Unsure of when to tell

chile_chicken · May 2009

I just can't wait to tell people about our first pregnancy, even though I am not even eight weeks. I would have loved to tell the family this weekend, but DH really wants to wait until the 12 week scan so that we have something to show. I just have no idea of how I can keep my mouth shut for another five weeks!

Will you wait until your 12 week scan or have you told people already?

userdeleted · May 2009

We told at 8 weeks with both pregnancies, but I know a lot of people like to wait until 12. It'd kill me to wait too, but of course you want your husband to be comfortable

Califlorida · May 2009

with dd we waited and it seemed like forever!

with this baby, both families and my boss know already. we'll tell friends when we're closer to 12 weeks.

chile_chicken · May 2009

I know, I just keep thinking that five more weeks seems like forever! Plus my brother is making wedding plans and it is really awkward becuase they have set the date for about a week after my due date, but of course I cannot say anything about it yet!

2.red.heads · May 2009

it's super hard to wait!! i kept my mouth shut until after we heard the heartbeat at 10 weeks.

i know when i hear about someone's pregnancy i love spreading the happy news (when they are also telling the world). when it ends in an early miscarriage that is a lot of people to re-tell the sad news.

chile_chicken · May 2009

Fingers crossed that nothing goes wrong but I think that is why DH is hesitant to tell until we have proff in our hands.

Awww I want your little redhead boy! I hope I have a redhead, DH and all his family are redheads and they are all so cute as kids!

bbowie · May 2009

We told with DS at 7w b/c my morning sickness was pretty bad. We told our familes and my boss.

Told everyone else at 9w after my first ultrasound.

I plan to tell at 13w this time around unless m/s strikes again in which case will probable do the 7w/ultrasound thing again.

Can't Wait To Be A Mama · May 2009

I wouldn't be able to handle it either. I've kept my mouth closed a week, (and not well considering I've told my best friends.....) and want to wait until next week ater my 1st Ob appt. It's tough. Our 1st pregnancy we told people really earlly I wasn't even 5 weeks yet.

Califlorida · May 2009

chile_chicken:
I know, I just keep thinking that five more weeks seems like forever! Plus my brother is making wedding plans and it is really awkward becuase they have set the date for about a week after my due date, but of course I cannot say anything about it yet!

oooh, i would tell because of the wedding.

chile_chicken · May 2009

We only found out the wedding date two days ago and it is out of town, but now they are coming back today saying the 20th February now as future SIL's mother had "issues" with the original date! So that's lucky.

thequeeenbee · May 2009

Waiting is never a bad idea... but I didn't even make it 15 minutes. I couldn't wait to tell my DH first (he was at work), so I went and told my best friend... and told her she had to pretend that she didn't know until he did. lol.

Mrs. Erin · May 2009

I told right away. I couldn't keep the secret. Big Smile

Temp785382312506150 · May 2009

We told at 5 weeks 2 days on Mother's Day. We initially wanted to wait unitl after our first appt. at least, but we couldn't keep it a secret any longer.

Hopefull11 · May 2009

Our parents, grandparents and siblings know. Will probably be telling friends and rest of family very soon. We couldn't keep it secret. I heard this saying once, If you live in the past you live in in depression, if you live in the future you live in fear, that is why you always should live in the present.

After hearing this I wanted to tell people. I know anything could happen and I may have to re-tell people. But I want to live in today and not worry about what could happen. Because that could drive a perosn crazy.

littlemaybaby · May 2009

We are waiting and it's killing me. Although it does get better with time. At 6 weeks, I thought I was going to burst. Now, I'm more used to the fact that there is a valid reason we aren't telling, and I can handle the thought of waiting a couple more weeks.

What's REALLY killing me is that my brother and his wife are due the week before me and they told EVERYONE as soon as they got their BFP. So everyone keeps asking me and DH how we feel about being an aunt and an uncle and when we are going to start trying for our own. I can not wait to see the look on everyone's faces when we tell them that our due dates are within a week of each other!

naflmj · May 2009

We will tell our parents this weekend if the 2nd beta comes back good...we went through IVF so everyone know's that it's a possibility and I'm not sure we will be able to keep it from them. We will probably tell other people between 8 and 12 weeks...I think when I hear the heart beat in 2 weeks I will feel better.

star678 · May 2009

We are telling in stages....

Only DH and I knew for a while, then I told my sister and he told his best friend. We waited until 6w2d to tell our parents on Mother's Day. Other friends and family are finding out as we see fit. I have some family members who I don't much care for, and they won't be finding out until July at 15w. My boss found out sort of by default but no one else at work will know until 11w.

ms_mellor · May 2009

With DD, we told parents & siblings (and my grandmother) right away, and waited to tell the rest of the family/friends etc till about 10/12 weeks (after our first u/s). I told work after 12 weeks, because that's when school started back up.

This time around we did the same, however my grandmother spilled the beans to the rest of my family (and then swore up and down she didn't...it was quite the event). My boss and a few co-workers know, as I ended up in the ER earlier this week with a stomach bug. My boss was so understanding that he has given me the rest of the week off to get better (which is good because I still can't stand for more than 5 minutes). I'm pretty sure people at work will be figuring it out.....they know we want another one, so the timing fits, and I've been exhausted lately, and people know.

We figured we should tell the people who's support we would need if something was to happen.

justrachet · May 2009

We were going to tell our parents at 6 weeks (last Thurs), but that night, we just didn't feel like telling yet! Before that night, I thought I was going to burst if I didn't tell. So we're going to wait until our 8 week u/s to tell.

But, my sister announced that she's 9 weeks pg last weekend - she had just found out. So I'm glad that we had not told our parents yet. She deserves to tell first. I did tell her, and made her swear secrecy. Just one more week till we have that u/s and tell everyone else!

It's kind of killing me now, though, because my cousin announced this week that she's pg, and she's due the day after me! AND 2 of DH's best friends are expecting, too, both due in Sept or Oct, I think. I have never known so many people pg at the same time!

LadyHollywood · May 2009

We found out we were pregnant 2 nights ago. We told our parents pretty much immediately. I told my closest friend, who is also a co-worker.

The tough thing, was that 8 of us office girls were going out for dinner last night.... Great timing! And if they saw I wasn't drinking a glass of wine, they would KNOW. My one friend who knew, we decided that we could sit next to each other, and since I drove anyway, she could just drink for both of our wine glasses, so it would appear I was drinking... Well, it worked on everyone except 2. So, at the end of the night, I had to let them in on the secret. Smile

I am hoping that we can keep it a secret from everyone else till June 11.... my first appointment. Wink

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