DH Vent - Answering the Phone

DSteed-to-be · May 2009

DH always has his cell phone on and usually with him unless the battery dies. But he sucks about answering it when I call.

I forwarded him the "For Dads" article from "What To Expect" today which is the friendly reminder that dads should be on-call 24/7 from this point on in the pregnancy because they never know when we might call in labor, etc.

DH e-mailed me back with the following:
"We need to have a system during the work day, so here is what I propose:
Email first, and I?ll reply when I?m at my desk.
One call = important, but non-emergency. I?ll call you back as soon as I have a free moment.
Two calls = emergency. I?ll answer immediately even if it means stepping out of a meeting or ruining an experiment."

I e-mailed him back (our standard daily conversation method unless it is something I need to speak with him about immediately) and said "Calling means I need to talk to you RIGHT then....if I call you when I'm in labor and you call me back 'as soon as you can,' I will be emotionally prepared to rip your face off."

I mean, I know he is working, but his boss knows that we're having a baby, and there is no reason he can't step out of his one-on-one meetings with him (which are never scheduled, they're just a pop-in, "Hey, let me show you this for a minute," type meetings) and take my calls. He has caller ID -- if it isn't me, fine, don't answer. But if it is me, he better be answering his phone!

EmilyBowes · May 2009

my husband is EXACTLY the same. if he doesn't answer when i'm in labor he's gonna have some problems after i deliver, esp if it's because he was in a meeting when i called. i don't care if it's the start of a 36 hour + labor, he had better have his ringer on and ANSWER no matter what!

chels0120 · May 2009

Ya DH has gotten in the habit of leaving his phone in the truck when he is at a property (showing it or fixing something) and it frustrates the hell out of me. Sometimes its an hour or so before he responds and I wanna kill him sometimes.

KAG30 · May 2009

My DH and I just had a conversation like this too because I kept telling him he is going to miss the birth unless he answers his phone. We decided I would call his blackberry if it was an emergency, but any other phone for a non - emergency. He then proceeded to tell me he hadn't answered his blackberry when I called earlier because it was at his desk charging. Well you better have it with you at ALL times going forward.

sarahryandrewlo · May 2009

I'm right there with you. Pregnant wife= answer your damn phone. Even if it is just b/c I want a choc. milkshake! he he

CrazyCurls · May 2009

DH has his work cell phone and his personal, it's sooo annoying b/c I end up calling both every time I call him. If I'm at work, it's just better to email him b/c he gets it on his blackberry and can write back when he can. If I call, he better do his darndest to answer!!

tljones1110 · May 2009

I am so glad that I am not the only one going through this. I have threatened him to no end about this lately. I rarely call to just chat, so if I am calling it is important. Sometimes I don't get men at all.

MissTGH · May 2009

That would frustrate me too. My husband will answer the phone my issue with him is that whenever I have gone into pre-term labor it was late at night and if he was sleep in another room he wouldnr hear me call his cell phone or scream his name. I told him you cant possibly sleep that freakin hard especially when u know I keep having pre term labor...

HDxNxJ · May 2009

I call my DH all the time for random things so I guess our system would be hard to establish but latley his phone has been all strange and he won't get my call or the phone wont ring he will just see missed call like 30 min later.

We have to take a trip to verizon this weekend and get that fixed soon!

But yes, in your situation I would expect him to take a second and answer your call.

mommabarker09 · May 2009

Yeah I agree... luckily my FI and I are usually together. We work together. If he is serving though he has to have his phone on silent and if I'm not working then sometimes he doesn't get a chance to get back to me for awhile. Luckily I can just call the restaurant and tell them to send his @ss home!!

He's such a dork though... the other day a former coworker was in labor and he knew all about it. Well he leaves for work that afternoon and I text him like 15 min later and tell him I'm going to the hospital with so and so. He texts me back "Why? What's wrong? Are you okay?" If I'm going to the hospital you're gonna get more than a fvcking text dude... my god!!

MaineGirl2008 · May 2009

HDxNxJ:

I call my DH all the time for random things so I guess our system would be hard to establish but latley his phone has been all strange and he won't get my call or the phone wont ring he will just see missed call like 30 min later.

We have to take a trip to verizon this weekend and get that fixed soon!

But yes, in your situation I would expect him to take a second and answer your call.

This is happening with my husbands phone too and we have Verizon!! He has a blackberry curve and it just doesn't ring... it rings twice and goes to voicemail which isn't what it usually does "normally" so something is off... its SO annoying! Especially when I call his work cell immediately after and he goes "why are you calling this phone" like I didn't try the first one to begin with!

andijane · May 2009

My DH has been laid off for like two months and is usually around the house. But when he is outside he always forgets his phone in the house or has it on silent in his pocket. So whenever I text him or call him he never gets it until later. Irks me right off. Plus his phone won't hold a charge to save it's life, so it is constantly on the charger in the house or in the car. Guess we are going to have to get him a new phone ASAP, cuz I am sick of putting up with it!

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