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Please tell me I can do this

KatieRL1979KatieRL1979
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DD has been a horrible napper.  20-30 minutes and she'd be awake, if you could even move her to the crib without her starting to fuss or cry.  Sleeping in her bed at night was not a problem though, around 8pm and would go until 4-430 before waking, sometimes later.

I have had enough of coming home only to find out she barely slept all day long unless being held and having her exhausted and crabby the reset of the night.  So tonight starts CIO.  Bedtime is going to start being a lot earlier to help her catch up on sleep and hopefully she will start napping better when she is more well rested.

I left her room at 6:30 while she was quiet but drowsy.  At 6:35 the crying started.  It's now 6:42.  Please tell me I can do this...

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    purplepugglespurplepuggles
    i thought CIO was only to be used beginning at 4-6 months. i am not positive, but i am pretty sure infants are not able to self soothe yet at 3 months old....i know it is tough but you might have to stick it out and try something other than CIO for at least another month.
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    CA2006CA2006 member
    You are going to get a lot of replies saying that she is too young.  We waited until 4 mo. and it worked well for us.  I think someone else on here did it at 3 mo. and it worked for them, but my DS wouldn't have been ready at 3 mo.  I hope it works out for you!
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    laurandjimlaurandjim member

    imagepurplepuggles:
    i thought CIO was only to be used beginning at 4-6 months. i am not positive, but i am pretty sure infants are not able to self soothe yet at 3 months old....i know it is tough but you might have to stick it out and try something other than CIO for at least another month.

    This!  I have other suggestions if you want.  DS went through something really similar to your DC and we didn't do CIO but things did get better with other solutions!

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    TheJohnsTheJohns

    are you sure CIO is neccessary right now? Can you hold her, rock her, sing, etc to quiet her, then put her down? What about white noise? When DS is screaming his head off super loud white noise always gets him to stop, and he ends up falling asleep. i downloaded an album of noises from itunes. u could try the vacuum or 560AM (its great static) for now. sometimes when DS won't fall asleep when I want him to I have to hang out in his room with him until he goes out. I think he'd cry for a very long time before he wore himself out to fall asleep.

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    KatieRL1979KatieRL1979

    I can hold her,nurse her rock her.  She falls asleep - but the moment you start to shift in the chair she wakes up.

    At nighttime though for whatever reason she stays asleep and you can put her in the crib and she's out for about 8 hours or so.  Then all day long daddy can't/won't put her down for naps.  I'm not here all day to help him and I am just at my wits end.

    Why can't there just be someone to be there with you and help you?

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    TheJohnsTheJohns
    some babies just prefer cat naps. my mom says her 3 kids were all like that. L will sometimes take a 2 hr nap but mostly btw 30-60 mins. maybe she is sleeping so well at night b/c of the lack of naps?? if you havent tried the loud white noise, you should def do that. I even have the tracks downloaded on my iphone in case i need it while we're out. and i often use it - like if he starts fussing in his stroller when we're outside on a walk. the name of the album is "sleep sounds to soothe the fussy baby with colic" by pediaslumber. GL!! 
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    KatieRL1979KatieRL1979
    Yes, by the end of the day she's exhausted - but then she only sleeps for 8 hours.  In total with her crappy naps she gets probably only 10 hours of sleep a day.  Glad you have an iphone...
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    We went through this and just stuck with him sleeping on us for a while b/c we didn't want to do Ferber until 4 mo.  At about 3.5 months, he decided to take some naps in his swing when he previously wouldn't tolerate it.  He also would nap in the car (after throwing a fit first).  You have to do what you are comfortable with, honestly.  My parents let me cry early on and I am fine.  Ferber advises waiting until 4 mo.  Again, it's all about your comfort level.  Your baby will be fine either way.  GL!
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    P.S. Nighttime sleep and naps are totally seperate in baby's mind, which is why she can sleep well at night in her crib but maybe not naps.  Naps are just a tough time.  You may just have to deal with her not napping well b/c she may cry so long that it isn't worth it.  We didn't even do CIO for naps until a few weeks ago.  He has taken to it really well now, but we tried when he was 4 mo. and he cried WAY too long to make it worth it.
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    NicholeeKNicholeeK
    Why are you doing CIO at night if you are able to put her down at night and she's sttn?   Nighttime sleep and naps are two separate things.  And like pp said she is too young to be able to self soothe. 
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    laurandjimlaurandjim member

    So even though you didn't ask, here are my suggestions!

    -Swaddle!  Even if you think DC doesn't like it--try it for a few days for naps and see if that keeps her asleep.  (It worked wonders for DS even though he used to hate swaddling.)  I still swaddle him for naps.  A swaddle tells him "It's time to sleep."

    -Try letting her nap in a bouncy chair or swing or somewhere that she'll nap well.  We let DS nap in his bouncy til he outgrew it at about 4 1/2 months old.  

    -Try napping with her on the bed!  I nap and nurse DS on days when he is having a really hard time winding down.  Usually that will get him to nap for 2-4 hours!

    Good luck!

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    imagelaurandjim:

    -Swaddle!  Even if you think DC doesn't like it--try it for a few days for naps and see if that keeps her asleep.  (It worked wonders for DS even though he used to hate swaddling.)  I still swaddle him for naps.  A swaddle tells him "It's time to sleep."

    I would definitely suggest the swaddle.  If your DC breaks free of a blanket swadle, then try the SwaddleMe or something like that.  My DD takes short naps too, but if I swaddle her, she almost always sleeps for at least an hour.  At 3 months, baby's just don't understand CIO. 

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