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Help =/ (kind of long)

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since my family found out that I was pregnant, the topic/question of godparents has been bought up over and over. My finace and I have not yet made any decisions but my cousin took it upon her self to announce to my family and friends that she was godmother.

Truth is, is that i dont want her to be godmother at all. She has been completely unsupportive and ever since she found out that i was pregnant hasnt really talked to me b/c "im not allowed to go out"

How do i tell her, w/o sounding like a b**** , that i dont want her to be godmother?

 

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  • katorigasukikatorigasuki member

    just tell the person you want to be godmother and leave it at that.

     

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  • miss_beckmanmiss_beckman member

    I've had this happen with my DS- and even confronting her didn't stop her from saying it.

    When you decide on who the godparents are-and when you're tellling people- make sure it's clear that she isn't one of them. "Our Godparents are DH's brother Jeff, and My sister Kristi. no one else" for example.

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  • Amy MerrymanAmy Merryman
    we made it clear to the family that because of the "fighting over the title" we decided to go with close friends.
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  • krissyh21krissyh21 member
    I would first call her and tell her at this point you have not decided who the godparents are yet and it is a big decision that both you and your fiancee has several months to think about. THEN when the time comes tell her who is the Godmother and leave it at that.
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  • Temp785382312506150Temp785382312506150 member
    imagekatorigasuki:

    just tell the person you want to be godmother and leave it at that.

     

    This.

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  • AbsoluteLMAbsoluteLM member
    This is always a tough situation! While it sucks, I think the best advice is what krissyh21 said. Let her know that you and DH need to make the decision together and you'll get to that bridge when you cross it.  Who knows, you might choose a godmother from DH's family and a godfather from your side, so that would leave her out of the running by default!
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  • candy_mandy85candy_mandy85 member
    Oh wow that is crazy, I would let her know that currently you have not decided on who will be the godmother but say that you and your DH will decide together and right now you haven't so it is unfair for her to claim that title.?
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  • neonvicki81neonvicki81
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    imagekatorigasuki:

    just tell the person you want to be godmother and leave it at that.

     

    This.

    I would say, if you want to, you can always say "and you'll have a special place in our baby's life as well. We hope that you will come see the baby when its born/babysit/etc" if that works for you...otherwise, just ignore it. Probably a jealousy thing on her part! Or an attention drawing thing!

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  • userdeleteduserdeleted member
    imagekatorigasuki:

    just tell the person you want to be godmother and leave it at that.

    Ditto. She's being weird. I would completely ignore it. 

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