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Parenting after a Loss
JessMike07
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Need some reassurance re: labor/birth
JessMike07
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I'm to the point I'm terrified and freaking myself out. I'm at the point that I feel like I can't and don't want to do this. (Little late now, huh? LOL) Any words of wisdom or things that you did that helped you?? TIA
~Jess & Mike May 12, 2007
12.6.07 CP at 5w
5.21.08 BO discovered at 7w, D&E at 8w3d
8.31.08 CP at 4w5d
BFP Sept 25, 2008 bfp buddy lkstor Landon born June 6, 2009
3.25.11 missed m/c discovered at 9w6d, D&E at 10w2d
4.28.11 MTHFR a1298c homozygous discovered
4.2011 Began NaProTechnology
10.12.11 Diagnosed with Type III Luteal Phase Defect
10.2011 Starting hcg injections on 5, 7 & 9 dpo
BFP 12.7.11 - EDD 8.14.12 - IT'S A BOY! Fruit Baby
Life During and After RPL
12.6.07 CP at 5w
5.21.08 BO discovered at 7w, D&E at 8w3d
8.31.08 CP at 4w5d
BFP Sept 25, 2008 bfp buddy lkstor Landon born June 6, 2009
3.25.11 missed m/c discovered at 9w6d, D&E at 10w2d
4.28.11 MTHFR a1298c homozygous discovered
4.2011 Began NaProTechnology
10.12.11 Diagnosed with Type III Luteal Phase Defect
10.2011 Starting hcg injections on 5, 7 & 9 dpo
BFP 12.7.11 - EDD 8.14.12 - IT'S A BOY! Fruit Baby
Life During and After RPL
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Re: Need some reassurance re: labor/birth
First off, I can't believe you're 39 weeks! Yay!
I felt the same way, but once everything starts, those feelings went out of the window for me. You'll be surprised when the time comes, all of those fears leave.
Best of luck!!!
I know how you feel. I remember standing in the bathroom leaking amniotic fluid everywhere thinking "I am not ready" and stil wondering exactly "HOW" the baby was supposed to get out. And then when the nurse told me to push and I just looked at her and said "now?, I'm not ready"
I was super scared and then everything was so much easier than I had imagined. I just kept reminding myself that I and everyone one else got here some how so it does work.
Good Luck and just keep your eye on outcome, your beautiful baby! It's all SOOO worth it.
I know it is clich? but once you see your baby it will be all worth it
Good luck and make sure to update us when you can!
Most people I know both on here and in real life--- with only a few exceptions-- say that labor and delivery was better than what they had imagined. I know I was definitely in that category.
Plus, like pp have said, sooooo worth it to hold that baby after!! Good luck!
I remember when I was ready to push with DD, DH grabbed my hand and I looked at him and said, "I am so scared." What helped me was to make sure I fully understood everything that was happening/they were doing to me. Make them tell you what is going on and involve you in the decisions. But on the other hand, I had to know when it was out of my hands and I had to relinquish control: my induction failed and I ended up with a c-section. When they put me on the table to start, I had to focus on calming myself and realizing that the OB had it all under control from then on.
I know that mine is not the cheery "I went into labor, pushed and a baby came out" story, sorry!
(m/c 1.17.07, m/c 5.15.07)
DS - 03.15.08
DD2 - 12.03.09
DD3 - 3.28.11
Some of the mantras that I used throughout my pregnancy and labor were:
"I am the exact right parent for this child and this child is the exact right child for me."
"Inhale comfort, exhale discomfort/pain."
And my favorite... "I have everything I need to birth this baby."
You can do it! Big Hugs and good luck.
I listened to a hypnobirthing CD in preparation and one mantra of sorts was that each "pressure wave" brings you one step closer to meeting your baby. ?Though it was cheesy to hear before labor, it really did help to remind me during labor that I was working towards something.
We all have fears going into labor, but I think most of them are because this is something totally new. ?When contractions started I was shocked at how similar they felt to pms cramps; I remember thinking "wow, this is familiar. ?I can do this," once it started, despite being totally scared beforehand.??
You can do it!!!
When the time comes your mind doesn't go to "fear" it goes somewhere else!! Just keep in mind that you will be holding your little one soon!!!!
if i can make it through labor and being at the hospital, anyone can. i faint at the eye dr, i get lightheaded at any kind of gory movie (including Tropic Thunder, funny but too gory) so i was TERRIFIED of actually having a baby. i know exactly what you feel like, but let me tell you, all of the things that i thought were gonna hurt, didnt. i had cervadil for 12 hours- didnt hurt, epidural-didnt hurt, them breaking my water- didnt hurt, putting in the internal moniter- didnt hurt, getting a catheter- didnt hurt. the worst was the IV!!!!
if you think about it as being such a short time in your life of pain and that it will be over soon, you can do it. i was so scared to push, but if you just give it your all at each contraction, your LO will be here before you know it. i promise. i was in a completely different mindset once i got to the hospital. its amazing what kind of stregnth you can pull from. you will do great- i promise!!
just remember that the pain of labor is temporary and you get the most fabulous reward at the end.
and one word. EPIDURAL.
One thing... as soon as I was holding my little one in my arms I forgot about all of the pain (until I woke up the next morning and had to go to the restroom
)
It's so worth it... worth it enough to tell DH that I'd do it again two days after giving birth.