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Cruel loss for a friend - I'm so sad for her

rispergirlrispergirl
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One of my friends found out during her first pregnancy that she and her husband are CF carriers.  Their son turned out to be healthy, thankfully.  They really wanted more children, but made the decision not to have anymore because of the risk.  It was something they forced themselves to make peace with, but it was always a loss for them. 

A few weeks ago she told me that, miraculously, she was pregnant in spite of BC.  They were nervous but very excited and we all felt it must be a gift because they wanted another baby but wouldn't have tried for one.  Well, yesterday she went in for a routine check at 16 weeks and there was no h/b.  The baby must have just died because it measured on time.  I'm so very sad for her.  This seems like such a cruel loss.  She had finally settled on not having any more children, then got excited about being pregnant in spite of her fear, now this.  

It's amazing to me how much harder these losses hit me now that I have my babies.  Before I was pregnant, I always hated m/c stories, but now maybe the connection between a pregnancy and these smiling little children is stronger for me and it hurts even more.  I hate IF and losses.  It's just so wrong and unfair.  I feel as gloomy as the weather today.

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  • FaithRocksFaithRocks member
    That's just terrible. I will keep her and her family in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • lolalillielolalillie
    Oh my goodness, that is so incredibly terrible and just so cruel :( I just cannot even imagine the immense pain that she and her family are in :(
    It took over four years to be diagnosed with PCOS. We TTC #1 for 18 months, did 5 rounds of Clomid and finally moved onto IVF...which worked! Throughout our IF journey, we suffered 3 miscarriages. We conceived both DD and DS without treatment.
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  • TakYelgifTakYelgif

    That is so sad I will be thinking of her and her family.

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  • krissyh21krissyh21 member
    That is terrible. I am so sorry your friend is going through this.
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  • JillRock96JillRock96 member
    That is so terrible -- to have such a miracle and then lose it so suddenly. ?I agree with you that losses (particularly late ones) are so magnified for me now that Ava is here. ?What a cruel loss. ?Thinking of her today.
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  • somethingchangdsomethingchangd member
    That's a tragic story.  I'm so sorry.
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  • skoorbniborskoorbnibor member
    I am  sorry, that is just so sad...
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  • 12106mrsmun12106mrsmun
    Oh how awful!  I am so sorry for your friend.  Many prayers said for her and her husband.
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  • oct11bride03oct11bride03
    How horrible...I'm so sorry for their loss.
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  • alison43alison43
    That's awful.  I'm so sorry and I'll keep her family in my thoughts.
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  • cjsbdlcjsbdl member
    How awful.
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  • rispergirlrispergirl
    Thank you guys so much for letting me share and for the thoughts and prayers.  I think this group has a real power in that way, so hopefully she'll feel the love coming her way today.
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  • TheSkimmyTheSkimmy member
    That is so horrible. There are too many stories like this.
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