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Why is it that....

gwenadellagwenadella
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if anyone posts anything on this board about being slightly disapointed that they didn't recieve gifts from their registry that they are being ungrateful and not "financially responsible for their child"? I just find it funny. Usually it is at least once a week that someone will post that they are surprised that they didn't get alot off their registry---- most expectant mothers spend a million hours trying to figure out the right things to register for and I can totally understand when you have a shower you expect to recieve the things you put on your registry----WHY even create one if you aren't expecting it? I don't mean to come off as ungrateful at all--it is wonderful that people bring gifts but if you go through the trouble of buying a gift why not get what the couple needs or asked for?

 

I am sure I am going to be flamed for this as all the other mothers who have said something have.... but I can totally understand what others are saying.

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  • mrs.schwerymrs.schwery

    I agree with you.. This all happened to me this morning.  I'm over it, I know that I'm financially responsible for my child.  Just let it roll off your shoulders.

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  • DonnysBride09DonnysBride09
    i agree with you. im not ungreatful at all.. but if youre going to buy anyways, it would be soooo much easier to buy what im asking for. my cousin sent a $40 roxy dress in a size 24 months!!!! um... we kinda need diapers more than that  right now. GREAT jesture... appreciated it, its put away for her (when shes 2!!) but i feel it was a waste.. JMO tho.
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  • gwenadellagwenadella
    imagemrs.schwery:

    I agree with you.. This all happened to me this morning.  I'm over it, I know that I'm financially responsible for my child.  Just let it roll off your shoulders.

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  • mrsekinsmrsekins
    I see it both ways.  Some people probably are being ungrateful, while others are genuinely surprised.  But anyone that's going to make a comment on a public board needs to be prepared for their words to be taken in different ways...
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  • mrsmelmrsmel member

    no flames here.

    i think a lot of it is how the poster phrases things. if they complain that they didn't get what they wanted like a child, then they may deserve a little chastising. people were not put on this plant to shower them with gifts. but if someone just mentions they are surprised so many people didn't look at the registry, then i think that's a fine comment.

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  • NDwife07NDwife07

    I kinda agree.

    For me, it's because I would never in a million years show up to a shower without a gift receipt. Having registered for wedding gifts and now baby gifts, I know how much time and energy it takes to choose the "right" products for your lifestyle. I think it's incredibly inconsiderate for a guest to ignore that, unless it's a handmade or other type of thoughtful gift.

    I'm sure we're all very grateful for the gifts and support from everyone, regardless, but when it's something you can't use it's a waste of money for the gift-giver.

    I dont' care if I get flamed for that.

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  • browneyes_24bbrowneyes_24b

    To a lot of people in my family - the idea of a registry is foreign and unnecessary.  I think people get used to the idea that they are entitled to what they register for - with no control or knowledge of guests that will be buying presents for them.

    I personally am one who rolls eyes at people who are dissapointed when they don't get something off their registry.  In my opinion, it is a recommendation in case someone doesn't know what to buy as a gift.  It's almost as ridiculous of a concept as someone having a Birthday Registry.

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  • NikkiMarieNikkiMarie

    I too don't see the big deal. I understand that different people think differently about showers in general, but I am not one of them. I love showers- bridal and baby. I love shopping for gifts and seeing the mom's face when she gets something that I know she wants. I would never get something that was not on the registry, and I always give a gift receipt too. On that note, I do get kinda annoyed when people don't do the same, but I guess that is my fault. 

    What are you gonna do, right?

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  • ~BeesBoo~~BeesBoo~
    Eh - I did a registry too, but who am I to tell people how to spend their money, even if they are spending it on me and my baby?
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  • NMangerNManger member
    I think a registry is a guideline or suggestion for gift ideas for people who want to use it. Some people just prefer to pick up a gift that they like and many of my older relatives have no idea how to use a registry or do not have access to stores other than the closest to them. I was just as happy with the gifts that were not on my registry. What annoyed me n more about my shower were the people who couldn't bother to RSVP! That is my pet peeve!  Barely anyone called to say whether or not they would be there.
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