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Baby Shower...When was it planned?

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When did people start talking to you about hosting your baby shower?? The reason I ask is because I am heading down the path of week 25 and a few people have asked if I am having one, and a few people have said they would like to throw me one, but nothing has happened yet as far as planning goes. They haven't asked for people I would like to invite, or dates that work for me. Also, there are some family I know from out of town that I want to come, but they need notice as well. And since the summer is coming, lots of people already have plans. I am worried because some of the people who said they wanted to host one, are a little flaky. I love them, but I know it's not gonna happen. My Mom wants to host one, and bless her heart she has done so much for the baby already that I really feel she shouldn't have to. I don't want to start asking people because I don't want it to seem like I am being pushy or rude, I just want to know so I don't make plans and I can set things aside. Also, I really would like on to be co-ed because I want my dad, Stepdad and DH to come to one. And I don't know how to address that with anyone since no one is really talking to me about things. I almost want to start planning one myself because being the control freak that I am, I know it would get done, planned in advance with enough notice for people, and I wouldn't be worrying like I am about things falling into play last minute and me already having plans. TIA!
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  • IdahoGirlIdahoGirl

    That is a challenge, isn't it :(

    Unfortunately, I think that like a lot of things, a shower is sort of a gift, so you can't really say much.  If your mom wants to throw it, I'd let her and mention it to the friends that have wanted to throw you one - then they can volunteer to help her out.

    That's the only way I can think of to deal with that one....but someone else may have a better idea :)

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    I kind of went through this same sort of situation when I was pregnant.  I wouldn't say the people who mentioned throwing me a shower were flaky, I am just such a planner.  Anyway, I just shot one of my girlfriends that had mentioned it an email and said something like:

    When I first found out I was pregnant, you mentioned throwing a shower for me.  I know it's a lot of work and stuff, so if you'd rather not, I totally understand.  If you do want to, though, do you have an idea when you were thinking of doing it? 

    I felt pretty close to her, though, so I was more than comfy bringing it up.  I think there are only like five people (including family) in all the world that I'd be comfortable enough to ask like that. 

    Anyway, good luck.  I think by 25 weeks, I'd at least want to know when it was going to be and who was throwing it.

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  • Nancy_DrewNancy_Drew

    My shower for Audrey was around 32-33 weeks.  June 3rd actually.  I was due July 19th.  (I wanted to have enough time to still buy everything I needed. 

    My Mom and Aunt were the hosts.  I knew what I wanted it to include so helped ALOT with everything.  I made the invites, the favors, etc.....Really I sent an e-mail with everything I had envisioned when they asked me what my thoughts were.  (I wanted a brunch and I wanted to make the cake and have cupcakes as favors so of course I would do those)  ;)

    It is tough when you know the ball should be rolling very soon.  Maybe bring it up to your mom that people are asking and if she has any ideas?  OR MAYBE, they are planning a suprise shower????  ;)

    I'm having a "sprinkle" this time on July 11th.  I know nothing about it.  Only the date and place.  This time I'm OK with that.  Last time, with #1, I was pretty obsessed.  :)  (but it's 1.5 hours away from my ENTIRE family.  I don't know if anyone will come.  It's being hosted by 2 of my SIL's so it'll be really DH's family)  :(

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  • llking_2984llking_2984
    imageIdahoGirl:

    Unfortunately, I think that like a lot of things, a shower is sort of a gift, so you can't really say much. 

    That's how feel also too. Which is why I don't want to seem like I am pushing it for that reason. I really just want to see all these people including those I only see at big family events so they can share in the joy of the baby. I know my Mom can throw the shower, I just feel like she has gone above and beyond so much already with doing things for me and the baby. But I guess that's what happens sometimes when you are the first to have a baby in your family.

    And Emma, thanks for that great idea. I might throw that out there. And I too would only really comfortable saying that to a few people, some being my close family.

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  • IdahoGirlIdahoGirl
    imagellking_2984:
    imageIdahoGirl:

    Unfortunately, I think that like a lot of things, a shower is sort of a gift, so you can't really say much. 

    That's how feel also too. Which is why I don't want to seem like I am pushing it for that reason. I really just want to see all these people including those I only see at big family events so they can share in the joy of the baby. I know my Mom can throw the shower, I just feel like she has gone above and beyond so much already with doing things for me and the baby. But I guess that's what happens sometimes when you are the first to have a baby in your family.

    I get what you mean and how you feel, I totally know where your head is at...but I'd just let her do it if she wants to.  My guess is that she gets as much joy out of it as anyone. You've mentioned she likes to spoil the s-kiddos....I'd let her do this fun thing too :)

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  • llking_2984llking_2984

    Thanks ladies. And Nancy_Drew, I never thought of a surprise shower lol. But I think you and I are very similar in I would love to be able to help with things a little.

    And IG, you're right, I will let her do what she wants. I know she is enjoying all of this more then anyone else. =]

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  • JRS72206JRS72206
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    When I first found out I was pregnant, you mentioned throwing a shower for me.  I know it's a lot of work and stuff, so if you'd rather not, I totally understand.  If you do want to, though, do you have an idea when you were thinking of doing it? 

    This sounds good! 

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