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kirac · May 2009

Went to my appt yesterday at 10 wks. There was no heartbeat and the baby stopped growing 3 weeks ago. I have a d&c scheduled for tomorrow so they can remove the fetus and test it. Could use your help with advice on what to ask - they just said they could test it for genetic defects. What should I be asking for to help us learn anything useful? This is my first miscarriage. I'm 36. TIA.

WearingRed · May 2009

I am so sorry for your loss. As far as test goes I don't have much advice, I deiced that since it was my first loss and I am young (25) that I would wait to see if it happened again and I would do test then. I do know that they will look for chromosome problems that could mean that it was a problem with the egg or sperm and depending on what the problem was it might be as easy as asking DH/partner to change his underwear. It could also be just a pain thing that happened and that nothing they find is helpful. I don't want to dash your hopes but I do want you to know that they may not find anything (my doctor told me this and I feel I must pass it on). Ask everything you can think of and I would goggle what test they can do to see if there something you might want that they weren't going to do. And again I'm so sorry you had to join us but we are here for you.

kirac · May 2009

Thanks. Yes, I totally get they might find nothing but it helps me that they are at least testing the tissue (for what I don't know). Yeah, I guess I'll just ask a lot of questions today when I go in, but I've been reading the postings below and they are all very helpful.

someflower6 · May 2009

i'm sorry for your loss. my dr didn't think it was necessary to do any tests since this was my first miscarriage. if you think knowing will give you closure, then you have to do what you have to do... but considering how common miscarrying is, it's probably just one of those unfortunate things that happens in about 1 out of 4 pregnancies.

best of luck to you.

WearingRed · May 2009

I know if I had gotten the test the first question out of my mouth would have been " What tests are you doing and What would this potentially tell me?"

That question is my standard WTF are you doing to me doc question.

sinisterkat01 · May 2009

I am so very sorry for your loss. Try to hang in there.

My OB said that they would test the tissue from my D&C, but she made it sound like they would likely not find anything. I have no idea when I get the results back or if this is even covered by insurance. I was just sort of shocked at the time and agreed to whatever they said.

kirac · May 2009

Sinister: yeah, I was like you. They gave me the option of having ti pass naturally or d&c, but regardless the obgyn said they could test the tissue. I thought no way am I going to pass naturally and try to save tissue! I'm already a high-risk pregnancy (not just age but health factors), so I'm for testing in case anything helps.

MelissaM09 · May 2009

I don't have any advice, but I am very sorry for your loss sweetie.

L2theC42 · May 2009

so sorry for your loss. I am 36 & have had 2 losses this year! I feel for you!

It is good they are testing. It seems as if most times they aren't able to find much from the testing but it's def. worth it just in case. They were able to tell me what condition caused the m/c (Trisomy 15) but not what caused that to occur - which I've come to understand is almost unexplainable. You most likely won't get any answers but it's work it just in case.

Strunella · May 2009

I'm sorry for your loss. I am in the same boat and scheduled for a D&C tomorrow. I was 8 weeks today, though growth stopped at 6 weeks. I belive that for me, it is too early for testing. This was my first m/c as well.

sunsetlove · May 2009

sorry for your loss.. (((HUGS)))

TravelinMama · May 2009

It's never too early for testing...my last d/c was done at 2-3 weeks, all there was in my uterus were scattered pieces of placenta all over the place (hence why my doctor thought I was having a Molar pregnancy), they did testing and showed chom. defects (didn't say which one though). This is the most common form of m/c.

As for age, if you want testing done, you're well within your right to ask for it. It's your money so they can't say no. The results usually come back within a week or two. When I went for my one week post d/c they were already in.

I'm so sorry for your loss and wish you the best. Quick healing vibes your way.

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