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I?d murder the ILs, but don?t want to give birth in jail. (VENT)
The ILs always just announce that they?re coming to stay, and only give like 2-3 days notice. DH seems fine with this, since he?s still a mama?s boy at heart (gag). This time they decided on Tuesday to come for the Memorial Day weekend, but then changed their minds since they?d have to bring their new puppy along. BUT on Saturday afternoon, I hear DH on the phone with his dad ?Oh?. Okay. So? where are you guys? Okay, we?ll see you in a few hours?. A FEW HOURS!!!! They decided on Saturday to come that night and they?re still bringing the puppy. In my anger I refuse to do a frantic house cleaning, and I make DH wash the sheets on the guest bed.
GRRRRR.
AND it turns out MIL got laid-off from her hotel job and so tells me she?ll be here before Baby is born to ?help get the house in order? and for a while after to ?help us get settled?. I want to scream. I SO don?t want her staying with us? for one thing, the room that is currently the guest room is going to become the nursery so there?s nowhere for her to sleep BUT since she?s just lost her job, she?s not going to be able to afford to stay at a hotel.
B!tch better bring a tent is all I gotta say.
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Re: I?d murder the ILs, but don?t want to give birth in jail. (VENT)
but definatly bring this up to DH. He has to understand that things are going to be hectic and crazy enough without a house guest once LO is here.
Maybe he can suggest somewhere else for your MIL to stay when the baby is first born so she isn't up your butt. Do you have anyone else that is family that is local? Or just tell her she is welcome to stay for 1 or 2 nights ,but after that you want to have the house to yourself.
lmao... it reminded me of phrase B!tch betta have my money... lol
I agree that your H needs to have a talk with them, and if he won't then you do. The last thing you want is to "let" her come and resent her the whole time. The first few days with baby can be hard enough without trying to accomodating to someone else.
If she does come, I second the tent! Love it!
this, well not really - that would hurt! too funny.
i hate that this is happening to you. is the baby going to sleep in your room for a while? get a blow up mattress and put it in the guest room.
omfg omfg
::dies::
Dude. If I were you, I'd be having a serious talk with DH about what you need from your IL, namely SPACE and more than a few hours notice that they're coming to stay. Just because they're family doesn't give them license to be rude; anyone else, you and they would expect more notice than that. (It's become a pet peeve of mine that family members think they have license to treat other family members with thoughtlessness and rude behavior just because they're family.)
Also, I would put my foot down with your MIL that you do NOT want her (or anyone?) there immediately before or after the birth. Again, discuss this with your DH beforehand so he's informed, but PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN NOW. If you allow this to happen, expect this to be the norm once baby is born. If you're okay with having your MIL run your soon-to-be family, do nothing. If you'd like to make decisions with your DH regarding your family, SPEAK UP. It won't be easy, especially since your DH is still a mama's boy, but you've gotta do this for you and for your sweet baby. (Speaking from experience, since my parents and my DH's parents wanted to railroad me and DH into having them down for the birth and afterward. We put our foot down, and things were and still are a little strained between us all, but in the long run DH and I will be much happier. AND our parents know that DH and I are in charge of our family now, NOT THEM.)
Good luck!!!
AHHH HAHAHAHA!!!!! I LOVE IT! You made me laugh so hard!
THIS!! lol
DH, unfortunately, isn't at all bothered by the fact that we never get any notice. He's just happy to see his parents. They're kinda clueless though... this is a woman who bought a cream dress to wear to our wedding so it would match mine. I nearly became a felon then, too.
DH, unfortunately, isn't at all bothered by the fact that we never get any notice. He's just happy to see his parents.
two things:
1- work w/in those parameters. Dh wants to see them and likes to see them. So, dont' make this about them not coming. make it about needing notice.
2- this is YOUR house too and YOUR life too. What YOU want absolutely plays a role in this, and it plalys a MUCH BIGGER role than what his parents want. This is what your DH needs to realize. This isn't about them and appeasing them. Ify ou dont' want a houseguest when you give birth, your DH had better damn well back you up on that, and if he doesn't, then I'd seriously be questioning why I married him!
You and your child need to come first. NOT his mom.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
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I dont think so... I would flip my sh!t!! My MIL is coming when the baby is born and staying with us for a bit, but she is getting a blow up mattress in the garden room and that is it!!! she can store her bag in the LO's closet. I love this woman...but she is not taking over... I will make SURE of that!
HA.. B!tch better bring a tent is RIGHT!!!!
This sounds exactly like our situation. Except MIL didn't lose her job (she's been a SAHM mom her whole life), but her husband lost his job about 4 years ago and they have struggled ever since. She called DH to give us ideas for what kind of bed she'd like to sleep on (we sold the guest bed when the guest room became the nursery). We plan on getting an air mattress since that will be a practical thing to have regardless, but it really rubbed me the wrong way that she's so presumptious. I felt like saying, "why don't you pick out what you want and send it to us. That way it will be here for you." Why are WE obligated to have a bed for her??
"You're gonna miss this You're gonna want this back You're gonna wish these days hadn't gone by so fast..."
LMAO...My MIL thinks she's staying too. THINKS being the keyword.