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WWYD?

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Surprise surprise I got a negative beta today.

I start a new job on June 15th. ?If all goes according to plan (and really when does it ever?) ?My RE thinks I could start stimming day 3 and have ER the weekend of the 13th. ? I'd tell my new boss "hey, before you hired me I had a small non-boob job surgery scheduled. ?I will be taking two days off." He wouldn't need to know it is for transfer. ?No big deal.

If we don't do an IVF now I don't know when our next chance will be. ?Probably my next hiatus which is about 9 months away. ?

Here's the problems. ?My FIL is dying. ?Like in the next few months dying. That weekend is my DH's cousin's wedding, across the country. ?We were going to go and DH would get to see FIL again. ?(Though he does go out to visit at least ever other week even without the wedding).

I don't want to keep DH away from FIL. ?PLUS this is two HUGE emotional things on my DH's plate.

?Would you wait 9 months and let things with FIL happen?or we you rush in to one last try?

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  • chrissyt27chrissyt27
    That's tough. I don't know if I could wait. But things always seem to go wrong, if you stim longer than your ER would be the 15th or 16th then you would really be screwed, or not, hopefully your work would understand. 9 months is a super long time to wait. I really don't know what I would do. Good luck with making the choice.
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  • HarleyQ8HarleyQ8
    Oh wow. I agree with how to handle your boss.  What does your DH say about missing the wedding? 
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  • poomanpooman member

    DH is on the "let's do it" side. ?I"m the one that feels like for his sake we should wait.

    this is major suck.?

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    I would wait. But that's just me.
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  • *jenjen**jenjen*
    Could your RE put you on bcp so that it would push your cycle back a couple weeks so that you could still go to the wedding and see your FIL? ?Then you could start your cycle after, or would that timing affect your new job too much? ?I dont think i would miss out on the wedding (chance to see FIL).
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  • katerenakaterena
    I can completely see how you would want to wait.  For both of your sakes.  Sounds like you have so much on your plate, and I'm so sorry about your FIL.  Big hugs to you, give it a few long honest conversations with your husband and you guys will figure out what feels right for you, I would hesitate to make a decision quickly, let this one marinate a bit.  We're here when you need us!!
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  • poomanpooman member
    Thank you ladies. ?We will have a lot to talk about this weekend.
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