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PMBridetobe
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Married and it feels so good!
~!~! TTC Checkin ~!~!
PMBridetobe
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Good Morning Lovely Ladies!
How is everyone doing today? I hope that everyone is doing well and enjoying our nice weather!
Please feel free to provide updates, even if your not TTC just yet or are adopting! We want to share in your joy and help you through your sorrows.
QOTW: Are you keeping TTC/adoption plans to yourselves? If so, what helped you make that decision? If not, what has been the reaction to the news.
As always, we are keeping each and everyone in our thoughts and prayers.
Married and it feels so good!
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Re: ~!~! TTC Checkin ~!~!
CD something.... Cyst watch continues. Last month there were 3 and now we are back to 2. The 2 concern Dr. V so we are on to another 3 weeks of the pill. If they do not vacate or do not make signficant progress towards shrinking, I have a date with the OR on June 12th. In other news, we got some encouraging news for DH and it involves possible surgery for him but it is positive. Onward and upward, is what I keep telling myself.
Lots of sticky baby dust to all the new BFP's and Baby Dust to all of you lovely ladies on this roller coaster ride!
Married and it feels so good!
we're thinking of you PMBride. No surgery dust for you! I'm glad you've got positive news about DH!
nothing to report really since we're still waiting. i'm getting more and more anxious day by day. QOTW: Generally I've not been sharing our plans and just saying that we might start TTC in the next year or two. I don't intend on telling people we're trying... I don't want to constantly be asked if I'm PG yet! Families are getting anxious and starting to actually ask us with some frequency...
Sending big hugs to PMbride and praying that you won't need any surgery but if you do, it goes well.
QOTW: In the past we have been pretty open about our strugles, fertility treatments and adoption plans. However, in the past two weeks we have made some very big decisions and have decided that going forward we are going to keep everything to ourselves. Going through everything that we have been through has been really hard on us and it is also hard on those around us to watch us go through this. We don't want this to effect everyone negatively anymore. Also, we kind of feel like we want it to just be between us going forward, that way when we do have good news, everyone will be super surprised and it will be wonderful. Keeping it between us also seems to help us focus on each other and keeping our marriage the top priority. I will admit that in the past, the infertility has taken a very hard toll on our marriage and at one point almost destroyed it. We are a different couple now and I think that knowing that we only have each other to talk to really opens up the lines of communication. Now that we have made the decisions that we have, we have been talking about it daily to check in with each other about feelings, anxieties, etc. It has made such a huge difference in how we look at and approach this journey. So, with all of that being said, Im going to hold my updates until I have super amazing miracle news to share!
Big giant hugs to everyone and you all are in my prayers.
I'm still getting to know all of you over here on the baby board, but I wish all of you well and look forward to becoming better acquainted with your stories.
This is pretty repetitive of my past updates:
We are not planning to TTC until the fall, but I am excited that I just went off the pill. The plan is to give the bod time to regulate before TTC, and charting enough months that I can see a pattern. (Plus, even if we could get pregnant sooner, DH wants to wait until at least Sept. after buying the house etc.) I also bought a thermometer yesterday, so I'm looking forward to starting charting. I've been pretty open about our TTC plans, at least to my family, as I am rather forthcoming in general. For friends and certain other family members, I'm keeping it vague for the surprise factor. If we encounter challenges, I'm also guessing I'd keep that between us (and probably this board
)
Thinking about everyone and good luck!
QOTW: Well... we don't even really know what our plans are. What we tell people varies between "Maybe in a few years," "Not for a WHILE," "Someday," and "Who knows?" The reaction has mainly been "You're still young, you have plenty of time!" I'm still working on having a serious conversation with DH about it. He's said in the past that he'd almost rather not overthink it and just wait until we accidentally get PG. But... being on the Pill, an accident is not likely to happen, plus I'm a planner so I really want to nail down a time frame. I'm not on BC this month because I forgot to refill my prescription and didn't remember until it was time to start the new pack... It's CD 14 or so, so I'm thinking that by the time it arrives it'll be too late to start a new pack and I'll just wait until the next cycle. We toured Singapore on Sunday and were very careful, but I was honestly wishing we were a little less responsible!
BFP 12.20.2010 :: missed m/c 1/2011 around 8 weeks
BFP @ 9dpo 5.24.2011 :: missed m/c 6/2011 around 7 weeks
positive for ANAs (1:40) with a speckled pattern
MTHFR c677t mutation (heterozygous)
*folic acid, baby asprin, Prometrium, acupuncture, Lovenox*
BFP @ 9dpo 2.1.2012 || HCG = 8 : Progesterone = 19.2
2nd HCG @ 11dpo = 40 || 3rd HCG @ 21dpo = over 5000!
Stick, little one, stick! EDD October 15, 2012
CD 22 for me. Hopefully 7 more days till AF appears and then CD1 of TTC #2! I'm almost sad that we didn't just go for it this month because I almost feel like this egg was screaming to be fertilized. But it's just as well because had I gotten pregnant this month DS and #2 would pretty much have shared a birthday and we want DS to have his own (even though he shares it with his Uncle!).
I'm almost hesitant to TTC this next cycle just to give us a break between birthdays. Christmas, DS's birthday, my birthday, #2's birthday (if it happens sooner then later), then my Dad's and nephews are back to back to back that we're about broke by May! But I just can't wait a day longer to start this new journey in TTC #2. So I guess we'll just have to be good saver if it happens for us next month!
Everyone has been asking us for months when we're going to start trying for #2. We're pretty vauge about it. I've had a m/c before and it was awful having to tell everyone. So we're trying to keep our plans on the DL so that when I am pregnant I can wait out the 1st trimester before announcing!
Good luck to everyone!
Liam is 5!
Update: It looks like I will be getting off of BC starting in about 5 days... eek! The plan is to get off, start charting, and in a month possibly start ttc. Although it all depends on my job. If I stay we'll ttc. If I leave, we might have to wait. I also need to do some more research on this insurance thing, cloth diapers, and buying used items... oi. But we've got our spending/saving plan ready and we're just waiting for our tax return to put it all into motion.
QOTW: Back when we first thought we were going to ttc I had told my mom. Let's just say that the reaction was less than exciting, at the most. So, this time, I'm pretty much keeping everything to myself. I've told my best friend and my sister in law, that's it. SIL already has a baby so we've been talking a lot about it.
Big Big hugs! I am so glad that you and DH made the right decision for you all. Just because you wont update us, please do keep in touch! You are in my prayers and never far from my thoughts.
PS: One of these days, we need to get together and have some margaritas!
Married and it feels so good!
I am thinking about and praying for you all. Big hugs to everyone.
austxgrl - Extra big hugs to you. I can't wait to hear your super amazing miracle news.
Lots of love to everyone, especially pmbride and austxgirl. You guys are always in my thoughts.
QOTW: I doubt I will tell anyone other than this board about TTC. I don't need the stress or pressure and would rather it be a surprise for our families. I also don't want to hear comments from anyone who thinks that we should wait until I finish my Ph.D. if we decide to TTC before I finish. I am also not very likely to tell many people before 12 weeks, just to be on the safe side, but it will be a miracle if DH could wait that long. Let's just say that he's not so good with keeping secrets.
Update: Nothing new. My charting for this month is totally screwed up due to traveling for the last two weeks. On to the next cycle to see if that one works out better!
I found out yesterday that one of my colleagues from school died very tragically. I am very sad about it and will miss her--she was such a vibrant and wonderful person-- and it's made me think a little about my own mortality and how each day is a gift. (I know that these are cliches, but they do help me in mourning-- she was my age). I keep thinking of the Christopher Marlowe sonnet lines "Gather ye rosebuds while ye may, Old time is still a-flying. And this same flower that smiles today, Tomorrow will be dying." It makes me sad that it takes someone's death to remind me of the value of living life fully and I don't want to forget it.
Hugs and dust to everyone trying!
I know I said I wasn't going to check-in, but things are going better and I think it's good if I do. Not much to update, my mood has improved and on Sunday I got kind of a wake up call. My cousin committed suicide (I can finally say it without bursting into tears) and it has been so very hard on all of our family. He was only 31 and it's just heartbreaking. So I'm snapping myself out of it and knowing my family is behind me even though they're far away. And I miss my cousin so much it hurts. Our future son (if we have one) will have his middle name as his first name.
QOTW: We won't be telling anybody IRL. Well, my mom knows we're considering TTC next year, but she thinks that's after our anniversary next June. So if we get pg before that she'll be very surprised. Still waiting until January to start trying.
ETA: AustinMimi I'm so sorry about your friend
I know losing someone is so hard. Let me know if you need anything.
Thank you. I really appreciate it. In my jetlagged haze, I am not sure if I told you how sorry I am to hear about your cousin. Likewise, let me know if you need anything. (((hugs)))
I am really glad that you are feeling better. Keep talking to us and we are here for you.
Married and it feels so good!
So we're kind of trying but not quite yet because DH doesn't want to get me pregnant for another 4 weeks when my body replenishes the blood I donated at the beginning of the month. So in the meantime I have finally started charting. I at day 14 and confused out of my mind about charting. It looked so easy on the tuturial to be able to read your chart but mine keeps dipping and spiking. It's driving me nuts.
QOTW: My parents don't seem interested or seem to care about having grandchildren so I don't really tell them very much.
I talk to my MIL more about these things because she is very anxious to have a grandchild and I feel like I can ask her questions more openly than I could with my mom. I feel very in the dark about the whole process of trying to conceive. I've said it before and I'll say it again. I've also told my MIL that at some point I would like to adopt a child because I feel bad bringing another life into the world when there are so many other children that need to be loved. She encouraged me to at least have one biological child and then she would love an adopted grandchild as if it were biological. So we'll see.