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3rd Trimester
flameable s/o: wanting baby early
okay, so i'll be the first to agree with you that i've seen women say that they want the baby to come too early, like 35 weeks, and that's just plain scary and sad and immature.
but i have to say that it seems like this board goes overboard against even hoping that your baby might be born prior to 40 weeks. everytime i've asked a question that implies that i might be happy if the baby were to be born soon i feel like everyone starts with the "the baby will get to develop more" responses almost like they're going overboard avoiding saying that it would be nice for the baby to be born.
i would never want my baby to be a preemie - my daughter was actually late-pre-term and did have to be treated for jaundice but other than that was entirely healthy. i was glad when this baby went to term. but at 39 weeks, there's absolutely no reason to believe that the baby needs more development time or anything. her lungs, brain, etc, are ready, she's just packing on some pounds. i'm certain of her conception date, my OB is comfortable with her being born and i'll be induced if she is more than a few days late - with my OB's assurance that there is absolutely ZERO increased risk of c-section or anything else because i've already given birth vaginally.
i find it somewhat annoying that others assume they know what you're going through and imply that you're irresponsible for admitting that you'd like your baby to be born soon.
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Re: flameable s/o: wanting baby early
I have forgotten all about my due date. I'm due on 7/13 but my attitude is that she can make her exit any time after 6/22 when she's considered full term. I probably won't do anything to induce labor but after 6/22, I'll be eagerly awaiting her arrival.
Plus, I'm so over being pregnant and dealing with people's stupidity. Seriously.
i actually researched it myself afterwards and studies show it to be true. i should have noted zero *increased* risk. i suppose there is always a risk whether you go into labor naturally or induced, but there is no increased risk for a second-time mom like for a first-time mom's induction.
I have a bunch of medical reasons why I want this baby out.....It's better for the baby at this point, I am on 2 class C drugs, pain killers, have GD and kidney stones - so yeah medically necessary.
I can understand wanting to get the baby out at 37 weeks even if everything is fine, just because people try things doesn't mean they are going to be successful. If your body and baby are ready it will happen, otherwise so what if they eat a bunch of pineapple and have lots of sex....not hurting anyone.
Ahhh...I see!
Honestly.. it doesn't bother me when people complain and want their baby early, as long as they are 37 weeks plus. When it's before then I find it annoying. HelL, at 37 weeks my doc stripped my membranes and stretched my cervix hoping i'd go into labor. There was no need for me to try natural induction methods! I've been eager since 37 weeks but I understand the importance of waiting which is why i'm glad i'm able to go to atleast 39 weeks before being induced. I am however extremely eager and hope she comes on her own before then. I'd rather go natural than be induced but i'm not loading my body with different things to try and get her out. I know it's pointless. I do bounce on a birthing ball everyday though and i'm not ashamed to admit it. I've had one helL of a pregnancy and have dealt with more things than I could possibly imagine which is why I try not to be so judgy of others and their decisions. Only they know how they're feeling.
I still feel like if you make it to 37 weeks then why can't you make it 3 more. I don't know.. i'm on the fence with it all!
With that being said though.. if I wasn't being induced at 39 weeks and had to wait, would I try natural induction methods such as castor oil, nipple stimulation, etc.? No. I would still bounce on my ball though because it's comfy and it actually helps open your pelvis and stuff up.
I do agree, but if my baby came today, I would not cry for fear that something would/could be wrong with him. It is highly likely that the baby will be just fine. Granted there are many cases where this is not true.
I don't think it is a matter of being vain, for most, but just being anxious. At least that is how it is for me. I'm really anxious but know that he will come when he's ready and there is nothing I can (or will) do about it.
Yeah, umm sounds like your OB is giving you a tremendous amount of false hope. What if you just plain ol' fail to progress? Just because you've squeezed one out before doens't mean that this one might not have to cord wrapped around their neck and go into distress. Sounds like your Dr. is an idiot.
see my reply to katy above:
i actually researched it myself afterwards and studies show it to be true. i should have noted zero *increased* risk. i suppose there is always a risk whether you go into labor naturally or induced, but there is no increased risk for a second-time mom like for a first-time mom's induction.
sorry, see my reply to katy above:
i actually researched it myself afterwards and studies show it to be true. i should have noted zero *increased* risk. i suppose there is always a risk whether you go into labor naturally or induced, but there is no increased risk for a second-time mom like for a first-time mom's induction.
obviously there's always a risk of anything during childbirth, but if you have already given birth vaginally your body evidently knows what to do sufficiently enough that inductions do not pose an increased risk over if you had gone into labor naturally. i had never heard this prior to my doctor saying it so i did some research myself and found it to be generally accepted.