Timeline for TTC #2 (or 3....)

lisap_30 · June 2009

So, just wondering, for those of you who already have one and plan to have more, what are your thoughts/plans if you want another??? (Heck, even if you don't have 1 yet....)

We want to have another, and ideally we'd like to have them be about 2-3 years apart. Right now, I'm thinking that closer to 2 years would be best, but it's a little freaky b/c it means we'd start TTC very very soon. I'm leaning this way for a few reasons: with my work, I think life would be easier having kids closer in age as far as shutting to daycare/school, etc., I also have fears about not being able to get PG quickly (even though I didn't have any problems the first time), I have a fear about having a m/c, I don't want to be "advanced maternal age" (which I will be if I don't get PG in the next 9 months), and I hear that 3 year olds can actually be worse than 2 year olds, so I figure why not have another before Jenna is 3....

Then I think maybe 3 years, that it would just be nice to have more space in between, it would give me another year to save leave to take, and all kinds of other stuff...

So, if it's not too personal, please share your thoughts on what you're planning (in a perfect world, of course)....

aubie96 · June 2009

guess I'll soon be in the "advanced maternal age" as my dr says I'll be high risk this year as I turn 35 (gee thanks....) so I just want to get to having one first and then we'll see if we can do 2. I'd want them to be a few years apart (would have prefered 5, but that's not possible now) so we'll see. Ask me again after I have one!!! LOL

MrsJRT · June 2009

Well with the whole pre eclampsia thing...ideally the doctors want me to have another one within 3 years of R.'s birth. We are thinking maybe starting to try next summer since Robinson will be 2....I'm still a little unsure if I want to risk another pregnancy, so this gives me time to digest/research and get my butt back into shape!

However, I'm now a week late and took a test this morning. It was BFN, but I am a little worried to say the least....hmmmmm

soon2Bmrs.AGEE · June 2009

Matt and I talked about this a lot before we decided. Matt has a daughter from a previous relationship and she lives with us. I love her to pieces and consider her my own but she is 8 yrs older than Lyla. While she is a great help with Lyla, I can't see them being really close until they are older. Also Taylor goes to her mom's every other wkend and Wednesdays. So, for Matt he had his two girls and was completely content. I, on the other hand was not content birthing only one child. Matt doesn't understand but I have a strong desire to birth another baby. It's a woman thing I guess. So I convinced him that our family would be even more perfect with one more baby and he agreed. Matt turns 33 this yr and he didn't want to get past 35 (for me its not an issue). We are 7 yrs apart.

We wanted the babies to be about 2-3 yrs apart in age, like you. If we were to get pregnant this cycle they would be right at 2.5 yrs apart and I think that is perfect. I hope you are able to figure out what is best for you. Babies are wonderful and I have the fever like CRAZY!! LOL

star21gazer · June 2009

Well ideally we would love to have #2 when #1 is between 3-4. My reasons are that's still a pretty close age range, but yet #1 hopefully would have some independence. I definitely don't want 2 in diapers...that gives me nightmares I'll be honest. Plus I want some time with #1 before even worrying about #2. And then if #1 was 4 when #2 was born he/she would be in preschool so I'd get some time with #1 as well..does that make sense?

I'll be 29 when #1 is born in October. So if I had #2 4 years later I'd be 32/33 depending on time of year. The only concern I have is how my endometriosis reacts after I have this first one. It took me 9 cycles/8 months to get pregnant with this one, so that leaves me wondering when would be ideal to start trying for number 2...so honestly we'll probably start trying sometime around when this one is 2.5.

And then again that could all change after I have one...the only thing I know for sure is I do not want 2 in diapers

allycat930 · June 2009

I think we decided that maybe sometime next year. I definitely want to wait till after my parents get home (even though now they may not end up back in Mobile). So sometime after March/April 2010 we would probably start trying.

I am like you, Lisa, that I want my kids close enough together so they can still be close and play together. I grew up with my brothers and I very close in age. Although we could fight like cats and dogs we also played ALOT together.

I think Cory wouldn't mind another child right now, but we both know that now isn't the time. There maybe some changes for us in the near future, plus I am not ready for another right now.

allycat930 · June 2009

MrsJRT:

Well with the whole pre eclampsia thing...ideally the doctors want me to have another one within 3 years of R.'s birth. We are thinking maybe starting to try next summer since Robinson will be 2....I'm still a little unsure if I want to risk another pregnancy, so this gives me time to digest/research and get my butt back into shape!

However, I'm now a week late and took a test this morning. It was BFN, but I am a little worried to say the least....hmmmmm

If you start trying in the summer next year we could be pregnant at the same time again!

sdkrlm · June 2009

Well I haven't had a cycle yet so we really can't TTC but I'm not on any birth control and if it happens now, great. I think I would actually like to get pg in August of this year! I am insane but I don't want to be pg in the summer again and Robert doesn't want to wait another year.

I think if you have a good support system with your hubs, you can do anything with the kids - it might be challenging with 2 under two, or 2 under 3 but I think that after the first 6 months, it woudln't be so bad.

Robert is "advanced paternal age" and his biological clock is ticking very loudly - LOL

uagirl · June 2009

Ideally, we would like ours about 18 months apart, and to be honest, we wouldn't mind 14 or 15 months apart.

I know, we're crazy.

Temp206787500007404 · June 2009

We'd love them to be 2-3 years apart, just for the sake of $$. Since we have to "buy" our babies, it would be nice to have that much time to save up!

But, we won't ever pull our profile our stop looking. So if we get another placement within the first year or two after our first baby arrives, we won't turn it down. We'll take out a home equity loan and max out our credit cards or borrow from family if we have to come up with the money to pay legal fees, birthmother living expenses, etc.

soon2Bmrs.AGEE · June 2009

sdkrlm:

Robert is "advanced paternal age" and his biological clock is ticking very loudly - LOL

LOL!! This is Matt now that we have decided to go forward. Ticking very loudly!! He even follows my cycle/chart with me.

MrsAO · June 2009

I think I'd like to start when #1 turns about 18 months, although it's likely that we may wait until he is 2. It took us 9 cycles to get pregnant, so I worry a little bit about that although I know it doesn't necessarily mean the same for the second time around. I'll be 32 in October so when we start trying again I'll be upon advanced maternal age, which worries me. Makes me think we should consider trying earlier. I'll guess we'll see how well we're doing with 1.

I would like to say that the most important thing I learned through out the whole TTC thing is that God is in control of it all. It certainly didn't happen the way I planned, because I wanted to be pregnant after 1 year of marriage but things happened and we had to put off trying. But when I finally got my BFP, it turned out to be perfect in terms of what was going on in our lives, and I know that I had absolutely nothing to do with it!

aubie96 · June 2009

soon2Bmrs.AGEE:
sdkrlm:

Robert is "advanced paternal age" and his biological clock is ticking very loudly - LOL

LOL!! This is Matt now that we have decided to go forward. Ticking very loudly!! He even follows my cycle/chart with me.

OMG, I feel like I should be somewhere else in my OLD freaking age!!! LOL I'll be 35 this year and Brad will be 40. Both clocks are ticking........

MissLMS · June 2009

Ideally we would like our children to be 3-5 years apart. My sister and I and DH and his brother are both 4 years apart in school, and our niece and nephew are also 3.5 years apart.

My reasoning is that I want as much time with Kennedy and enjoy her by herself before trying for another. Then, hopefully Miss K will be in pre-K so maybe it will give me some more individual time with child #2. Also, I don't want to have two in diapers at a time and would like for one child to be older and a little bit independent when #2 comes along. We also cannot afford daycare for two children at once and it would also be nice to have only one in college at a time.

We'll see though. If we wait four years, I will be around 32 and DH will be 34/35.

southernbelle82 · June 2009

well we're planning on trying for baby #2 next month. HOLY COW that sounds scary...next month. Indifferent

hlw082104 · June 2009

I always said I wanted my kids closer to 4 years a part, but I would honestly be thrilled to get pregnant now- they would be 2.5 years apart. I just don't know if it's the most responsible thing to do- we pay $6,000/yr. for daycare! We would definitely have to figure out another childcare option. And right now we have a 3br/2ba house so we really would need a bigger house because I work from home, and we are starting to outgrow our house now with just one child and all his stuff. DH's company is about to get restructured this month so we will know more soon and may feel more comfortable then about making some of these decisions.

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