Breastfeeding...hmmm...don't really like it....!

groovychick · May 2009

Okay ?- ?at the risk of getting flamed here, I'm going to go out on a limb and ask the question...."Am I the only one who doesn't like breastfeeding?". I know it is good for the baby and I know it provides immunity and blah, blah, blah, and I will do it, but I really just don't like it. I feel like a cow and the concept of having this person sucking on your boob is just really unappealing to me....It doesn't help that with my first baby we had a lot of problems (latching, not producing enough milk, mastitis, tongue tied etc.) but even when it was working properly, I still hated it....it just feels weird and unnatural to me....And don't get me started on the pumping thing - that made me feel even more of a cow....(okay - let the flames begin!)

HeyyRed · May 2009

I personally find the whole concept gross but I'm still going to do it.

Smellygirl · May 2009

HeyyRed:
I personally find the whole concept gross but I'm still going to do it.

Haha! This!

Starlette1983 · May 2009

I am uncomfortable about the whole thing too, but I made the commitment to try it out because I know it is very good for babies. I didn't give myself a time frame of how long I will do it though, it was enough for me to just say that I would try it out as long as I could!

kiki-W · May 2009

most of my fiends who BF felt the same way and that was the reason they stopped. some did it for a yr, 6 mo, 3 weeks. i think a lot of women feel that way.

my DD was in the NICU and i struggled to get my milk to come in, after a month i dried up. so for me i felt like a fsilure and a cow. ha!

Bf brings on so many emotions.

clyoungsey · May 2009

To be honest, I really couldn't wrap my head around it with DS. He was born small (5 lb 12 oz) and it no longer was about me. I stepped up to the plate and BF/pumped for 14 months...we found out he has an anaphylactic reaction to cow milk...so mommy said moo.

With this one, there is no question. Mommy milk is best for preterm babies and that is what this will be. So just call me bessie.

mrs_rodney · May 2009

I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like this! I am planning to bf (or at least try) anyway, but am so not into it at this point. It just seems so weird to me. I honestly never thought I would do it at all, but it almost seems like thats just what you do, so I guess I will give it a shot.

LVila · May 2009

I think it's best for babies to be breastfed. There are things in breastmilk that can't be reproduced in formula. I'm really hoping that BFing works out for me.

That said, if it's not for you, then don't do it. I really believe that having a happy mommy is a lot better than having breastmilk from a mommy that is upset all the time.

lhull · May 2009

I agree with you. I am going to do it for the first few weeks of baby's life, but the "cow" feeling is still going to be there.

mAnYaSha · May 2009

Plenty of babies grow up on formula. There are also mommies who cannot supply their babies and buy breast milk from other mommies. There are mommies who love breastfeeding so much they do it with kids who are already in school ... Everyone makes decision for themselves and their babies.

I walked out scared from bfing class, but in the end, I am going to give it my best try.

EAN · May 2009

I just responded to another post about this. No one can flame unless they have been there. I hated it and have been stressing about BF'ing this one since I found out I was pregnant. It was that hard (we also had tons of problems) and it was the biggest reflief when I stopped. It is good for the baby, yes...but so is a sane and happy mother.

So no flames from me! I am not sure if I am even going to try it this time.

HeatherandRay · May 2009

No flames here, I respect you for even trying it. I feel the same way, I really do not think I can bring myself to doing it, so I may not even try. Considering I need to go back to work a 8 weeks (and will never ever pump, ditto your cow sentiments there) I think it will be easier for us and the baby to FF from the beginning.

In real life, most mommies I know FF, but online it seems that everyone plans to BF.

zsmommy · May 2009

I didn't like it either, with my first one I got mastitis 3 times in the first month of her life, that I ended up quitting. Mastitis is very painful and makes you feel so sick. I am going to try harder this time around and hope that it works.

MuckDiva · May 2009

I hear ya but that isn't the reason I am not doing it. I want DH to be able to feed the baby and NOT have to require me to be with boob at hand all of the time. I know it is BFing is a good thing and natural but DH and I were bottle fed and we turned out quite well.

Aliliv · May 2009

If it's any consolation, the benefits to breastfeeding (although apparent) are marginal compared to formula. So, really - whatever you do is fine, as long as you're not feeding your baby evaporated milk! I hated almost every minute of breastfeeding DD. It was hard, painful (at times), and incredibly time-consuming (try 7am - 2pm with only 2 20 min. breaks). And, no, I and she were not "doing it wrong." And, yes, I will be trying again:)

rpt06 · May 2009

I totally agree with you and won't be bf. I was FF and I'm a very healthy person so I have no worries.

AlwysAwsm · May 2009

I didn't do it yet, but I already don't think I am going to like it. I have always been very sensitive but I insist on doing it because I know it is best for the baby.... but if that is not enough motivation, the fact that everyone I know who BFed lost their weight very very quickly is.

tiggernorton04 · May 2009

I feel very strongly about wanting to bf my baby. If I run into problems, we'll see a lactation consultant or go to Le Leche. It really is the best thing for the baby. But if you tried it and it didn't work for you, there's nothing wrong with using formula. I know plenty of women who never bf and raised their babies on formula and their babies turned out fine--and I am one of them! To each her own.

BlueEyedBride0705 · May 2009

With my first, I could not WAIT to BF! I did it for the first 5 days after she was born and it was the most miserable experience I'd ever had. I have never felt so guilty about "quitting" something. I cried all the way to the store to buy formula (at 3 a.m.). The next day when she was eating until she was full and I didn't feel resentment about her waking up to eat, I knew I'd made the right decision. With this pregnancy I was already stressing so bad about whether or not to try again that my dr told me about 30 weeks to just make a decision and let my mind rest. I've decided not to, but I'm leaving the option open for when I'm emotional in the hospital!

Good Luck to you and do not feel bad about ANY decision you make. Either will be best for you and baby.

jolis_petits_bijoux · May 2009

No flames here. I don't think it's gross, but I know a lot of people who do, or, at the very least, are uncomfortable about it. I just keep telling myself that breastfeeding is the purpose of why there are breasts on my body! It is what they are for, and I shouldn't let the way I (or anyone around me) have been socialized to make me feel "weird" about it.

I also agree with the cow-like connotation and pumping!!! I recently unpackaged my double electric breast pump. As DH and I were looking at it, all I could say was, "Wow, it looks like a commercial lactation device." And it does!

Chrisy-Wyobride · May 2009

I don't like it either. I tried & tried w/ #1 & it was a nightmare failure...DD#2 BF like a champ from day one & I did until she self-weaned (not totally at 15mo) & I still never loved it. I don't look forward to it for DC#3 either. But it's cheap, i'm lazy & it's good for the baby...& if I learned anything about in motherhood it's that "it's not all about me"--LOL!

momof3pookies · May 2009

i agree!! while i know its best for baby i just cant get into the whole BF thing. i have 2 girls already who were bottle feed and they are healthy and happy!! i also think its weird feeling lol..so your not alone!!

its just not for me

btnikki1983 · May 2009

No flames here either. I planned from day one to FF. But everyone has their opinion and what they feel comfortable doing. I was FF fed too. I do respect the women who choose to BF, they are stronger than I am. Like someone else said, I rather be a happy mom who bottle feeds than a unhappy mom who is breast feeding.

JasonsMauiMama · May 2009

Pffft. I loved breastfeeding. Loved it. Guess what, my boobs, my baby, my choice. Your boobs, your baby, your choice.

I know plenty of women who were undecided. Some gave it a shot and loved it. Some gave it a shot and hated it. Both sets went with their choice, with one exception. A coworker struggled for four long months hating every minute of it. She mentioned it to me one day in the lunchroom, and I point blank asked her why she didn't stop. Poor thing broke down crying, and stopped within a few days.

Holding and feeding your baby should be a warm, nuturing experience, and it doesn't matter where the milk comes from.

electricdoctor83 · May 2009

Surely no one would flame you for how you feel on BF. You tried it and didn't like it, your LO will be fine either way. I am a little weirded out by it too but I'll give it a go.

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