what's your biggest baby anxiety?

Angelene&Jon · May 2009

I've been feeling freaked lately about the baby coming and how things will be changing. Now don't get me wrong, because I am so very excited for our little girl to come. I think it must be normal to have some apprehension about the changes. But I am anxious about how things might change between DH and I. Anyone else feeling this? One part of me says: if you know this is your biggest anxiety then you can work to avoid it. Then another part of me says: so many couples get overwhelmed and don't spend the time on their relationship that they need to without it being the fault of ANYONE. Anyway... that's just what I'm feeling...

What is your biggest anxiety about baby's arrival?

afg · May 2009

I used to be a nanny and have cared for two babies (one from 8mths, another from newborn and up) within the same family so everyone seems to think that I know everythign there is to know about babies. I get "at least you've had some practise" from SO many ppl, which yes I have but this is my first time as a MOM and it's different. So I'm worried about letting everyone down and being a disapointment as a mom.

*polarbear* · May 2009

Oooo good question.

I would say health. I want this baby to be 100% happy and healthy (duh right , who doesnt) there is no reason he will not be healthy it's just my biggest fear being a 1st timer. EVERYTHING to go perfect. Including this damn GD test next week. I have been worried about that.

cutelilfishstick · May 2009

Giving him a bath- FREAKS ME OUT! I'm terrified of water (yes I realize its not a lot of water in a baby bath).

chels0120 · May 2009

That IS my biggest anxiety... what will DH and I be like after. Scares me.

*polarbear* · May 2009

By the way... nice due date Wink

thequeeenbee · May 2009

I always just have the irrational fear that I won't know what to do with it. I keep having these dreams where I have the baby... and I keep sitting it down in weird places because I don't know where to put it. Like, I'll sit it on the kitchen countertop, and it will almost fall off, so I will lay it in the kitchen sink so it won't fall off... then I'll forget where I put it.

I guess that's just my brain telling me that I'm nervous... Tongue Tied

My biggest (rational) fear, that the next few years will be very hard. DH has just started school again to finish his degree, so life will be good for the LO, but it's going to be tough until he finishes next year. The plan was for me to go full time SAHM but now I know it would be best for me to pick up some part-time work since he's in school. I just hope I can peel myself away from LO...

kiki-W · May 2009

i am up at night worried i will have another NICU baby.

NikkiMarie · May 2009

my biggest fear- being a mom...being left alone with her and not knowing what to do.

Squishycheeks · May 2009

Finding out that something is wrong with the baby healthwise because of something I did wrong during this pregnancy. I could never forgive myself!

Angelene&Jon · May 2009

*polarbear*:
By the way... nice due date

A labour buddy! Finally!!!!

mrsmel · May 2009

that things with dh and i will get totally boring and lame and we will loose "us"

and that i will totally miss such an obvious thing about my baby (like a sign that they are sick) and feel horrible guilt ridden for not catching it.

meesa31 · May 2009

That I will be a terrible parent and eff the kid up.

afig07 · May 2009

Right now, my biggest fear is that he will come like... tomorrow. I'm terrified of a preterm baby and of the fact that we are no where NEAR ready for him.

Heather&Carl · May 2009

I am also nervous about the changes that will happen between DH and I. It seemed like since I got the BFP we have grown together more, I even feel that I love him more, which I thought was impossible. I know it will be hard, but I hope we can work through it and enjoy having a family!

NDwife07 · May 2009

I'm afraid my baby won't be cute.

Yes, I'm kidding.

I am a little unsure about what marriage will be like once the baby gets here. I've heard good and bad, though ultimately everyone says no matter what, it's worth it.

I'm also nervous about breastfeeding. I really want to do it and am just not sure how it will work out with my work situation.

Mrs.Teddy · May 2009

Ugh. I think I have two main fears. One of them is money related, but in this economy who itsn't worried about money? I had to go off work early and we were not able to save as much pre baby.

The other fear is how DH and I will cope with LO together. He has been pretty good durign the pregnancy. Its been hard with me being off. I know hw will be an awesome dad, however I am not sure he truly understands what is about to happen, how much our life is about to change.

HoonFan · May 2009

I'm afraid of how I will handle anything with the lack of sleep I'll be getting.

$Shoegirl$ · May 2009

Aside from the obvious (baby not healthy and such) I'm a little scared about DH and I losing ''us'' but I guess since I'm concious of that, I guess we can make an effort for alone time and keep working on our marriage.

I'm also a little scared about breast feeding..

bwilkerson0220 · May 2009

I HAVE to go back to work after 6 weeks like a lot of people, there is no other option for us. My fear is what if the babysitter seems great and all refrences check out, but she benedryls the baby so it sleeps all day, shakes her or leaves her laying alone crying all day or something along those lines. For some reason I just can't get over it, which in turn freaks me out even more because then I feel like what if it's really a premonition something bad is going to happen to the baby at the sitter. I'm crazy, I know!

Nicole Williams · May 2009

I'm scared breast feeding won't work. ?It's very important and special to me to be able to do this, and I'm so afraid that for some reason I won't be able to or it just won't work.

sandyk51306 · May 2009

Here are mine (sorry, I couldn't pick just one):

The dynamic between DH and I changing

How I am going to take care of a newborn when I am on maternity leave (I've never cared for a baby that small before)

Going back to work after maternity leave

Money--how our lives are going to change to be able to afford all the stuff for baby

Competition between my mom and MIL over baby

(This one is a little superficial) Not having the same body as I did pre-preg.

erindawn · May 2009

That I'll lose my sense of self and become so absorbed in mothering I have nothing else in my life. I still want to be me!

BuddhaKitty · May 2009

Too many anxieties/fears to list! All I can do is my very, very damn best.

As for the relationship change with DH this is one of my many fears but our goal is to try to have one "date" every other week or so. Luckily my mom and step-dad live close by and they would be more than happy to babysit for a few hours.

GT67 · May 2009

My biggest anxiety is that I will be unable to deliver naturally. June 12th is the due date my Dr is sticking with. Had an ultrasound at 32 weeks and they put me at 35 weeks. Dr had me do a fetal size and weight yesterday. Measured at 41 weeks and 3 days and 9 pounds 8 ounces. I am now completely terrified that I will have no option of natural delivery.

Idhreniel · May 2009

That for some reason he would end up in the NICU and I would be sent home without him. Not that anything has happened so far to indicate that, but I don't think I could handle it.

GRISMINO · May 2009

chelsb@cc.usu.edu:
That IS my biggest anxiety... what will DH and I be like after. Scares me.

this Tongue Tied

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