Anyone here not touched by divorce?

Isabella T. · May 2009

I guess I'm wondering if anyone else here shares my situation. No one in my family (for many generations back) has ever been divorced. Not parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles.. nada.

Is there anyone else like me in this way? I have a feeling this isn't very common.

SumnerBride · May 2009

Me. None of my family has been divorced. I think it's part of the reason that my parents have stayed married, even though they should've been divorced YEARS ago.

Jodi&Joe · May 2009

Joe's family is like this.

Mine --- not so much.

Brewster · May 2009

2 of my uncles have, but that is it

katie277s · May 2009

Only 1 aunt on my mom's side is divorced. She was actually divorced twice before marrying her current DH.

Isabella T. · May 2009

Wow, interesting!

I asked my grandmother about this yesterday to see whether or not she could recall anyone in our family ever getting a divorce. She said not only has no one ever gotten a divorce, their marriages last an average of over 45 years (yowzah!). She herself has been married for over 60!

amiamish · May 2009

My parents are still married, but I have grandparents, aunts & uncles, cousins, in-laws, and friends who have all been divorced.

JellymanKelly · May 2009

DH's brother is divorced (and remarried), but no one in my close family is divorced. When my grandmother died and my grandfather remarried I had such a hard time calling his wife my step-grandmother...it just seemed so foreign to me!

happ17 · May 2009

i'm in the same situation, no one in my family has gotten divorced.

whether they should have years ago, though, is a whole different story.

DH's parents are both on their third marriages.

AZ_Erica · May 2009

No one in my family is divorced. I feel very lucky.

Andrewsgal · May 2009

I was not until I got married. My great grandparents were married for over 50 years before my grandfather died, the other set 35 years before my grandfather died, my parents have been married 40 years this summer (they are awesome!). I did not know divorce until I married DH. His parents are divorced and it SUCKS, I would never do that to my kids unless it was a last resort.

Temp159135562506975 · May 2009

one of my aunts got divorced - but we're not close so it never effected me at all... My parents are still together- and DH's would be, too - except his dad passed away a few years back.

DH's 2 brothers have divorced, one has remarried and will probably end up divorced again soon the way things are going.... but as far as our parents and grandparents- no divorces in our families.

FolanMama · May 2009

One of my cousins and two of my aunts (I have 14 aunts and uncles). As far as society goes, I think that is pretty darn low.

How lucky we are.

Temp159135562506975 · May 2009

oh wait- i stand corrected!

My great grandmother divorced her husband- but she told everyone he died - b/c divorce was such a taboo thing back then. She was a strong German woman and was not going to put up with his infidelity - so she basically wrote him off as dead (and told others he was!)... how is that for crazy? I totally forgot about that- b/c we don't really think about it as a divorce b/c for so many years people thought he was dead.

Chrisy-Wyobride · May 2009

There is no divorce in my or my DH's family...the "closest" divorce is my Mom's cousins child who is just now getting divorced because her A-hole DH cheated on her after about 15yrs of marriage. Otherwise none of my (or DHs) grandparents, parents, aunts, uncles, siblings, first cousins, etc have ever been divorced. I grew up in a small mid-west town & I didn't even know any divorced people until I was in Jr. High & went to public school for the first time...there I had one friend w/ divorced parents & one in HS--that was it.

Kelly Madonna · May 2009

Not really. I'm English, we're not allowed to divorce, lol.

true_norskie · May 2009

Me--mostly. A cousin, but not a close one (and out of 25 grandkids who are almost all "marriage age," I'd say pretty good).

But...IL's just got divorced after 38 years (to be honest, it was over after 2 years so it was a LONG time coming--MIL admitted she knew they shouldn't be married after their first year of marriage. They went on to have two more kids even AFTER she knew).

And all of DH's uncles have been divorced 1, 2 or 3 times. It ain't pretty on that side. Something to be said about a family with an alcoholic father (DH's grandfather) and mentally unstable mother (DH's grandmother).

docmay25 · May 2009

I have aunts and uncles on both sides that have gotten divorced, but it hasn't really been something that was upseting to me. Most of them happened when I was an adult and they were never good marriages.

My grandparents got divorced when my mom was a teenager and then remarried (each other) 5 years later. They have been happily married since and I find it surprising that they ever were divorced because they love each other so much!

hikerbeth · May 2009

Nobody in my extended family has been divorced. However, I married a divorced man with children, so I caused myself to be touched by divorce.

penguingrrl · May 2009

My parents are divorced, but my mother is the only person on her side of the family that has ever been divorced. Her parents were still madly in love when they passed away 6 months apart and one of the last pictures of the two of them is of her sitting on his lap in the backyard! Her brothers are all very happily married, all for well over 30 years. My Dad's side is a disaster and each of his siblings was divorced at least once, but they were not really a part of my life (serious issues on that side) so I wasn't affected at all by their marriage patterns. DHs family has one divorce. One uncle got married in his twenties and she left him within a year or two. He's been very happily remarried for over 30 years now.