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I get so frustrated
when people laugh at me or roll their eyes when they notice I use a certain product or have certain foods for L, like California Baby or organic crackers. "That is such a scam," "Why does it even matter?" I just love the looks I get when people realize I'm using cloth diapers - of course I can't say that I believe disposable diapers are disgusting because they contain petro chemicals. I don't feel like getting punched in the Target ladies room.?
My mother thinks that is insane that I haven't taken my baby to McDonald's yet. We don't eat there ever, so why would I take my kid there?! Go and read Fast Food Nation. You will never eat fast food again. Did you know that McDonald's French fries used to be fried in almost 90% beef tallow? Up until 1990. They contained more saturated fat than one of the hamburgers there. I dare you to read about where the meat for their hamburgers comes from. I always laugh when I see the commercials claiming that their meat is 'pure and natural.' ?It is anything but, and my kid will not be eating that. I will not pay for her to consume that crap.?
I don't like unnecessary chemicals touching my kid's skin, and I don't like her eating high fructose corn syrup or a lot of sugar. We shouldn't even have to worry about that stupid crap, yet it is present in so many of the products and foods that we use and consume every day. If more people demanded that these disgusting chemicals were taken out, we wouldn't have to pay an arm and a leg for products that don't contain them. It's not fair to people who can't afford to spend the money.?
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I'm expecting eye rolls. I'm prepared.?
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Re: I get so frustrated
No eye rolls here.
I'm with you. Well, okay so Evan gets fast food - he has some extraordinary weirdness about food, and the only thing he eats is chicken and french fries, so yes sometimes we go do that at Wendy's.
BUT - I try to be healthy with Abby, and as much as I can with Evan's food hangups. And for myself. Because it's just what we do, I guess. And I get the same reaction as you - especially from my Mom and her generation. They don't understand why I nearly had a coronary when my Mom's boyfriend handed Abby a brownie with peanuts all over the top. They say I'm silly and overprotective and that I overthink things.
For me though, people "judge" on my parenting choices more than my food choices. I cosleep, used to CD too (til we moved to where there is no laundry facility and I refuse to do them at a laundromat), we use gentle discipline, and we are pretty 'democratic' with Evan. He has a lot more control over his life than a lot of my friends give their kids the same age, and people always act like I'm wayyyy overthinking my parenting choices.
Ah well. Fvck 'em, I say.
Although we do not use cloth diapers, I am also getting tired of the comments about giving him organic foods. I am sick of hearing "we didn't have organic foods and we're fine." I try to ignore it but it is really starting to get old.
I totally agree with you. I get the exact same thing. I think MIL thinks I'm overbearing... Nope! Just trying to do the best for DS. I know we are going to battle when DS gets older about fast food. I totally agree, McDonalds is nasty. I don't even eat there. And we don't really eat junk food. Everyone says "yeah, just wait until the baby is five, he will eat junk food." We don't even have any junk food in the house. If we don't eat is, how is DS going to eat it?? (except for the occassional treat, of course).
I'm so with you on this. I just don't understand why it's okay for people to be so openly (rudely) judgmental about that stuff. I'm not making inappropriate comments to THEM for choosing to use disposable diapers, or feed their kid whatever, or any other parenting decision they're making. So why is it okay for them to say things like "Wow, I think cloth diapers are so gross, I would never do that", etc?
I'm not pretending I can keep my kid in a bubble her whole life. But there are a few important things I CAN control, in this vulnerable period of her life, so I'm going to do my best. And then hopefully she'll learn to make healthy choices for herself, too, as she gets older. As long as both DH and I are on the same page, I don't understand how anyone else can condemn that.
No eye rolls here.
hey it's made from corn! jk
I try to be healthy too. DD will take fruits/veggies over anything. Buuut she loves McDs. I try to only use it as a treat every once in awhile. DH eats FF daily and it drives me nuts. Its something we argue about often.
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Good for you for making your decisions and to heck with people who don't agree.
I love me some McDonalds. So bad, but so good.
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
Though, I've definitely relaxed a lot and have come to terms with the fact that I can't control EVERYTHING...BUT I do my best to keep the harmful chemicals to a minimum, knowing that I'll never be able to protect her from everything she comes in contact with.
The CD comments/faces are the best! I know it's crazy to think that I've made this decision regarding MY child and her bottom! *gasp* I mean, If people understood how EASY it is to cloth diapering...and gave it a shot, I think their reaction would be quite different.
The other big one is when we're out to dinner (with or without friends) and I pull out DD's dinner (that i've made for her and placed in a glass storage container). This one almost ALWAYS gets the side eye. Whatever. My kid...my choices.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
I'm sure I'll eventually let DD eat McDonalds or other fast food, but only as a rare "treat" and not until she's older And hopefully, she won't even want it after eating more healthy food!
I try really hard not to preach about it. If someone asks me what I use or what I do specifically, I do tend to get excited and spout off about it (case in point: this post). I hope they understand that I am not trying to be judgmental; I am just passionate about the topic.
For the record, I didn't make my own baby food.?
I even held my tongue when my sister stuck a sucker in L's mouth at Christmastime when she was a whole five months old. ?
I totally agree with this.
Hey, I'm only a couple of months away from twenty :O) WIll that stereotype drop once I hit that?
I'm such a hippy. Living in California and certain areas of Chicago will do that to a person.
My DH and I also don't own a car - by choice. We walk or take public transportation everywhere and will soon be biking with DD.
Just tattoo freak on my forehead.?
I'm partly with you. I'm a big proponent of healthy organic eating- a lot of it stems from the sickness in my family (mom and sister).
I'm that mom at daycare that brings in her fruit and organic milk and won't let her eat the cinnamon toast crunch on cereal days. I'm more of a stickler for the fruits, veggies, meats, and dairy being organic than anything processed. I"m also a stickler for low sugar.
However, if I HAVE to stop for fast food, I usually choose a somewhat healthy venue. DD has had french fries before, at Chili's, and their food is very high in fat. She has also had cake and cookies. Everything in moderation is okay with me. We don't eat like that often but I do enjoy a french fry and DD will enjoy it as well. I think it's important to not outlaw these types of foods as more than likely she will be exposed to them eventually. If you tell a toddler they cannot have something, sometimes they want it more. I also think that outlawing these types of foods can lead to binge eating later on.
I think it's important to teach healthy choices and stress that the bad food is bad for you but if you have to eat it, it's okay in moderation.
Wow you are 19? Good going. I'm 34 and have worked in the environmental field my whole adult life, so I'm pretty set in my ways and everyone around me knows it! Fortunately though, I've never gotten comments like that about my green choices for DC. Might have something to do with the fact that I live in Seattle, where these choices are perhaps more mainstream than northern IL (where I am from - I remember what it was like to be a vegetarian there!)
I make many of the same choices and have to hear about it from family...it drives me insane.
What is odd though is that I live in Cambridge, MA where every Mom is all about organic food, cloth diapering and walking everywhere. In a way it's nice and suits our lifestyle well to be somewhere where I can chat with other Moms about this...but I feel like there's pressure on local Moms sometimes to make these choices and it sucks if they are judged for not doing these things.
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Thank you for not feeding your child McDonalds.
Seriously. I hope and pray Kenley NEVER asks to go there.
Ugh. I just can't, not after reading Fast Food Nation and seeing the movie. It is a true eye opener. We never eat fast food. Seriously. Subway is as close as it gets. ?
ugh. same with the CDing.
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My SIL sometimes laughs at me because we buy organic milk, and any fruit/veggie that is offered organic. I do buy fruits that my DD likes that I haven't seen in organic, such as mango. I don't cloth diaper because that's just not for me, but my mom tried to talk me into it LOL. I may be brave enough to try it with the next baby, as one of my best friends is due in December and will probably do it.
When I was little my mom never let me have candy or junk food/fast food. I know my grandma and my aunts used to get annoyed that she wouldn't let me have chocolate, etc., but I don't really eat junk now so it obviously worked. I'll do the same with my DD. I also use California Baby. I'm lucky in that I have a BIG supporter in my mom for this kind of stuff. I know my MIL loves me but probably thinks I'm a bit wacky. But I'm also not super strict, and if we're at someone else's house and they have a banana or something I'm not going to not let her have it because it's not organic. I just think I should give my kids the best foundation I can. And I also truly believe that we haven't seen the effects of all the crap in our food and products. I'm barely 30...I have A LOT of life left for something to happen to me in terms of disease. It's scary!