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momofolivia · May 2009

DH uses the word "butt" and has taught Olivia to pat her bottom when he asks her "where's your butt?" I said, don't you think "bum" or "bottom" or "behind" is a little more appropriate for a toddler?

Out of the argument scale, this is about a level 1, so just humor me.

He thinks there is nothing wrong with butt. I think it is common, but crass. This is the scale that I came up with to show a relativity of bad language.

Pooh/Poop = bum = not bad language at all
Crap = Butt = borderline - wouldn't say it in church
Shiit = A$$ = would not say in front of DD

He disagrees with my scale. I need back up (not that it will change his mind).

P.s. don't tell him, but it was pretty cute when she started patting her butt, er, bum when he asked.

brightning · May 2009

In my mind, crap is way worse than butt. I'm sort of OK with butt, but I agree that it's crass.

I have DD say bottom, though I'm guilty of saying butt around her. I never say crap around her.

When I taught school, I said tush/heiney/bottom.

brittneycc1982 · May 2009

I think butt is totally fine, that's what DD knows it as. She also knows boob, not breast.

jessicada76 · May 2009

Well, I try to say bottom but (no pun intended) all too often find myself saying butt. She could be saying worse - he could say "where's your ass!" So if that is the worst thing your child says - then be thankful! Anyway, I would say bottom is best but butt isn't the end of the world! You are both right....lol

I will tell Paige "Paige how does Mommy smack her bottom?" and she will smack herself on the bottom!...lol. I don't really hit her but I told Mom if she does that out in public I am going to be turned into CPS!....lol She will also smack her hand if she is doing something bad. I came downstairs and she was getting in the cabinet and I said "WHAT ARE YOU DOING!" in a loud voice and she turned real quick and smacked her hand.....lol. Seriously I don't beat this child! :-)

jessicada76 · May 2009

brittneycc1982:
I think butt is totally fine, that's what DD knows it as. She also knows boob, not breast.

LOL! Same here! I can ask Paige where her "boobies" are and she will pull her nipples.....lol

soontobecapek · May 2009

while I agree, it is a little inappropriate at this age since they dont know "oh we don't say butt in church" or whatever... I have to admit I always ask DS if he needs a butt change... and he grabs a diaper, his butt and lays down if he does and shakes his head no if he doesn't I think it's super cute, and didn't even think about it not being an appropriate word for everyday use.

Sept17.05Bride · May 2009

I don't think that saying butt is bad. I always ask DS if he needs his butt changed.

FaeryStarGazer · May 2009

We say butt. Actually, we say butt-butt. I don't think it's crass. I personally say "crap" often, but not like, "Lilly, did you crap your pants?!" I don't think butt is a 'bad word' bc it IS your butt, kwim? I think making up a word for the child to learn is worse. I have a friend who won't say pee or say go potty or go to the bathroom-- she has a three and a half year old and she constantly says, "Sweetheart, do you have to tee-tee?" that drives me batty Crying

jessicada76 · May 2009

FaeryStarGazer:
We say butt. Actually, we say butt-butt. I don't think it's crass. I personally say "crap" often, but not like, "Lilly, did you crap your pants?!" I don't think butt is a 'bad word' bc it IS your butt, kwim? I think making up a word for the child to learn is worse. I have a friend who won't say pee or say go potty or go to the bathroom-- she has a three and a half year old and she constantly says, "Sweetheart, do you have to tee-tee?" that drives me batty

Well, if you really want to get technical it is your gluteus maximus - now try teaching your toddler that!......LMAO!

cands · May 2009

We say butt to the girls as in "sit on your butt", but I wouldn't say crap in front of them.

marriedchick06 · May 2009

DD says butt (or we say where is your butt) so I see nothing wrong with it. I wouldn't as her where her a$$ is though. lol. She also knows boobs and not breast!

Halo79RN · May 2009

did my mom write this???? she would say bottom or patootie.

I say butt, bottom, patootie... whatever. I don't think of butt being a bad word, even borderline. if they start calling a person a butt, then I will correct them.

dd also says boobies. or boob. just b/c I do. and I'm a nurse! lol. she'll come right up to me and point, "you have boobs, momma." Yes, I have boobs... enormous ones now, that's to you. thankfully she has not done this in public, yet.

MamaNikki · May 2009

Well, I'd agree with you that bottom/behind/hiney would be more appropriate. Yet, I don't think that butt is too terrible either. Although a bit crass, like you and PP have said.

We say "booty." lol. I am sure there have been times where we've said butt too, but most of the time it's booty.

My sister has had to try and remove "butt" from my nephew's vocabulary. He is almost 4 and about a year ago, got to that age where butts and poops became "funny" words and would scream them in public to try and get a laugh. Or would call people those names and laugh. Now he tells me, "Nikki, we don't say butt or poop." So now we ALL try not to say it.

neverblushed · May 2009

I think you are in the right here, not your DH. Here's why: toddlers just repeat what they hear, so if you normally say "butt" or "crap", they'll say "butt" and "crap" in public. Now, as this thread clearly shows, most people don't think "butt" is a cuss word, but not all people are comfortable with a little kid saying "butt". I didn't want my children being judged by strangers when they were too little to understand and correctly choose whether to use "butt" or "crap". So we just used the most inoffensive word all the time.

Once my kids were older, and could understand the concept of "polite talk" vs. "potty talk", and understand that potty talk was only for casual situations with friends or family, I allowed them to use words like "butt" and "fart".

When they were little, we used "bottom" and "toot".

jessicada76 · May 2009

neverblushed:

I think you are in the right here, not your DH. Here's why: toddlers just repeat what they hear, so if you normally say "butt" or "crap", they'll say "butt" and "crap" in public. Now, as this thread clearly shows, most people don't think "butt" is a cuss word, but not all people are comfortable with a little kid saying "butt". I didn't want my children being judged by strangers when they were too little to understand and correctly choose whether to use "butt" or "crap". So we just used the most inoffensive word all the time.

Once my kids were older, and could understand the concept of "polite talk" vs. "potty talk", and understand that potty talk was only for casual situations with friends or family, I allowed them to use words like "butt" and "fart".

When they were little, we used "bottom" and "toot".

I agree with you except it won't be the kids being judged it will be the parents - the kids learned it somewhere! - LOL!

bridesrighthand · May 2009

I think crap is worse than butt. I would say butt in church.

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