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NGPR: DH's job
DH and I are torn about what to do and maybe some outside thinking will help us.
DH works as a truck driver right now, non-CDL. He makes really good money in the summer, base pay + commission + mileage. We work for an ice cream distrabution company, so the summer is the best time of year to make $$!
He recently went to school and got his CDL class A license, in order to forward himself in the industry he loves. It has been a little slow finding a job in this economy, especially since he doesn't have CDL experience yet, but it has only been about 3 months and he isnt hardcore trying.
Today he got a job offer from a pretty large company. Everything sounds good except that they offered him about $2 less than his base pay right now and there is no commission and no mileage. They did tell him they are on a 10% pay decrease right now because the winter was slow but it should come up in a month or so and he would be at about what he makes for base pay now. That is not really guarenteed to happen though.
We are kinda tight with money these days, with my school loans and now his, plus cars and living. We do, do alot, spend alot doing this and what not, but that is life we want and love. He does need this to at least get some experience but I honestly do not beleive we will be able to hang it at $6-10 less an hour. That is ALOT of money at the end of the month.
I am almost in tears and kinda with he didnt get the offer. I do not want to tell him no because that is not my place to tell him and I also, do not want him to miss a great opportunity but I dont think we will be able to save and get out of debt with this, we will get more in debt!
thanks for listening, I am at a loss for words for him. 
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Re: NGPR: DH's job
If it was me, I would discuss the money aspect with him. I hate being in debt so I would want to have it all paid down. I wouldn't want him to take a job that wasn't going to guarentee the money we needed. Once the debt is paid down then it would be a great time to look.?
However, does he only make the good money during the summer? In the winter will the money be similar? What other benefits are they offer that are better than the current employers??
That's so weird. My DH has been a CDL driver for years. He is currently doing contract work now (outside of the transportation industry) mainly due to the economy, however.
Firstly, it totally is your place to tell your husband what you think is best for your family. If you can't afford him to take the oppty, you need to tell him that and explain that you can't see how this would work in the short-term. Also, you are right, the economy is really tough right now. I am in HR and I see it all the time. People leave one job, to take another, etc. and then 6 mos later they are downsized. It's a really big risk to take a leap now, and for something that isn't ideal for you seems even riskier. I would explain all this to him.
Is this new oppty local, regional, over the road?
My DH and I took a 45,000 pay cut in order for him to leave his job and go back to school this year. We often have money talks mainly because we dont' have a lot of it and we had to change our lifestyle and lower our standard of living until he is done with school and we both have full-time jobs again...with that said...I think that it is your place to say you dont' think it is a good idea for him to take the job you are husband and wife...sit down and take a look at your finances together to see it all written out that way you aren't being the bad guy...which I am often seen as when I tell DH he can't have something but I am the one that is in control of the bills and even though he has access to the bank accounts sometimes I wonder if he ever looks at them...
Good luck...that is a big decision but it has to be right for the both of you
He will still be making more in the winter at his current job than what he would make at the new job and there really isnt anything better about the new job except for the experience.
I know it is my place because it effects both of us but I don't want to be the one who made him miss out. He is excited to get a new job.
He def takes me into consideration and would never do anything I do not feel comfortable with and we have already looked at finance recently and he knows we really won't be able to do it. I just feel bad.
Open communication is key to a marriage working. You need to be honest about how you feel about the pay-cut and how it will effect you as a family. In this economy, I would be inclined to stay in a job that has consistenly paid, however you need to make sure he understands where you come from. You also need to think about the fact that you may get PG soon and this requires a lot of money up front.
Be honest with him and make a list of pros and cons.
Well it sounds like the decision has already been made...it does suck when money controls what you do...wouldn't it be nice to live a life where you didn't have to look at a price tag or say we can't afford that...I guess we all just need to count our blessing I know that my situation is what I want but I know that it could be way worse...good luck with everything
I think maybe you need to reevaluate the life you "want and love" with regard to spending. If this job offers money coming in right now and experience he can use long-term, it might be a good decision. It may just require some sacrifices on your part to not go into further debt on this (reduced, maybe temporarily) income.
Remember, it is just a job, not a life sentence. He can quite later on if he needs to.