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does this sound right...re: visiting hours

jdavis0719jdavis0719
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So I just posted about how my c/s tomorrow go changed to 5pm. My doctors office told me to call the hospital and see what the visiting hours are since I am going in so late.

The lady on the phone tried telling me it will probably be around 8pm before I am in a pp room and visiting hours are over at 8pm so visitors shouldnt come until the next day. And my FI cant spend the night and needs to be gone by 9pm...really they want him to leave 4 hours after she is born!

Is this just what they have to say but they dont really stick to it??

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Re: does this sound right...re: visiting hours

  • ~Soleil~~Soleil~
    Why does FI need to leave? I thought the father has overnight privilages.
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  • Sweetgurl6630@yahoo.comSweetgurl6630@yahoo.com
    I am not sure. My hospital has a 24 hour visiting policy which is nice, but who knows. Why wouldn't your FI be able to spend the night? Because you're not married?
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  • AsianPrncssKimAsianPrncssKim

    I think this may differ from hospital to hospital. The hospital I'm delivering at has all private rooms, so visiting hours are 24 hours a day and they also have a pull out bed for H to sleep in.

    Can you check to see what the procedure for a private room would be? 

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  • rbidirbidi
    Depends on the nurses on the floor, and if you are in a shared room, your roommate. I'm pretty sure my dh stayed way past visiting hours, and the nurses didn't mind, and I didn't have a roommate the first night, so it was ok.  I've stayed in hospitals many times, and I've learned that visiting hours really depend on how much they enforce it.
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  • JasonsMauiMamaJasonsMauiMama

    Did you have a hospital tour? Are the rooms private? When I had DS, I had a semi-private room. DH only got to stay because the other bed was unoccupied.

    I hope your nurses will look the other way like mine did. GL.

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  • ExpatFamily06ExpatFamily06

    Hmm, are you also in the UK and going to the same hospital as me?

    They are the same way about visiting hours and it's driving me mental.  My dh would be allowed to stay and when the visiting hours are up he has to leave until they are open again in the morning.  I am scared to death to be myself especially because they also dont have a nursery so the baby will be with me from the get go.  Even if I want to go take a shower I have to take him with me...to the community shower.  Siiigh.

    Sorry your hospital is sucky as well Sad

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  • Jamie SonnenleiterJamie Sonnenleiter
    I've never heard of the baby's father having to leave.  Usually they have all access to you and the baby.  They just can't take the baby from hospital.
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  • IselaCidIselaCid member
    I'm shocked that some hospitals don't allow the father to stay the night with the mom!
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  • jdavis0719jdavis0719
    There are no priavte rooms at this hospital so I am pretty sure that is why he cant spend the night, but come on the first night hours after she is born they expect him to leave!!! They will definately be getting a fight from me if they dont just let him stay
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  • JasonsMauiMamaJasonsMauiMama
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    They also dont have a nursery so the baby will be with me from the get go.  Even if I want to go take a shower I have to take him with me...to the community shower.  Siiigh.

    Wowwwww. I have no other words....Wowwwww

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  • ExpatFamily06ExpatFamily06
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    They also dont have a nursery so the baby will be with me from the get go.  Even if I want to go take a shower I have to take him with me...to the community shower.  Siiigh.

    Wowwwww. I have no other words....Wowwwww

      Oh yeah. I had a good crying session the other night when I found out all of the details, besides this, about what to expect when I go there.    I am seriously considering having a home birth just to forego (sp?) being in a hospital here.  And apparently, this is all normal.
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  • julygaljulygal
    I think it depends on the hospital.  It also depends on if you have a private or shared room.  The hospital we had DD in and DH had his heart surgery in had posted hours.  However, we found those were only strictly enforced when someone complained.  For instance, on the cardiac floor children under the age of 12 weren't allowed after 6, so when DD began crying one night the nurse came in a short bit later, saying "I'm sorry but you are going to have to take the baby home.  We've gotten complaints.  However, it looks like you just got her settled down, so say your good-byes and leave soon."  They knew us at that point and didn't care about DD being in the room after 6, but that one night she cried other patients cared so the staff had to.  KWIM.
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  • JasonsMauiMamaJasonsMauiMama
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    They also dont have a nursery so the baby will be with me from the get go.  Even if I want to go take a shower I have to take him with me...to the community shower.  Siiigh.

    Wowwwww. I have no other words....Wowwwww

      Oh yeah. I had a good crying session the other night when I found out all of the details, besides this, about what to expect when I go there.    I am seriously considering having a home birth just to forego (sp?) being in a hospital here.  And apparently, this is all normal.

    Oh, hon, I'm sorry to hear that your hospital is like that! I don't blame you for considering a home birth. <<hugs>>

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  • Nicolemay26th07Nicolemay26th07
    He has to leave for the night??? are they serious?
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  • CalinsBrideCalinsBride
    My hospital's visiting hours are over at 8, which I am grateful for. However, my husband certainly does not have to abide by that. He is allowed to be there 24 hours, he is one of my baby's legal guardians. I would seriously question them on this, that sounds really jacked up. I was fairly certain that parents of minor children never have to abide by visiting hours if their kid is in the hospital.
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  • grinsandgigglesgrinsandgiggles member

    At my hospital, visiting hours are also over at 8pm, but the father gets to stay if he wants.  We also have private rooms though, that may make a difference.  We also can get permission for others to come in after 8pm, through the ER entrance, if needed. 

    I highly doubt they will make him leave, I'm sure somebody just didn't have the info down right.  

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  • Belle15Belle15
    Our hosp the father and siblings have 24 hr visiting, all others it's 2-830.  Seems strange that they would make him leave at 9..maybe since you're having surgery? 
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  • Jimsgirl5821Jimsgirl5821

    My hospital on their website makes a point of showing how the rooms have a fold out bed in them in case your husband or a family member or whoever wants to stay...I would double check with them. I've never heard of a partner having to leave

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