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I am a horrible mom...

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I have never really enjoyed other newborns so I knew that it would be a challenge for me to be home all day with my LO. ? Well, I was right. ?I am kind of ready to go back to work (LO is only 4 weeks old and I am off until he is 14 weeks). ?I love him so much but I just get bored entertaining him - I hate talking to LO because he doesn't show any signs that I am there - doesn't make eye contact yet or anything. ?I find us having a lot of quiet time and I know I should be interacting more then I am. ?Doesn't help that I am EBF so I feel like I am attached to him and can't get a break. ?I am so ready for him to be just a little older. ?
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  • CA2006CA2006 member
    That is totally normal.  I was feeling the same way at that point.  DS didn't become "fun" until 4.5 months or so.  He was very high-needs.  But now he is so much fun and such a happy, interactive little boy that I wish I could be home with him more.  :(  You don't have to love every minute with your LO to be a good mom :)
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  • ErinNConnorsMomErinNConnorsMom
    Give it a couple more weeks...he won't nurse as long/often and he'll start getting more fun, trust me! : )
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  • nancz75nancz75

    I don't think this makes you a bad mom.  I have heard other moms say that the newborn stage wasn't their favorite. 

    It will get better I had a hard time talking to her and entertaining her at first when I felt she wasn't really paying attention but slowly she was more and more fun.  I'm loving this stage right now she is discovering things and enjoying her toys. 

    Just try to enjoy the time you have together...you don't get this time back.  And don't let the EBF stress you out, I did at first and I wish I hadn't.  Once I started pumping it made me feel more free and that I could go somewhere for a little while and everything would be okay.

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  • sweetpea070sweetpea070

    At 4 week you probably wont get alot from LO, so don't feel bad about the whole not interacting thing. I was the same way with DS when he was that age. Everyone kept telling me, "It gets better, I promise" and I would think "Oh, yeah sure." But it does. It just takes some time.

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  • sc_mobbysc_mobby
    You are not a bad mom.  The newborn phase can be so hard.  Everyone says it gets better and it does, it just takes time.  What helped me through it was establishing a routine.  I would take my daughter for a long walk every morning.  Then after lunch I'd either come up with an excuse for a quick errand (Target, grocery store, whatever).  Then, when DH came home, I'd make him join us for another walk.  The fresh air did a lot of good.  By about month 2, I was feeling better.   Good luck!
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  • grettazgrettaz member

    I felt just like this when DD was that age.  It was so exhausting to keep trying to interact with her when she didn't even acknowledge my presence.  By 6 weeks though, she started looking at me and smiling, and that made it all worthwhile.  Now she's starting to find her voice and will have "conversations" with us.  She is so much more fun now, and spending time with her is so much more rewarding. 

    ETA: And you are NOT a horrible mom.  Your feelings are completely normal.

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  • sun_shinedsun_shined
    I was the same way. I ended up coming back to work after 3 weeks, but bring my LO with me (I work for family). I have never been a baby person, and although I love DS it is a challenge sometime already just to not remember times before him and look toward the time that he will be more fun.
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