s/o obgyn, male or female?

tct1219 · May 2009

i think i'm in the minority because i sought out a male obgyn and i prefer a male dr. over a female one.

it's not like it would be a big deal if i had to go to a woman (if she were the best educated, i'd choose her) but i guess i just feel like men are nicer and more professional than women are sometimes.

i've had so many female teachers/ doctors/ etc. be rude and condescending to me in particular so i'm sure that's most of the reason.

do you have/ prefer a male or female obgyn?

christykell · May 2009

I don't have a preference either way.

Lexi0402 · May 2009

That's funny I think I'd prefer a male too for the above reasons. But my friend's rec. is female (and young too), which I think also leads to my reservations.

Whenever I think of trying out a few docs, it takes me back to the movie Knocked Up, where she kept trying out drs and they were all creepy.

Jenniemarie111 · May 2009

i have only had male drs and have been fine with that, but with that said i would be fine with a female as well.

ToshaGirl · May 2009

Doesn't matter to me.

sarah0925 · May 2009

I don't have an obgyn yet, but my friend who is a l/d nurse recommended that I seek a female dr. In her experience she said that male dr's have a tendency to induce labor faster while the female dr's give nature more time to take it's course.

Bcbscorp · May 2009

I like males, they usually respect that they truly have no clue how it feels and are more sympathetic.

My OB went on a long winded rant to DH about how he needs to do whatever I ask because if it were up to men to procreate it wouldn't happen. He asked my DH," would you really tolerate bleeding for four days? So how could you handle a baby? You couldn't!" I was cracking up!

Calypso312 · May 2009

I want a female for two reasons 1) I don't want any strange men between my legs. 2) No ute = no opinion. I just think that if I'm going to a gynecologist they should know what it's like to be...dare I say...on the other end of the speculum!

sarah0925 · May 2009

Bcbscorp:
I like males, they usually respect that they truly have no clue how it feels and are more sympathetic.

My OB went on a long winded rant to DH about how he needs to do whatever I ask because if it were up to men to procreate it wouldn't happen. He asked my DH," would you really tolerate bleeding for four days? So how could you handle a baby? You couldn't!" I was cracking up!

That is awesome! I think most men could use this speech!

Mrs. BZ · May 2009

female

bbjoys · May 2009

I think I would prefer a female, but would be open to a male, too.

My best friend was totally against a male when she got pregnant, but after meeting with one (with the intention of switching after the first appointment), she loved him and kept him. He was great throughout her pregnancy, and was awesome when she had her baby.

Bcbscorp · May 2009

sarah0925:
Bcbscorp:

I like males, they usually respect that they truly have no clue how it feels and are more sympathetic.

My OB went on a long winded rant to DH about how he needs to do whatever I ask because if it were up to men to procreate it wouldn't happen. He asked my DH," would you really tolerate bleeding for four days? So how could you handle a baby? You couldn't!" I was cracking up!

That is awesome! I think most men could use this speech!

Very True!

allinannie · May 2009

I also only wanted a male doctorf.?

i feel that men are nicer and more professional in the sense that to me women are much more emotional thinkers? which i guess can be an advantage however i'm jus more comfortable with a man. i wouldn't mind going to a ?female dr just chose a male instead.?

boxie · May 2009

No preference. Well, I think female would be best. I had a male one once when I was a teen, and let's just say for some crazy reason, the idea of taking off my pants and opening up my legs got things flowing. And I was sooo not turned on. I think it was just nerves. Anyway, I was so paranoid during the exam that he was thinking I was aroused. Which sorta made it worse.

MrsDT · May 2009

I prefer a female, I just feel like they "understand" more about what is going on since they have these female parts themselves. In my ob's practice there are more males than females and I have to see them all since any once could deliver me. It will be my first time seeing a male (which is fine with me, but I still prefer a female)

sazzette · May 2009

I don't care much about the gender but my 2 doctors are male.

Lexi0402 · May 2009

LOL this reminds me, I saw a female once when I was a teenager and while she was examining me, she tried to set me up with her son! She's like he's just about your age, I think you'd get along... SO weird!

Mrs.Wright · May 2009

Calypso312:
I want a female for two reasons 1) I don't want any strange men between my legs. 2) No ute = no opinion. I just think that if I'm going to a gynecologist they should know what it's like to be...dare I say...on the other end of the speculum!

Hilarious! Agreed, sing it sista'!

jessicasue87 · May 2009

female, I have had both and I much rather prefer female obgyns. my doc is much more understanding of what i am going through and my questions. she is much nicer than my old male doctor and i just prefer females because i am more comfortable with that.

bbjoys · May 2009

Lexi0402:
LOL this reminds me, I saw a female once when I was a teenager and while she was examining me, she tried to set me up with her son! She's like he's just about your age, I think you'd get along... SO weird!

That's so awkward. I would have been like, um, no... I would not want for a potential future MIL to be someone that has seen my vag in detail, TYVM.

Lexi0402 · May 2009

bbjoys:

Lexi0402:
LOL this reminds me, I saw a female once when I was a teenager and while she was examining me, she tried to set me up with her son! She's like he's just about your age, I think you'd get along... SO weird!

That's so awkward. I would have been like, um, no... I would not want for a potential future MIL to be someone that has seen my vag in detail, TYVM.

LOL she must have liked what she saw.

HJCarter · May 2009

I used to go to a female, but switched offices when I decided to TTC because my office was only GYN. The group I switched to is 9 men and 1 woman. I have to say the males are much more gentle doing paps than the women I have had!

uvalori85 · May 2009

I had a female dr in high school cuz I went to my family dr. But when I had my ectopic in 06 the dr was male and he did my f/u and I've gone to him ever since.

I like him the most because he said the reason he's an obgyn is because he feels really bad that women have so many different issues and he wants to help them. Plus, I think that because he doesn't have a ute, he can't have the "been there done there, so I know everything" attitude. He has a VERY calming manner about him... something I don't think most women could have with me. He truly has empathy for everything I'm thinking/feeeling/going through.

berryblndgirl · May 2009

I used to hate going to male doctors, but now I don't really have a preference. One of my friends who works in L&D said a male OB is better for delivery because men are stronger. The practice I go to is a husband and wife team, and the man is very kind and understanding. I haven't met his wife yet.

JennLuvsMatt · May 2009

I didn't have a preference. I see a male but have seen the two females in the practice when my dr was out for a delievery and I did not care of either one of them.

sassy0930 · May 2009

I prefer female, just out of principle, but I've seen a male too.

I lucked out with the doctor I just started going to. She's amazing.

I found out about her oddly though. My MIL is her kids' nanny! So I know quite a bit about her family and such.

rebelina1 · May 2009

My PCP is female. She has been DH's doctor for years and I started using her when we got married. My OBGYN is also female and she is great. It really doesn't matter to me as long as I think they are a good dotcor.

DD's Pediatrician is male and he is awesome!

Pamela05 · May 2009

Female, wouldn't even consider a man for that job.

EricsWife2005 · May 2009

The 2 women I have been to - couldn't stand.

My favorite was a man in Cbus. AWESOME. Would recommend him to anyone.

My MW - female - here was horrible. The male dr. was ok.

I am seeking out a new practice for the next pregnancy and my sil recommended her dr. who is a male.

KK2004 · May 2009

When I first started going I definitely felt more comfortable with a woman. I figured they have the same parts and therefore must know exactly what I'm going through if they have personal experience and the education to back it up.

My insurance changed and the closest OB is a male. I was nervous at the first appointment but after that I have been completely at ease with the guy. He really listens to what I have to say and has a way about him where he calms me down if I'm worried about something. I wouldn't trade him for the world now.