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blessedinthewest
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Vacation without SD's
blessedinthewest
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SO and I are planning to go on a vacation. We have not confirmed or purchased anything yet. But initially the plan was for a vacation for the two of us.
But I am now starting to feel guilty about not taking his daughters. I think it would be nice to have them but for one I'm not really sure we can afford it. And for two we would all have to stay in the same room so that means no alone time for us which was really the purpose of the vacation. Since we will no longer really have alone time once the baby comes.
We are taking the girls on a short vacation to Telluride this summer for a wedding.
Thoughts?
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Re: Vacation without SD's
I think if you are going on a cruise with a "big group of family" you should take the girls.
If you are going away on a romantic interlude you needn't take them.
You do have a point there. I guess the whole cruise is why I started having the guilty feelings...
My parents went on vacations a few times with out us. They had no qualms about pointing out to us that their relationship and their alone time trumps us every time. Of course we all went on vacations together as well.
Either way, sometimes it is important for kids to know they're not the priority in life. Too many parents put the kids at the top of the food chain and it's not right. Enjoy some time to yourselves.
I say go for it.
My DH and I go away a couple of times a year by ourselves, my daughter understands that sometimes her step-father and I need time together. I also spend time with my DD on our own, and the three of us go away together as well.
My DD has never had an issue with it aside from a little whining. We bring her back something cute and she is fine. lol.
My mom and step dad went on trips wiithout us ALL the time!!! Seriously, all the time. They even eloped to Hawaii for their marriage without us...LOL.
On that note, we went on two family vacations every year (one summer, one winter) then they planned their vacations during our school year & would leave us with an aunt.
Did it piss us off? Yeah, for a minute. We forgot about it soon.
I would go alone with your hubby... Once the baby comes - you can do family trips. But I think that it is so very important to have alone DH/DW (dear wife?) time! And you dont need to justify anything to your SD's. You guys need adult time, its done.
Cruises are great
I love them! Have a fantastic time!
Go and enjoy!!!
You have to have some alone time now and then!
Go without them. There's nothing wrong with them seeing their father treat his W nicely, and making time for the two of you. Especially if the purpose is time for you and H, then you need just that.
Take the girls on a smaller/cheaper vacation and I am sure they'll love it just as much.
If the cruise (as mentioned in another post) is a "family event", then you take your family. ?Your SD's are your family. ?You get adjoining rooms and you bring them. ?I am assuming that this "big family thing" consists of your family members. ?Since you are not married to your baby's father and you are adding a new child to the mix with your SDs, I think that including them on a family cruise is a worthwhile way to make them feel truly part of your family.?
We have taken many family trips with SS - even before the twins were born. On the same note we have taken a few without SS - before the twins were born. We have gone and will go on trips without the twins. (Didn't take them to NY and won't take them or SS to Chicago in August).
If it's pricey then you and your DH should enjoy - you already stated you're taking them on a trip this summer.