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I know it's our fault...but
does anyone have any tips on getting our little one to sleep in her own bed? It all started when I decided to go back to work, I wanted her to sleep with us for just one night and here we are 9 months later and she is still sleeping with us. I guess I always rationalized it by saying if she would STTN we could put her in her bed but it is just easier to tend to her when she is lying next to us. Now, everyone says if you would put her in her own bed she would STTN. Who knows? Not me that's for sure, but I would love to hear any suggestions! Thanks. Oh yes I must say we did put her in her bed last night and she made it for about 4 hrs or so but after that we couldn't get her back to sleep until we brought her into our bed and even then it took for ever for her to settle down. Bring on the flames, but hopefully with suggestions, because I know we have it all messed up. Thanks again.
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Re: I know it's our fault...but
You take my ovaries, I take your yarns.
Ditto this. And don't listen to people who tell you otherwise. DS didn't STTN regularly until he was about 15 months old, and he was in his own crib the whole time.
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
"Want what you have, do what you can, be who you are." - Rev. Forrest Church
The only suggestion I have is CIO. It works, but it's not fun. We did it with DS1 and he turned into a great sleeper and still is, but I honestly don't know if we'll do it with DS2. It was a ROUGH few days and I just don't know if I have it in me this time.
Do you *want* her out of your bed or do you just feel like she's *supposed* to be in her own bed? If it's the latter, I would just leave things as is -- start the night with her in her own bed and bring her into yours when she wakes up. She won't wake in the night forever, so she'll eventually start STTN in her own room. We put DS2 in his bed until he wakes for his first feeding and then he sleeps with us until morning. It's nice bcause H and I still get some alone time together in our bed, but we all sleep well and get snuggle time with DS2.
If you really want her in her own room/bed, I'd research the different methods of sleep training and choose one that you're most comfortable with. For us, we did a modified CIO. The first night we went in and patted DS1's back and told him it was "okay" every 3 minutes, but never picked him up. The next night, we went in every 5 minutes. The next every 8. The first night took a over an hour, the second we had to go in twice and the third we didn't have to go in at all -- he just fussed a tiny bit before falling asleep. We did it at 6 months and then again around 8 after he'd been sick and got all funky with his sleep habits.
Good luck!
this! If you are fine with her being in your bed, then leave it all as is=) We used CIO out with our DS and it worked in less than a week.
Girl, enjoy that cuddle time while you can, and don't listen to anyone who tries to tell you what you're doing is "wrong."
There is NOTHING in this world like waking up to beautiful baby smile.
You take my ovaries, I take your yarns.
Coming in late to this -
If you are wanting her to sleep in her own bed I would just continue doing what you started. start her off in her bed and then bring to your bed in the night. I imagine as time goes on she will sleep longer and longer in her own bed. I wouldn't worry too much about this, it will work itself out.
Been there, done that. And I would bet most parents, at some time or another, have done similar, whether they will admit it or not. In our case, DD was sleeping through the night at 10 weeks. At 5 months, she had a cold and I sat up holding her for several nights. After that, she wouldn't go back to sleep in her crib. I was so exhausted from the nights that I was holding her all night, I said, "just this once, I'll let her sleep in my bed..." well, she was in our bed until she was 12 months old. Looking back, it wasn't that big of a deal. (although I thought I was a horrible mom for allowing it to happen and I wouldn't admit it to anyone at the time!) I loved having her with us and the truth is, you have a whole lot of parenting ahead of you. These months that your DC has been in bed with you is really such a short time out of their whole childhood, you might as well enjoy it and ignore what anyone else says.
And to tell you another truth, it will happen again. You'll finally get your DC into her own bed and then 6 months later, she'll be back because she is afraid of the dark. You'll get her back into her own bed and then 6 months later it will be something else. And every time it happens, you'll be glad because she'll be growing up so fast, you'll be glad for one more night (or more like a month of nights) with her.
This. We did CIO at 4 months and he's been a good sleeper ever since. My cousin's daughter still sleeps with her and she's 6 years old.
I love cosleeping. My son just left our bed (almost 3) and we love sleeping with our baby.
There are some people who sleep with older children (6...7) but I have never heard of anyone who did so INVOLUNTARILY. Just b/c it's a nightmare scenario to some posters doesn't mean that the parents of those kids feel the same way.
The no cry sleep solution has tips on how to end cosleeping if you feel like the time is right. Or you could CIO, obviously but that doesn't appeal to most cosleepers (myself included).