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Lancy1269
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Daycare vent(s)- longish
Lancy1269
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Vent #1: When dropping DS off today, I talked to one of the workers about his feeding schedule. The past couple of days he has had 8oz bottles every 3 hours (has been every 4 hours for almost 3 months). Furthermore, he's not drinking all of the bottle. The worker explained that there are new employees who don't know the feeding schedules yet, but she knows I'm "strict" about his schedule, so they will make sure he gets fed every 4 hours.
"Strict"? I don't think not wanting my child to over eat is "strict", nor do I think not wanting workers to waste MY money by mixing formula that won't get used is being "strict." I HATE that because I have my son on a routine, follow safety guidelines, and follow a feeding schedule, I am considered "strict" or "by the book" (as my MIL commented once).
Vent #2: Another worker (who is usually super sweet) asked if I brought wipes today. I told her that I was unaware that he was running low on wipes, as it wasn't written on the daily sheet from yesterday. She got all pissy, rolling her eyes and sighing. The other worker (from vent #1) assured me that they could borrow wipes from another kid until I bring some in the next day.
Dude, my kid already pooped today. You don't have to use wipes unless he poops again. I will bring in a new pack tomorrow (for the 2 days he has left there). You're telling me he has a few left, so what's the big f-ing deal?
This is his last week with that daycare, as my work schedule is changing, and he will go to a part-time home daycare. I was originally sad about this, but after the attitude today, I will welcome the change!
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Re: Daycare vent(s)- longish
You only use wipes when he poops?
Also, I live in SA-- I'd like to avoid this place, where does DS go?
Yep, I only wipe him when he poops. When he pees, it is absorbed into the diaper (cloth or disposable). I've always done that!
He goes to Discovery World Learning Center on Fountainwood/Judson (NE). I usually have very minor problems with it (mostly related to my own issues with leaving him at ANY daycare). Today just rubbed me the wrong way! A little part of me thinks they are being a little passive aggressive, since this will be his last week.
I don't know anyone who doesn't use wipes when their child urinates. So your irritation with your daycare is a bit harsh.
As for being strict - bottom line is - you are strict with his feeding. Your child is 6 months old and most people I know are less worried about specific feeding schedules and such - and more about whether their child is hungry.
Infants don't "over-eat".
You just can't expect them to follow the same schedule to a "t" at daycare that they follow at home.
DS eats 6-8 oz bottles 5 times a day, for me....whenever I have him.
He grazes at d/c rarely drinking more than 4 oz. at once.
This has not killed him, or affected him in any way that i can discern.
Hi, everyone jumping down my throat. It's called a "vent". I'm pissed. Not asking for advice.
Judge me all you want for not using wipes when my child urinates. He's not getting diaper rashes from my actions (or in-actions), so I'm not concerned. As a former direct care worker with special needs infants, I was taught not to always wipe when a child urinates, as the chemicals in the wipes would irritate their skin. Therefore, that is ingrained in my mind, and I carried that into my parenting. And judge me for not following the all powerful "feeding on demand" that a lot of parents choose to do. I don't. I have a schedule, one that DS set for himself.
And it's not so much my irritation with using wipes, or even with the way they feed bottles (I've worked in daycare settings. I'm not naive to think they will follow my home schedule.) It's the attitude that I received from them that rubbed me the wrong way. Yes, my son is healthy and thriving. Extra bottles will not kill him. But is it too much to ask that you follow the freaking feeding schedule that you require me to fill out at the beginning of the month? I mean, it's there for a reason.
So back the F off!
And sorry if I sound all b!tchy-- I'm at work, and it's pissing me off too!
Yea - you sound strict for sure.
That's fine. You can make assumptions about me from the one time I post a vent on here.
Annnnnnnnndddd DONE. Have to actually get to work now (day of lurking is over for me), so everyone feel free to continue bashing my parenting. Get some entertainment out of it-- I always do when I read other bashing posts (it's a sick sick pleasure of everyones, admit it!)
Yea - then go home and feed your kid. He's hungry.
I never post anything I intend to be critical, but just to offer a different perspective, I don't think you can expect it to be intuitive for the daycare not to wipe your son after he pees or to only feed him (at 6 months old) according to a specific schedule. I'm also really surprised he can drink a 8 oz bottle...my 11 month old only takes 6 oz at a time - he would puke all over me if I gave him an 8 oz bottle. Also, doesn't he ever poop more than once a day? Again, I'm not judging you but I think most families use wipes at every diaper changing and feed the baby whenever the baby is hungry, so that is what daycare is accustom to doing. I don't think anything they're doing is unreasonable.
The eye rolling and calling you strict are out of line, however.
I'm also not sure why you would bother posting this on a message board if you weren't interested in feedback.
I am not here to criticize either. You do have a right to be mad at the way they treated and talked to you. It is probably best to be out of that place. And, I have heard of people who do not wipe for just wet diapers. We didn't do that, but I have heard of it.
I was a lot more particular with my first born about feeding schedules, etc, so I completely understand that. But, with time and after having a second child, this stuff won't quite bother you as much as they do in this moment. Daycares are typically quite experienced in managing feeding schedules, but there has to be a degree of flexibility there since they are watching other children, who are all probably due to eat at the exact same time as your dc.
I am glad you had the chance to vent. I know sometimes I do that, not realizing that some people may actually come back and judge and criticize your choices. You are the mom, and seem like a pretty good one, so ultimately, you shouldn't have to be judged for the decisions you make for your child.
I'd be super annoyed at their attitude. But, some of it comes with the territory ... like them forgetting to tell you about the wipes and wasting formula. Sometimes you just have to pick your battles b/c a little wasted formula is worth good care for your DC. I'd rather have that than a skipped feeding. KWIM?
And, sometimes it goes both ways. The other week daycare had to send home 3 notes about needing diapers b/c my DH forgot to bring them each day.
I'd have to agree with this.
There's the real issue. You're pi$$ed because he's not drinking all of his bottle, so you feel you're wasting money. My husband had this to say: make smaller bottles.
Which part of this is following safety guidelines? I fail to see the connection.
As usual, I agree with AlisaS - you ARE strict. Infants don't over-eat.
Would I be annoyed that DCP rolled their eyes at me? Sure. But you're overreacting.
Ditto AlisaS! And I normally don't agree with her...lol. I can't imagine feeding my 6-month-old every four hours, every single day. What happens if he's hungry every 3 hours? Every 2? He's so tiny still at this point. Maybe he could do 6 ounce bottles every 3 hours. That's what my daughter was drinking at 6 months (with 3 small meals thrown in). Babies change! He's not always going to be on your schedule.
P.S We use wipes 99% of the time (sometimes I'm in a hurry with a pee diaper and skip). I thought that was the norm...never heard otherwise.
Could the eye rolling have not been at you? You said there are new people in your son's room. Maybe there have been other small issues and the eye rolling was more about that than you.
More like, I can't believe they screwed this up too
DD #1 passed away in January 2011 at 14 days old due to congenital heart disease
DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption