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RobynK
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Flame Free Confession Time!
RobynK
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We sent most of Mikayla's 1st birthday invites awhile ago. My MIL called my husband the other night asking where the invite for his aunt and uncle is. We didn't send them one, and didn't intend to. I want people who actually know and care about my daughter to be at her birthday party. They've seen Mikayla once since she was born and that was at a different family function - they've never asked about her, never said congrats when she was born, NOTHING. His aunt creeps me out, she's very passive aggressive and just weird. And she gives us the oddest gifts, like when we finally saw her in April and she gave us pickles and said it was our Christmas gift - in APRIL.... PICKLES.
And what annoys me is MIL didn't ask IF we were inviting her, just asked where is the invite, and pretty much ordered DH to send his aunt an invite asap. Part of me doesn't want to invite her just on principle, but I probably will just because I know MIL will freak out and I don't want to deal with her crap. Ugh.
Breastfeeding SUCKS right now and sometimes I just want to quit!! I have been so close to saying F this, I am going to switch to formula, but then my guilt gets the best of me.
I really want to stick with it, but this thrush is sometimes more then I can handle. We do supplement, in the evenings, with formula because my supply is so low at night and little Maxman can't seem to get enough. So when he does get on the boobie, he is like an overly excited little piranha!
I know it will get better, but my breasts hurt so bad right now!!
The only Easter Bunny I can get behind.
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My MIL went up to visit DH for the week cause he wasn't feeling well and was lonely. While she is there, he took her to see the house we put an offer on, plus others. I am unreasonably upset that she gets to see what could be my new home before I do.
And I am having a hard time being empathetic for him being lonely. I am doing it all on my own, 24/7 and he has free reign to do anything he wants.
I am not working right now (laid off) yet I still take Nathan to daycare 3 days a week. We can't afford to lose our spot but I still shouldn't take hime for full days--this could be our only chance to have this much time together. But I am so tired.
I think today I will pick him up after afternoon nap and we'll go to the park with Zoe (the dog). That'll alleviate some guilt.
I am really sick and TIRED of Haileys sleeping this last week. She is sleeping like a newborn at night. But does not sleep but 2- 30 minute naps during the day!
I am simply not being smart right now!!! I started ferber two nights ago and now we are going camping for the weekend. How the heck am I going to let her cio in a campground???
I got annoyed with a pregnant woman yesterday. Ugh.
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My MIL stalks my myspace page through SIL's page (she logs into my SIL's account) and then finds out when we're heading to Seattle and calls to ask us to stop in Portland to see her for awhile. Last night she called DH and started whining and trying to manipulate him into coming. And DH wonders why I don't like her much. DH doesn't think it's weird that my MIL logs into my SIL's account either. She is driving me f'ing crazy with her constant whining and comments and complaints. She doesn't respect me and my parenting abilities either, so even if I say something, she just kinda walks away like she didn't hear anything. Sometimes, I want to punch her in the face and tell her that until she stops acting like a 12 year old, we're not stopping to see her.
That and I hate Eugene. My allergies are a beast here, I still don't really have friends that want to hang out and there aren't many things to do here. The friends I've made are really nice, but most of them have things they did before they met me, so they're typically busy with that. I miss my friends in Seattle and I really wish we could just move back... But I would never say that to DH because he LOVES his job and this has always been a place he wanted to live.
I feel better now.
Sorry, I DD'd. I said something about facebook stalking and then realized the friend in question may read what I wrote here.
Not that she's ever posted here, just that she knows I do.
Anyway.?
...but realistically I know we shouldnt be ttc now...DD is only 10 months and sometimes I feel Im going to go crazy with the 2 kids I have now...
I am also terrified about going back to school. Ive been talking about it for awhile and now I think Im ready. but I dont know how in the world I am going to do it with 2 little ones. I understand moms do it all the time but I suck at math and have a feeling Im never going to get past that "hump" in order to move on to the nursing part
I have no groceries in the house, so I just ate a couple of BBQ potato chips for breakfast. The breakfast of champions!
DH and I suck at reading to DS. We hardly ever do it. He has a whole book shelf full of awesome books, but they are mostly untouched. I hope we aren't doing any long-term damage to DS. I'm hoping he'll still love books and to read.
I hate that my ILs complain about not seeing Ray San enough or when they do see him, they try to guilt us into seeing them more. The road goes both ways. Yes we see my parents A LOT, but they also live 2 mins. from us, they watch him for me no matter what, they have set work hours, they feed us, they just do a whole heck of a lot more for us. I didn't even get anything for Mother's Day from them after I invited them to my family's Mother's Day dinner. I've made them all sorts of personalized things (a shadow box from our wedding, a book of pictures from our wedding, pictures of Ray San) absolutely nothing I've personalized for them is displayed in their house. My parents have that stuff up all over. I just feel like they don't appreciate it and I'm really tired of trying. I don't want to take time out of my busy schedule to drive 20 mins out of my way so they can visit Ray San. Why would I when we do see them every few weeks, the first thing they say is "Oh, we haven't seen him in a long time. We hardly ever see him!!" And then they say "You guys should really come over and visit more often!!" Maybe I'm just being ultra sensitive, but I'm really tired of them trying to make me feel guilty. Sorry, I'm too much of a b!tch to feel guilty. Oh and I hate that they just take him from me and take him out of his seat and basically just do whatever they want with him when they are around. This is my kid, not yours!!
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M&M we too suck at reading to Ads. The only action her books are getting is if she is eating them.
I am jealous that DH is laid off and gets to spend all day with Ads. Ads is already a daddys girls and I am afraid with him getting to spend all day with her she is going to forget about mommy.
I'm in month 3 of recovering from foot surgery and I just started walking about 3 weeks ago. I have a lot of pain, enough to bring me to tears the other night. And the swelling that resulted from the walking is ridiculous. I have a "cankle" on my right leg, and I have always had skinny ankles. This was my first week back to the office (half-days) and to driving. Plus DH and I are packing b/c we're moving this weekend. I don't get enough time to rest, elevate, and ice my foot. I REALLY want my podiatrist to tell me I have to take it easy. I have a strong guilt complex and I usually push myself too hard. I just want a doctor's note explaining that, even though I have a lot of outside pressures to get better, I'm pushing myself too damn hard and I need to rest.
*sigh* I called my Dr's office a few days ago, though, and he said it sounds pretty normal and that I should be icing and elevating as much as possible. "As much as possible" is the hard part to follow. May has been busy and hard. We need a nice, low-key June.
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Every week we go to mil and my mom's house for dinner. Two seperate dinners with two seperate families. But why do both mothers cook really late and never think how it affects dd's sleep schedule? DD needs to go down for bed at 9:30. We go over to their houses for a free meal, but mostly because our families want to see dd.
Yesterday we go over at 7pm and food is not on the table until 8pm. Not only did we finish dinner close to 8:45 but dh grandma also insisted to make a dessert that took her an extra 30 minutes to prepare after dinner. DD was screaming at the top of her lungs because she was so tired and over stimulated. Oh, and mil doesn't like dd crying. Tough. If she makes dinner so late then it will happen. After dinner, while waiting for grandma to prepare her dessert, MIL kept taking dd from dh and gave her back when she couldn't calm dd down herself. She did it 2x at least. What's with that? Made dd even more mad and dh could figure out how to soothe her himself.
I had serious insomnia last night, and I am tired. I don't want to sleep all day, it's sunny darn it!
I was supposed to got mass this morning, and I didn't do it.
I have to work this weekend, and I am not happy about it.
I am excited to go to the M's game tonight tho so I am trying not to have a huge pity party.
I could have written this (other than the thrush part!)...I need to post a question about uneven supply, my breasts are becoming two different sizes, I think Max may not be getting enough, and a big part of me just wants to switch to formula, then I feel guilty for thinking that. Try not to let the guilt get the best of you, you are a great mommy and Max J is so lucky to have you!
I skipped 2 days of the 30 day shred this week. Oops.
I feel like a bad wife. My husband has been working SO much and I feel I should've came up with a vaca for the weekend.
I dream about winning the lottery like everyday. I've never played in my life..
I've spend thousands of dollars on friends over time, and I'm starting to regret it.
I'm grateful that the in laws let DH and I move in to help with the remainder of the pregnancy and the baby later on but I cannot stand DH's uncle. He's been here for a few months now jumping from house to house, supposedly trying to find a job, and always talking about how much he hates it here and how he wants to get back to Alaska. Oh and to top it off, I hear the same thing from him about 50 times a day (literally) because he has so much memory loss from being an alcoholic and doing too many drugs. He says he is leaving next weekend to go back to Alaska, but he's been saying that for months. For my sanity and my in laws' sake, I hope he does. MIL is not happy with him here either.
We are driving to Montana tonight and while I absolutely love it there and love seeing the family that's there, I'm not looking forward to the drive there all night tonight or the drive home on Memorial Day when traffic is basically at it's worse. I still need to finish packing too but have no motivation what so ever.
This would NEVER HAPPEN!!! That little girl adores you. Daddy's are fabulous but nobody can replace the MOMMA!! :-)
We're having a Memorial Day Brunch in my office...and after 1 1/2 mimosas, I'm tipsy, and so are all my co-workers. We also have a Bloody Mary bar going on. It is fabulous!
I still have 2 1/2 hours till I get to go home and I don't care if I get absolutely no work done.
Amen Sister Friend!!
The only Easter Bunny I can get behind.
Maxwell Joseph 4/09 Lucy Violet 10/12
Pearly, been there--done that!! I went all over the dang place, searching...I finally found one at, of all places, BRU. They have a really sweet baby boy outfit section for just this purpose!!
The only Easter Bunny I can get behind.
Maxwell Joseph 4/09 Lucy Violet 10/12
We're planning a camping trip with a few of DH's friends for August in Eastern WA and I really don't want to go. Not only is it going to be more work than fun with the kids but I'm overly conscious of my new post partum body. I haven't lost the weight that I've wanted to and I really don't want to show off these stretchmarks quite yet. That, and two toddlers in a camper at night? Uhhh... not so much. DH will be uber disappointed if we don't go (he wont go without us), so I'm trying really hard to be ok with it.
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Gosh I would love to have a mimosas and have been craving Bloody Mary's like crazy and I never drank them before I was pregnant at all! LUCKY!
I can give you my MIL information. She crazy spoils the kids but to the worst sometimes. And sometimes doesn't make things equal. Let me rephrase that, she spiols oldest DS the worst and gives him anything and everything he wants at all times and spoils DD because she it her only granddaughter.
I just about lost it this morning. While driving to work DH dropped his phone in a cup of milk. Not sure why he had the cup of milk in his lap with his phone on his lap too. So I took his phone to work, after a big fit from him to dry it out. Now it works! Meanwhile, DH's exwife text him telling him DS called her to tell her he had a halfday and forgot to tell us and give us the paperwork about it. So I then had to call MIL, see if she could pick the kids up from the bus. The thing that makes me mad is this is not the first time it's happened. Somehow my boys NEVER give DH and I papers even if we ask for them. And I always have to scramble on halfdays to figure things out when I never knew there was a halfday. Also this is the 2nd time this week that DS has called someone other then DH or to tell or ask for something. He called MIL on Mon asking her if he could have ice cream for a snack when we have a snack bin that I prepack every night for them. I know he is calling them because he knows DH or I will be mad, but it makes me even more mad that he would call his Mom about a halfday when she just saw the children for the 1st time in 3 weeks. She isn't even in their life really and she does nothing for them! UGH!
That's so sh!tty! ?Can you bring it up and say that you'd at least like her to consider you strongly?? ?I'm sorry. ?:(?
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I've tried, multiple times. It isn't working. It is so incredibly frustrating, especially considering the hours I've been working and that it is a 50% increase in pay. But, if I quit now, we have to put off TTC for quite awhile longer, and the benefits here are so good its hard to justify. Still a total slap in the face.
Sort of on the heels of what asianbymarriage said....
I've been lucky in that for the most part people haven't tried to offer me tons of unsolicited advice during this pregnancy. ?But any time I say anything someone always responds with "just wait - it will only get worse." ?It makes me want to smack them. ?I mention that I'm having a hard time sleeping.... just wait. ?I say that my back hurts.... just wait. ?I tell them that I'm starting to feel huge.... just wait.
Really? ?I want to say - do you think I'm an idiot? ?I KNOW that I will get less sleep later. ?I KNOW that my back will hurt more and more. ?I KNOW that I will get bigger. ?You asked me how I'm feeling - why not just let me answer.
What's worse is that most often, the people saying this are men. ?What the f*** do you know? ?You've never been pregnant.
/rant?
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I can't say no but it's because I don't trust others to get things done with the same level of detail. I regret that not only am I the chairperson of the 20th High School Reunion, but it's 6 weeks after my due date. GRRRRR - not like i"m pregnant and can blame my body on baby still being there. I didn't attend my 10 year because i was in the midst of a horrible divorce. I want to see my friends and reconnect and wish I could fake my confidence in saying there will people who look worse than I do at the reunion. Vanity sucks. I'm also in the midst of 4 major projects at work, have already paired back my STD and maternity leave to the minimal but will end up working partially through STD - I don't want to regret not taking the time with my baby but am paranoid in this market. i will be able to work from home and have someone come help on those days so at least I'll be around her until late September.
I'm also a bad wife, we have not had s3x in almost 2 months. My poor patient husband who will have to wait after birth too for weeks. I promise to make it up to him post baby.
I hestitated posting any confessions thinking today isn't so bad, and here I've rambled on and on and on. Thank you.
I get annoyed when some 1st time mothers swear their kids have colic, when it's more likely that they are just normal babies who are overstimulated.
This week I ate the remainder of a tub of ice cream and put the empty carton back in the freezer so DH wouldn't know. Then I tossed it out on garbage day after he went to work and bought a new one.
I have been getting unreasonably angry lately that dh doesnt have a job yet. I know he's trying but come on! (see there i go again) I know it isnt his fault the economy sucks and I think a lot of this anger comes from the fact that he keeps going shopping to fill his days at home (uh hello! you dont have money, stop going to home depot and getting crap we dont need!) or he will spend $100 to join a softball league because he "just needs to get out sometimes" and then I feel like I have to ask permission if I want something for myself! The other day I bought a $10 shirt and hid it in my car until he wasnt home then I snuck it into my closet...
I guess I dont understand why *I* am the one with a job and yet I feel guilty spending money, when he is unemployed and out buying crap all the time.. grr...