At 32 weeks I could do everything I always could including working out, etc. By the time I hit 37 weeks things were WAY different. You will understand when you get there.