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so p!ssed at DH - serious vent!!!

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DH has been "sick" the last few days (he has a runny nose and sore throat - boo hoo poor thing!!).  So last night he was in bad shape - mostly in his head but whatever - I tend to his needs (make him tea, get him soup for dinner, lay his pjs out while he showers - lame I know). 

I took over all feedings last night and because I didn't sleep and I dont think the chinese food from dinner sat well, I got a migraine.  Now when DH gets migraines the WORLD STOPS!!!!  Not for me!!!!  So then at 430 this morning I ask him if he can handle the next 4 hours or so (he planned on working from home anyways) so that I could take some tylenol pm and hopefully get some sleep.  He gripes and moans that he doesnt feel well enough to take care of both boys and he still needs to be up for work!!! WHAT THE FVCK!!!!  So now I'm supposed to suffer so that you can get some rest so you can work - what the heck do you think I do all day with the boys!!!!!!

So then at 815 he goes down to the office and doesnt even let me know that he's leaving me alone with the boys - so when they start screaming their heads off to eat - which in turn makes me head explode - I'm all alone. 

I'm so sick of this.  I still have a migraine.  I had to make my own coffee.  I still havent showered and he's downstairs working.  I hate when he's home and I still have to do all of the work.   SOOOOO FRUSTRATING!!!!!  Why can't he just take care of me and be nice instead of being a little boy with a runny nose complaining about sitting in front of a caomputer "working"!!!!

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Re: so p!ssed at DH - serious vent!!!

  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    That is so horrible of your DH. I would have killed him for doing that. You should definetly talk to him about it. Or else take the boys downstairs and TELL him that you are taking a nap to help with your migraine and he is caring for the boys. Don't ask, just tell!!
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  • marcuejmarcuej member
    Ugh...so sorry DH is being such a baby.  And yes...that is the reason!  They are the biggest babies...especially when they are sick.  I can't imagine dealing with 2 crying babies when I have a migraine.  I wouldn't want to start a fight, but can you get him to come up and help you at least until your headache goes away?  If not, is there a friend or family member who can come give you some relief?  Sounds like your DH just needs drop the selfish act and come help you parent! 
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  • somethingchangdsomethingchangd member
    That is so so irritating.  You have every right to be pissed.  I hope you're able to make him realize he needs to get his sh!t together and be a grownup.  Hope you feel better soon.
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  • skoorbniborskoorbnibor member

    I am sorry, especially about the migraine... but I think I am the lone voice of dissent about his working time...

    as much as we Moms work 24/7, in my house, I have to repect that when Todd is working from home, he is working, and although that means that I can leave E with him to pee, but I can't take a nap or anything else, because he is actually working. Not nearly as hard as my job, but that job allows me to be a FT mom, so I have to respect that... 

    Now having said that, as far as the 4 hours from 430 to 830, yes, he needs to get over himself and help you and a sleep deprived Mom outweighs his cold any time!

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  • MewMewMewMew

    I don't get it. Men are suck babies.

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  • DenverGrlDenverGrl
    Men are the biggest babies! ?I would be furious! ?My husband is the same way. ?He gets a little cold and the world stops. ?I get sick and he's like "Oh you're fine."?
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  • JGirl2005JGirl2005 member

    are we married to the same person?  j/k

    My DH does that a lot.  He does work a lot though.  He was on morning calls starting at730am this morning and then he is on at night too.  But hey I work too....I had an 8am call and I had to rush to drop off DS.

    The reason I think he is like my DH is because my DH is 'always' sick.  Uhh, I never can put a sick day w/a kid.  So DS is 4mo and he has been sick 3 times - 2 times were false alarms, but still he couldn't help me as he didn't want to get DS sick.  He was sick on my first mothers day , so it pretty much sucked.

    Not sure of good advice as my DH does similar stuff....

    my one advice, I used to help DH more when he was sick - yes the world ends for him too - now I don't help him at all and he was pretty sick one time - 103 fever and locked pretty much in his room.  I just couldn't baby  him and get him food.  I did it one day, but honestly I had to take care of the kid, so..

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