Throwing a sprinkle this weekend and.....

specopswife · June 2009

So, I'm throwing a "sprinkle" for a friend of mine this weekend. It's a "sprinkle" because it's her second child and their having another girl. She doesn't need that many things but I just wanted to throw her a little party to celebrate. There will be 10 of us total so I am having it at a tea room where they will be serving a Lady's luncheon tea which I thought would be nice. I had to make reservations weeks ago and pre-pay and order from the menu which will cost $15 a person which I thought wasn't bad and well worth it to me. Anyways, I got an rsvp today from someone and they said they were bringing their daughter as well. She didn't ask me, she just told me she was bringing her which I assumed she thought it was ok. My friend whom I'm throwing the shower for never told me she would be bringing her daugher and I'm not even sure she knew since she just gave me the name and address for her friend and not her daughter. I'm sure I probably could try and change the reservations for an extra person but I feel like she put me in an awkward situation to try and have to change the reservation which I'm not even sure I can do yet and then basically pay and extra $15 because her daughter is coming. I'm just a little annoyed too that she didn't even ask me if it was ok, she just told me she was gonna bring her. I don't know how much fun a 7 year old would have at a baby shower that will be held at a tea room with a bunch of adults? I'm just not really sure how to handle this situation. I guess maybe I should just try to change the reservation if I can and pay the extra money and just hope it all works out. Ugh, just what I need to deal with last minute.

AshNicole331 · June 2009

That sucks and was pretty rude. Just pay the extra $15 and call it a day,

avbliss · June 2009

Does the friend realize that her daughter will be the ONLY one there? I would see if one of the other friend could talk to her about how formal this shower is going to be and see if she still wants to bring her daughter. Take the approach of you all would love to have her there but you don't want her to be bored and lonely being the only child at the party. That way your concern is for the child, and not your pocket book, and won't be offensive. But for the record it was rude of her to assume an invitation for her included her daughter. If you wanted to invite her daughter her name should have been on the invite as well. I hope everything turns out okay.

specopswife · June 2009

Thanks, I didn't want to have to put my friend in that position as well since she is the guest of honor I didn't want her to worry about it. So, I was just going to see if they could accomodate and extra person so I don't have to deal with it but I just think her daughter might be bored and I don't want the other guests to feel awkward because she is there. I might just have to say something to my friend and see how she feels about it. If she doesn't care then it's up to her since it's her party but I didn't know if I should bring it up to her and make her worry about it.

mani_and_me · June 2009

That is very rude of her to RSVP for her daughter and not ask if it was okay for her to attend first. I would call her and tell her that you will not be able to accomodation her daughter.

powerbar · June 2009

Tell her you are sorry that it was not clear but that the shower is for for adult women only and that you already had to confirm the numbers with the venue (for food/favors/seating/drinks etc) If you are able to, offer a suggestion for child care if that is her concern. I would not treat it any differently just because it is a daughter. What if someone wanted to bring their husband or something? Otherwise, say you sorry but that the shower is for adult women only and that you already had to confirm and paid the venue, and say if she would like to bring her, that you respectively request that she covers the cost.

SAMANTHAGP · June 2009

In my family, it has always been the more the merrier. However, that sounds like a very adult-like event. Most little girls would be bored out of their minds. Is she aware of the event-type? Perhaps you could just follow up with her and make sure she does. But as a hostess, you can't do much else if she choses to bring the daughter. At least she called, right?

specopswife · June 2009

So, I just talked to the guest of honor about all this and she said she did say to her friend she could bring her daughter because she says her daughter goes with her everywhere. So, there was a miscommunication since my friend had never told me this and I guess her friend thought I already knew since I guess she got the ok from the guest of honor. I just told my friend that I thought her daughter might be bored since she will be the only kid there. But, if she invited her then there is not much I can do now. I feel a little lame now though that I was the only one that was not informed and I'm hosting the darn thing!

mani_and_me · June 2009

Well it's a good thing you spoke to the guest of honor about this first instead of the other lady. It would have been nice if she had given you heads up on this.

hopefulmom · June 2009

Hopefully the mother-to-be doesn't have other friends who have kids that "go everywhere with them"...or you might really find yourself with a dilemna. I think I'd ask if there are others that didn't RSVP correctly. Better to know in advance!

BTW...it was STILL very rude of the guest to just add her daughter on the RSVP when the invite had only her name on it. She should have called you, the host first. Besides...so what if the daughter goes everywhere with her mother...which is hard to believe. Although maybe the mother doesn't get out much. I know I go to a lot of places that do not allow 7 year olds.

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