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If you want to hate on my husband with me come on in...(long)

djdavisdjdavis
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So this morning dh's brother calls us and asks if we can take him to go pick up his car. Sure, we go and when we get there i catch a glimpse of my oh so dear husband throwing something on the backseat of the jeep. I say "what was that?"?

He then turned back to his brother who was getting out of the back seat and says "Hey give me my card, I accidently dropped it"

I am catching on to something fishy grab the card that my H threw to his brother. It was a card I have never seen before. So I ask him what it is. He tells me that it is his work credit card. Hello jackass I am not stupid....

Reasons I am PISSED:

1. If it had been his work credit card why would he give it to his brother

2. Hello I know what your work credit card looks like and that wasn't it.

3. Where the F did this card come from and why does it have your name on it.

4. We have NO money to spare right now, I am still playing major catch up from my maternity leave.

5. Do NOT EVER LIE TO ME!!!!!

So if you havent caught on my husband agreed to loan a couple hundred dollars to his brother that makes the same as my H, lives alone with no bills other than utilities, from an account that he opened without my knowledge. Then lied in effort to keep that account a secret.

Honestly money matters is the biggest stress in my life. We cut it close many months and the fact that he has the balls to go behind my back and stash money when he has seen me cry many times because we come up short for bills just makes me absolutely livid. Then to lie to my face when I ask him about it.

I could seriously kick him in the crotch today....but at least he did all the yard work today while trying to avoid me.?

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Re: If you want to hate on my husband with me come on in...(long)

  • manda_mullinsmanda_mullins member
    To me that would be a serious issue. Not cool.
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  • AshleyEric609AshleyEric609 member
    It's awful to say but something like that would have potential to ruin my marraige.
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  • Alli3586Alli3586 member
    Wow, that's not cool at all. Reminds me of my ex. We were living together and money was really tight and he went and got a credit card and didn't even tell me! I was super pissed and we weren't even married.
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  • JLS0320JLS0320 member

    imageAshleyEric609:
    It's awful to say but something like that would have potential to ruin my marraige.

    This, a super serious issue  

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  • djdavisdjdavis

    imageAshleyEric609:
    It's awful to say but something like that would have potential to ruin my marraige.

    Exactly! I love this man but we have had our struggles and my one request when I decided to marry him, was that he ALWAYS be honest and NEVER lie to me again. Then to watch him do it so easily while keeping a straight face, really really upsets me.??

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  • AngieandTonyAngieandTony
    imagedjdavis:

    imageAshleyEric609:
    It's awful to say but something like that would have potential to ruin my marraige.

    Exactly! I love this man but we have had our struggles and my one request when I decided to marry him, was that he ALWAYS be honest and NEVER lie to me again. Then to watch him do it so easily while keeping a straight face, really really upsets me.  

    what did he lie to you about the first time.  if tony pulled something like this, he wouldn't be able to "avoid" me. i'd be up his as$ all day waiting for him to tell me how he was going to show me all the statements from this secret account, how he was going to close it, and how his brother was going to pay us back. 

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  • LuLu38LuLu38
    I am sorry you are going through this.  This is a SERIOUS trust issue. 
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  • Kris&AmyKris&Amy member
    imageAngieandTony:
    imagedjdavis:

    imageAshleyEric609:
    It's awful to say but something like that would have potential to ruin my marraige.

    Exactly! I love this man but we have had our struggles and my one request when I decided to marry him, was that he ALWAYS be honest and NEVER lie to me again. Then to watch him do it so easily while keeping a straight face, really really upsets me.  

    what did he lie to you about the first time.  if tony pulled something like this, he wouldn't be able to "avoid" me. i'd be up his as$ all day waiting for him to tell me how he was going to show me all the statements from this secret account, how he was going to close it, and how his brother was going to pay us back. 

    I second A&T's statement 100%

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  • britti<3britti<3

    1. that is so disrespectful of him

    2. why did he have to loan your bil money?

    3. I'd expect full repayment on his next payday.

    4. i'd give my DH a swift kick in the nuts.

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  • djdavisdjdavis
    imageAngieandTony:
    imagedjdavis:

    imageAshleyEric609:
    It's awful to say but something like that would have potential to ruin my marraige.

    Exactly! I love this man but we have had our struggles and my one request when I decided to marry him, was that he ALWAYS be honest and NEVER lie to me again. Then to watch him do it so easily while keeping a straight face, really really upsets me.??

    what did he lie to you about the first time.? if tony pulled something like this, he wouldn't be able to "avoid" me. i'd be up his as$ all day waiting for him to tell me how he was going to show me all the statements from this secret account, how he was going to close it, and how his brother was going to pay us back.?

    ?

    Well I suppose I will air our dirty laundry. In the first half of our 7 year relationship there was a pretty big cheating incident. I found out and left and eventually we worked things out.

    I dont care about the statements and I dont care if he wants to have an account to set aside money....but I had better know about it!!!! I am not a suspicious person and I dont want to be. But what am I suppose to think If I know you lie to me.

    Since I decided to share a little bit of our not so perfect history, please dont try to turn this into a "oh if he lied to you about this, he has to be cheating" post. Not the case and if I suspected it were, trust me I would find out and would be gone....but again not the case! ?

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  • Ashley PharezAshley Pharez
    I am sorry hun. That isn't cool at all.  Sit him down and have a serious talk.  In his defense though maybe he did it because he knew how stressed you are about money.  No excuses on his part though.  ::hugs::
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  • djdavisdjdavis
    imagebritti<3:

    1. that is so disrespectful of him

    2. why did he have to loan your bil money?

    3. I'd expect full repayment on his next payday.

    4. i'd give my DH a swift kick in the nuts.

    2 and 3. Aww I should have mentioned that it was because he spent his paycheck at the bar and on some xbox games so didnt have enough for the week.

    ?I put the kabosh on loaning the money. We have no money to spare right now and I am absolutely not going to pay for that kind of crap. So no repayment plan will be in place.?

    4. I am way to nice for violence but he is not sleeping in my bed tonight. ?

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  • LuLu38LuLu38
    imagedjdavis:
    imageAngieandTony:
    imagedjdavis:

    imageAshleyEric609:
    It's awful to say but something like that would have potential to ruin my marraige.

    Exactly! I love this man but we have had our struggles and my one request when I decided to marry him, was that he ALWAYS be honest and NEVER lie to me again. Then to watch him do it so easily while keeping a straight face, really really upsets me.  

    what did he lie to you about the first time.  if tony pulled something like this, he wouldn't be able to "avoid" me. i'd be up his as$ all day waiting for him to tell me how he was going to show me all the statements from this secret account, how he was going to close it, and how his brother was going to pay us back. 

     

    Well I suppose I will air our dirty laundry. In the first half of our 7 year relationship there was a pretty big cheating incident. I found out and left and eventually we worked things out.

    I dont care about the statements and I dont care if he wants to have an account to set aside money....but I had better know about it!!!! I am not a suspicious person and I dont want to be. But what am I suppose to think If I know you lie to me.

    Since I decided to share a little bit of our not so perfect history, please dont try to turn this into a "oh if he lied to you about this, he has to be cheating" post. Not the case and if I suspected it were, trust me I would find out and would be gone....but again not the case!  

    I am definitely not going to turn this into a "he is cheating on you" post, but he MUST STOP LYING TO YOU  or your relationship is doomed.  If you feel you can even trust him at this point, that is.  Take care of yourself. 

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  • crawtatercrawtater member

    imageAshleyEric609:
    It's awful to say but something like that would have potential to ruin my marraige.

    this.

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  • Ashley PharezAshley Pharez
    imageLuLu38:
    imagedjdavis:
    imageAngieandTony:
    imagedjdavis:

    imageAshleyEric609:
    It's awful to say but something like that would have potential to ruin my marraige.

    Exactly! I love this man but we have had our struggles and my one request when I decided to marry him, was that he ALWAYS be honest and NEVER lie to me again. Then to watch him do it so easily while keeping a straight face, really really upsets me.  

    what did he lie to you about the first time.  if tony pulled something like this, he wouldn't be able to "avoid" me. i'd be up his as$ all day waiting for him to tell me how he was going to show me all the statements from this secret account, how he was going to close it, and how his brother was going to pay us back. 

     

    Well I suppose I will air our dirty laundry. In the first half of our 7 year relationship there was a pretty big cheating incident. I found out and left and eventually we worked things out.

    I dont care about the statements and I dont care if he wants to have an account to set aside money....but I had better know about it!!!! I am not a suspicious person and I dont want to be. But what am I suppose to think If I know you lie to me.

    Since I decided to share a little bit of our not so perfect history, please dont try to turn this into a "oh if he lied to you about this, he has to be cheating" post. Not the case and if I suspected it were, trust me I would find out and would be gone....but again not the case!  

    I am definitely not going to turn this into a "he is cheating on you" post, but he MUST STOP LYING TO YOU  or your relationship is doomed.  If you feel you can even trust him at this point, that is.  Take care of yourself. 

    Ditto.

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