it is heartbreaking to leave your baby at the hospital

jenerally · May 2009

You do not want a preemie baby who has to stay in the NICU while you go home.

Think about that before you start writing cutesy "eviction notices" at 32 weeks. No matter how miserable you are, it's not worth having a baby come too early.

cs1007 · May 2009

That is soo sad! I would have a really hard time with that. My thoughts are with you

aroberts7106 · May 2009

Well said! Yes

NewLerma · May 2009

Too bad this goes in one ear and out their other most of the time.

JasonsMauiMama · May 2009

This.

People do NOT understand what it's like - my SIL said to me..."I was in so much pain after my C-section with Emma. At least you got to stay home and rest while Jake stayed in the NICU."

sxu0007 · May 2009

It is hard : ( My daughter was there 2 1/2 weeks.

theweathermanswife · May 2009

I agree! I work in the NICU, and while I myself have not experienced the pain of leaving the hospital without a baby, I see it happen every day. Pregnancy is 40 weeks for a reson!

kiki-W · May 2009

DD was not a preemie, but she was a NICU baby. i would not wish that on anyone.

the thought of her being in there still haunts me.

cmyers6278 · May 2009

As the mother of a 29 weeker, and someone who is expected to go into labor very soon with this one, I just wanted to say Yes Yes .

Some of us pray to make it us "far" as 32 weeks.

ForForever · May 2009

I can't imagine. Sad

I truly hope this is something I never have to experience.

sweetyface77 · May 2009

NewLerma:
Too bad this goes in one ear and out their other most of the time.

This. Someone told me today that since I'm almost 32 weeks that I should start prepping to get this kid out any day. I was like, are you serious? I'm no where near READY for him to come out and neither is he. I'm perfectly fine with dealing with the pains and discomfort of the next few weeks, so long as he is healthy and strong for the delivery.

NewLerma · May 2009

JasonsMauiMama:
This.

People do NOT understand what it's like - my SIL said to me..."I was in so much pain after my C-section with Emma. At least you got to stay home and rest while Jake stayed in the NICU."

OMG I would have had to slap her!

browneyes_24b · May 2009

schmoodle · May 2009

I completely agree, but coming from someone with a different viewpoint (left two babies at the hospital last time, permanently), I want to keep my baby in till full term (37 weeks) but after that just want it out ASAP because I worry too much about it dying inside me, particularly with my history.

Leenie_89 · May 2009

SteffaniO · May 2009

Some girls are just really ignorant about fetal development.

My cousin's gf just had their baby at 26 weeks and asked, quite seriously, "Well why can't I just take him home and bring him back in every day to see the doctors?"

::eyeroll::

BuddhaKitty · May 2009

I cannot wrap my head around how you must be feeling. My thoughts are with you and I am sending good vibes your way.

Mrs.Kent · May 2009

jenerally:
Think about that before you start writing cutesy "eviction notices" at 32 weeks.

Someone posted this? Seriously? I must have missed it!

Sorry you had to go through that Jenerally.

afg · May 2009

JasonsMauiMama:

This.

People do NOT understand what it's like - my SIL said to me..."I was in so much pain after my C-section with Emma. At least you got to stay home and rest while Jake stayed in the NICU."

I can't believe someone would have the nerve to say this crap to you!

I can't imagine anything more heart wrenching than leaving yoru baby at the hospital. I'm worried about them taking her to the nursery away from me!

jonsdeedee · May 2009

Both my sisters ended up leaving the hospital with their children still in the NICU. I am praying this does not happen to me.

sun_shined · May 2009

DS did not come early, but had heart trouble so he was not released with us. He had to stay in NICU. I still cry when I think about him laying in there all alone, not understanding why he couldn't be with his mommy. I am so jelse of people that get to hold their babies in their arms after delivery. We weren't able to hold him until almost 72 hours after birth.

krstokes · May 2009

THIS!!! Being discharged and leaving baby in NICU is heart wrenching!

JasonsMauiMama · May 2009

sun_shined:
DS did not come early, but had heart trouble so he was not released with us. He had to stay in NICU. I still cry when I think about him laying in there all alone, not understanding why he couldn't be with his mommy. I am so jelse of people that get to hold their babies in their arms after delivery. We weren't able to hold him until almost 72 hours after birth.

Oh, how heartbreaking!! I can't imagine how hard those 3 days were for you. I held him briefly, but had to wait 4 hours or so to see him again...just that short amount of time was sad and scary.

The New Mrs. · May 2009

::applause::

KellyMichelle · May 2009

Well said. So many of us would give anything to have a full term baby. You being a little uncomfortable towards the end is nothing compared to the heartache of leaving your baby at the hospital when you go home and having to ask to hold your own child or even to change their diaper. Not to mention what your baby goes through. Pregnancy is supposed to be 40 weeks for a reason.

SWMcFarland · May 2009

JasonsMauiMama:

This.

People do NOT understand what it's like - my SIL said to me..."I was in so much pain after my C-section with Emma. At least you got to stay home and rest while Jake stayed in the NICU."

I would curbstomp her. No one should ever have to experience that kind of heartbreak.

RRHsMom · May 2009

Yes yes yes yes! And I agree with the 40 weeks comments! I had an induction at 37 weeks and thought all would be fine. IT WAS NOT. DS was not ready to be born. I did not hold him until he was 2 weeks old and off of his oscillator that was breathing 300x a minute for him. I will not let anyone induce me next time unless I am in danger of dying or my baby is in danger. With DS I was swelling and my BP went up and so that is why they took him but next time, I will go on strict rather than modified bed rest for the last few weeks until the BABY says it is time.

mrspaul07 · May 2009

Amen! DD was in the NICU for 31 days and she was 6 days old before I got to hold her.

lemen99 · May 2009

Yes, it is.

Yes

RubyRed7 · May 2009

Yes! We all know that being pregnant is hard, but having a preemie is infinitely harder,and I wouldn't wish that upon anyone.

Good luck to all of you who are pregnant, and I hope you stay that way as long as possible!

Schmoodle,totally understandable. and good luck!

sarahkatherine8 · May 2009

JasonsMauiMama:
This.

People do NOT understand what it's like - my SIL said to me..."I was in so much pain after my C-section with Emma. At least you got to stay home and rest while Jake stayed in the NICU."

I can't believe someone would be ignorant enough to say this. I wish I were having sleepless nights for the RIGHT reasons right now. Wish it was because my baby were waking me up every 1-2 hours. Instead it's because he's in the NICU and I wake up worrying and wishing I could be by his side 24/7. Just awful...I would probably be too emotional to even set her straight...

2BWEDN2007 · May 2009

I had to leave DS in the NICU for FOUR EFFIN MONTHS. On top of that I had to be knocked unconcious for his "emergency" delivery and wasn't able to hold him until 6 days after he was born.

Anyone who "wishes" their baby out before 37 weeks needs a slap upside their head.

End of rant.

Aidge · May 2009

No one knows until they go through it. They can't possibly understand the fear and heartache we go through as preemie parents. And hopefully they will never have to experience it.?

purplepuggles · May 2009

JasonsMauiMama:
sun_shined:
DS did not come early, but had heart trouble so he was not released with us. He had to stay in NICU. I still cry when I think about him laying in there all alone, not understanding why he couldn't be with his mommy. I am so jelse of people that get to hold their babies in their arms after delivery. We weren't able to hold him until almost 72 hours after birth.

Oh, how heartbreaking!! I can't imagine how hard those 3 days were for you. I held him briefly, but had to wait 4 hours or so to see him again...just that short amount of time was sad and scary.

yup. 10 days before i was allowed to hold jack.

i totally agree with you jenerally. people need to be more informed. i hope i go to 42 weeks when i am pregnant with #2

TripMomma · May 2009

It's sad to hear people take for granted the hoped for and expected at due date birth, holding your brand new baby...not stroking their tiny arms and legs in an isolette, taking them home right away to a welcome home baby party...not spending weeks or months going back and forth to visit your child in a hospital. I don't care how short your NICU stay is there is no getting that time or your dreams of how it should have gone back...ever.

clyoungsey · May 2009

Thanks for saying this... Yes

AmandaHearn · May 2009

I'm probably crazy late in replying to this, but I couldn't agree more.

I was increadibly lucky in that when DD was born early I was able to stay with her for her whole 15 day hospital stay. She, thank God, was stable enough not to have to be transfered to a specialty children's hospital. I know it's nothing compared to what some have gone though, but even reading through this post brings me to tears. It's traumatic and thinking about all she went through is so very hard.

I understand that pregnancy is uncomfortable, but I would trade my comfort any (and every!) day for my children, born or not

We're going strong with this one, shots and taking is easy. God willing, this baby will see term!

userdeleted · May 2009

Thank you.

I had DS at 35w6d. Everyone thought he'd be fine because that's practically full term, right? Nope. He had breathing trouble at birth and had to be taken to the NICU. He was hooked up to a cpap machine and at one point they were talking about the possibility of a ventilator (thank goodness it didn't come to that).

I know that people don't realize what they're saying, but it drives me CRAZY to hear women hoping and wishing for an early delivery. Nothing will make me happier than going a full 40 weeks this time. I'm praying that I don't develop complications that require immediate delivery again.

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