Why do people worry so much about how they will look...

evenstar622 · May 2009

after pregnancy?? I don't get it. You just had a baby. Nobody cares....and if they do, they are stupid. Having your baby safely is slightly more important than how you look afterwards. Just sayin......

dmogmo · May 2009

You mean it's not normal to look like Nicole Ritchie right when you leave the hospital??

britti<3 · May 2009

I don't think it's stupid to care about how you look. BUT i think some people are a little unrealistic about how they actually will look after just giving birth.

crawtater · May 2009

ITA

ToledoDeux · May 2009

I don't know what this in response to, but:

One word: PICTURES. I can barely look at my post-birth pics with DD, and it makes me sad. I'm growing out my hair in anticipation of this birth, and bringing something to wear other than the granny-muumuu-looking hospital gowns.

ETA: Ah, I see you mean the weight thing. Well, that I CAN'T comment on, since I never bothered to lose weight from baby #1 before baby #2. I have my work cut out for me.....

Jackswife123 · May 2009

I just don't feel like "myself" being 20lbs overweight. ?Plus I've always been an active runner and I haven't been able to get out and exercise in months, so I miss that a lot.

MamaMyers22 · May 2009

Cause I'm vain that's why. Wink

dmogmo · May 2009

ToledoDeux:
I don't know what this in response to, but:
One word: PICTURES. I can barely look at my post-birth pics with DD, and it makes me sad. I'm growing out my hair in anticipation of this birth, and bringing something to wear other than the granny-muumuu-looking hospital gowns.

Meh. I look like crap in our first pics but I had just had surgery. Not really supposed to be all glam at that point. I did have my own clothes though and did my hair and makeup when I could get up - that just made me feel more human though.

evenstar622 · May 2009

Jackswife123:
I just don't feel like "myself" being 20lbs overweight. Plus I've always been an active runner and I haven't been able to get out and exercise in months, so I miss that a lot.

I completely understand that....I'm in the same boat as you. But that woman that just posted a little bit ago about being scared to have a c-section because she might end up with a pouch??? That just seems silly to me.

Ashley Pharez · May 2009

Yes I just had a baby but I also hate feeling like sh!t about myself. Just sayin....

ashmariebay02 · May 2009

MamaMyers22:
Cause I'm vain that's why.

this!

kit443 · May 2009

I guess my fear isn't really what other people think about me, really I could care less. My problem is I have had body "issues" in the past - never being really satisfied with myself. When your pregnant you loose what little control you may have had - and that is hard, at least for me. I don't know what it will be like after I have my baby - but I am concerned that dealing with a body that is less cooperative then before may be a challenge for me. I guess everyone is different. However, I do think finally meeting my little one will make it a lot better.

MommaP12 · May 2009

excitedforlittleone:
Yes I just had a baby but I also hate feeling like sh!t about myself. Just sayin....

This. Yes, it took 9 months to put on, but you didn't put on fat ONLY in the 9 months, so I don't agree that it should take 9 months to come off necessarily. And yes, having a beautiful healthy baby is most important but feeling good about myself will ultimately contribute to me being a good parent and feeling like myself.

october2004 · May 2009

Because I really *never* want to look like ***, regardless of the situation.

Temp552270562505132 · May 2009

because pre-baby i was a perfect size two, long lucious blonde locks, toned muscles, and feeling really great about how i look

now.... i feel like crap about my appearance. i'm just NOT ok with looking mediocre.

azaretsky · May 2009

I don't think anyone here would trade the experience of having a child or their child's health/safety for keeping their looks. However, I think it's more than natural for women to care about what they look like - post labor or otherwise.

Heck, I'm a pretty confident chick, and it's very important to me to like myself, which definitely includes liking the way I look. And, to tell you the truth, I was pretty horrified at the way my body looked for a while after having DS. That's not to say that I wasn't proud of my body for what it was capable of, though. I think feeling good about yourself/one's body is part of being a complete person - which is a necessity for being a good parent.

That didn't read like a rant, did it? )

psuash7 · May 2009

Being a good mom and wife makes me feel good about myself!!

Fish4Fun · May 2009

I think it is sad if you use "being a mother" as an excuse for going around looking like a dumptruck. You are only fooling yourself if you think appearances are not important in our society. I think having good hygiene and healthy eating and exercise habits are part of being a good parent and role model. (If you only meant the crazies who are desperate to be back in shape 1 week after delivery, then disregard what I just said. Stick out tongue

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soxfan74 · May 2009

kristinhart511:

because pre-baby i was a perfect size two, long lucious blonde locks, toned muscles, and feeling really great about how i look

now.... i feel like crap about my appearance. i'm just NOT ok with looking mediocre.

this only long brown locks

dmogmo · May 2009

Fish4Fun:
I think it is sad if you use "being a mother" as an excuse for going around looking like a dumptruck. You are only fooling yourself if you think appearances are not important in our society. I think having good hygiene and healthy eating and exercise habits are part of being a good parent and role model. (If you only meant the crazies who are desperate to be back in shape 1 week after delivery, then disregard what I just said. )

I don't think this is what she meant. I, personally, have every intention of getting my butt to the gym as soon as I get the OK from the doctor at my 6 week pp appt. I just wasn't about to beat myself up for something that up to this point has been beyond my control.

flyrsgirl1 · May 2009

october2004:
Because I really *never* want to look like ***, regardless of the situation.

THIS!

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