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So pissed at stupid work people!
So my co-worker is pregnant, due in late June/early July. A few weeks ago, they were asking about me throwing a baby shower for her. My off the record response was that I would try and participate in the shower as an attendee, but for personal reasons, it would be very difficult for me to do much of the planning. And that was that.
Well, I just got a call from another co-worker (who I'm pretty close to), and she was using this really low, whispered voice. I asked her what was up, and she said she wanted to give me the heads up about something. Apparently that b*tch that I replied to about not being able to throw the shower forwarded my email to our department head (my boss' boss, I guess), and now there's this big thing going around about why I can't do it, and what the issue is.
UGH, WTF?! My friend/co-worker is on her way over to my office right now so that we can chat a bit. I don't know what else was said, and who else knows about this right now.
I'm beyond pissed. 
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Re: So pissed at stupid work people!
Wow. Sounds like your company is a bunch of nosey bastards.
*edit* I'm sorry that your privacy is being questioned. That sucks. You have every right to be pissedthef**off.
Oh I would rip her a new one! WTF is her problem and how dare she take something personal and make it professional.
You have every right to throat punch her!
that's terrible!! i would just tell them you are very busy at home and won't have the extra time to invest in planning the shower, but would love to pitch in when it is planned.
people can be so cruel and drama filled.?
I guess I should have just called her and told her over the phone, rather than write an email. But still, in the email I was very specific and said it was a personal matter, and it was to be off the record.
Stupid b*tch.
This. I second the throat punch.
When its personal you shouldn't have to explain yourself, she should have respected your answer and moved on asking the next coworker in line!
Ditto!
OMG! The Nerve! And if you need help ripping her a new one, I'd be glad to help!
Thank you IVF for our little miracles!!
Thanks, girls.
I'm hesitant to call her out on it because I don't want to bring any more drama to the situation as it is.
My co-worker/friend told me that my boss' boss went and talked to my direct boss about this situation. Ugh. I'm so annoyed.
If anyone comes to talk to me about this, I'm just going to tell them that it is "personal" and leave it at that. If people have to nerve to ask me for more details or anything, I'm seriously going to tell them off.
Do people not understand what "personal" means??
This!
WOW. that is obnoxious! plus, how is it now going around the office?? personal means personal... HR would have a field day with this one.
this is why office baby showers are a bad idea anyway. not everyone at the office is friends outside of work and baby showers should be with friends and family IMO.
Anyway, sorry this happened to you, I think you are right not to stir the pot more and just let it go, but if anyone says anything stand your ground. And of course, feel free to throat punch that b!tch
Thanks, Katey.
And I agree. I think baby showers at work are a little much. I think if a few of your co-workers that you are closer to want to do it, they can take the lead and do it, and only invite those that wish to be a part of it. But in this situation, it's become a sort of obligation, which it shouldn't be since it's so personal.
So my co-worker (the friend) said that my boss' boss actually asked her if she knew "what was up with me," and if I have had a m/c or something like that before. My uterus and what it's been through is none of anyone's business, especially not at work!
I think a throatpunch is in order.
This is sooo beyond the bounds of "professional." Unless your job title is "party planner" this is not part of your job description. A polite "no, thank you" should be left at that. Who cares if it is for personal reasons or just because you don't want to do it, a no is a no.
Having said that, I would be beyong p!ssed at the co-worker who fowarded the information. I know you don't want to bring more drama to the situation, but that is something that I just would not be able to let go. Still, I would share no details that you don't want to discuss.