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Dealing with the terrible twos...
Do you think that you should raise your voice/yell at your toddler at least sometimes?
I grew up with a dad who yelled A LOT. I ended up being very afraid of asking things because he would fly off the handle and yell. I never wanted my daughter to experience that, so I promised myself that I would never yell at her. So far, I have been able to keep the promise. I also have a lot of 'working mom guilt' so I also worry that I try to keep her happy too much, although I use other discipline measures just not yelling. Do you think there is a benefit to some yelling?
Sorry if this post doesn't make any sense. I am exhausted, stressed, feeling guilty, and feeling overwhelmed...
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Re: Dealing with the terrible twos...
i don't know if this is a benefit to some yelling. BUT it can be effective to do it at times when a difference in your tone of voice and how loud it is will call attention to your two year old and stop dangerous behavior. I think it is great that you are taking the not yelling route because too much is, well you explained it, not good. I guess you won't know how effective it is until you try it. I didn't use my yelling voice until I had two kids running around me and wrestling with eachother. I felt with one kid I could still get down on their level and talk one on one. Lots of times if I thought about doing it now the other one would be taking off to Tahiti while I used my nice calm voice with his brother.
good luck, what works for some doesn't work for others. and honestly it doesn't sound like yelling is your style. in fact it might equate to feeling guilty too, i think i've felt that guilt.
I vowed I'd never yell at my kids either...and it worked until my son turned three! OMG! Now I try not to yell more than 10 times per day. (kidding, sort of) He laughs at me when I yell at him anyway, so I'm not thinking he's afraid of me. At all. Actually, I'm probably more afraid of him than he is of me.
Good luck! I thought the two's were easy and the honeymoon ended when mine turned three. But, I also have an 18 month old, too, so maybe that adds to the stress just a tad around here.