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gosse1kmgosse1km
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So, my SD just turned 6 and we have a new baby due in October. We have her around 80% of the time, which I love.

Now I'd be lying if I said I hadn't spoiled her a bit. I don't have any kids of my own and when I was still daddy's girlfriend I admit I often resorted to bribery :P Anyway, I can tell now that this is biting me in the ass a little because, even though she is very excited about her little brother, I can tell she is getting jealous of all these "new" (mostly used actually lol) things the baby is getting.

So here is my idea, I was thinking I would 1) redecorate her room with a whole new 'girly big sister" kinda theme (she still has sponge bob sheets) or 2) wait until she is with us and let her pick out a whole new room.

My issue is I was hoping she would pick out something that would last at least until she is a full blown preteen, but she saw the movie Wall-E (which if you haven't you should) and now that's all she want's to decorate her room in.

So, should I "surprise" her by decorating it during the few days she is at her moms, or should I wait and let her just go with what makes her happy?

I should mention that she and I have a great relationship, and i'm pretty confident I could pick out somthing she would love, but I don't want her to feel like she didn't get a say....uhg.

I just want to do everything possible to make sure she knows she is just as special to me as the new baby.

Oh, and on a side note, below there was a post about kids sharing a room, getting relegated to the basement, etc. When SD first found out she was getting a sibling she, in a very grown up way, said she would share her room with the baby so she could help me take care of him. It was a very "awwww" moment, but I have no intention of trying to make her share a room with a new baby, even if we DID only have her every other weekend, or summers or whatever.

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  • J&A2008J&A2008 member

    My suggestion: redecorate the room in a way that she can grow into it.  Get her some Wall-e things (maybe this?  https://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product.asp?order_num=-1&SKU=16167231&RN=613), but keep the big stuff  neutral. 

    Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
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  • taagenttaagent member
    Personally I would go through a catalog with her, and together you can look at ideas, some that include Wall-E and some that don't and then surprise her.  That way she feels included, you can point out what you like and would make her a "big girl", and you can still end up decorating while she is away so you get what you want as well.
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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    I would get plain bedding and wall color (or paint one wall a different color) and then have her decorate with a few things that can be removed when she is sick of them and then replaced.
    Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
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  • J+RJ+R
    Redecorating a bedroom is expensive... I would do something that will grow with her - but do some accents of Wall-E (never seen it but now I will!)  Most likely - as soon as a new Disney movie comes out, she'll like that too... So I would do minimal accents (stuffed animal for the bed... light switch cover... laundry basket)
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  • justslidejustslide

    DH & I just did this for SD.  I actually posted about this while I was pregnant about feeling guilty that my DD was getting all new furniture, a nursery, etc. 

    I had sat down with SD about a year or so ago and was flipping through catalogs to get a better feel for what she would like to have.  We surprised her with her new room at her birthday party.  She absolutely loved it! 

    We did new furniture, bedding, curtains, paint, etc.  Total makeover.  She is still raving about it a month later.

    If you have a good feel for her taste, then go ahead with the surprise. 

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  • gosse1kmgosse1km

    Thank you! I think I will take ALL your advice, lol. I'll let her pick out some Wall-E accents (love the lamp) but do the room mostly in primaries that can be mixed and matched as she gets older. After she picks out a few things I can decorate the room and have it ready for her when she gets back!

    I'm so excited, lol.

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